Did you know the ability to focus is one of the most basic needs for success? Many believe they have this capability yet further analysis quickly reveals they do not. We are in the age of instant messenging, cell phones, and Internet on the run. With all those things going on around us, it is easy to get distracted.
I once heard a quote on M*A*S*H that made a lot of sense. Winchester, the uptight Bostonian doctor, told the others that "he does one thing at a time, he does it well, then he moves on". This is a sound aspiration to have. The ability to focus our complete attention on one activity makes us much stronger.
Multi-tasking seems to be the mantra of the day. The problem with this idea is that the brain has the ability to only focus on one thing at a time (at the conscious level). Multi-tasking only serves to split our attention between two (or more) details. Simple division will lead you to understand that concentrating on two things at one time will make you 50% effective.
Actually, this idea is a bit misleading. As mentioned, the mind can only focus on one thing at a time. When you have two things going simultaneously, your attention truly switches back and forth between the two activities. Therefore, the mind is in 100% concentration yet it is constantly starting and stopping. This leads to ineffectiveness. The concept of momentum is another powerful tool for success and it is impossible to generate while switching in this manner.
To take your life to the next level, start to harness the power of the mind. Focusing on one thing at a time is how that is accomplished. This will take practice to develop the discipline. We are so trained to mentally be in many different areas at one time. For example, how many web browser do you have open at this moment? Obviously you can only view one page at a time. Nevertheless, most people have more than one tab open. Add to that the fact that the instant messenger is on and you can see how getting anything accomplished is tested.
The best way to start is to turn all that stuff of. Shut off the television, close the web browsers, and instant messenger to reduce distractions. Focus on only doing what is directly in front of you with complete attention. You will quickly notice how much more effective you are. Also, an added bonus is realized: you will get things done in a shorter period of time. The momentum developed by concentrating on one activity allows you to garner all the power of your mind. This is the foundation of success.
Friday, July 31, 2009
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Getting Started
This is one of the fundamentals of success. Nothing is ever accomplished if you never get started. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step (or something like that). Thus, we are going to look at the concept of taking the first action.
Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.
Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.
Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.
Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.
Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.
Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.
To your success.
Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.
Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.
Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.
Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.
Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.
Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.
To your success.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
All People Are Not Equal
The Founding Fathers of the United States believed that all men are created equal. This is a fundamental premise of our system of justice. This is a belief that I hold true also. All of us are created with the same inalienable rights. However, that is where the equality stops.
Not all "men" are equal. It is a simple fact that some people make a much bigger impact on society and those around them. The idea that all people contribute the same is insane to me. Therefore, I feel it is an honest approach to look at what one does with his or her life.
Look at examples such as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King, or Mother Teresa. Compare them to the likes of the local drug addict, crack whore, or pimp. Does the life of a career criminal hold any merit when contrasted with the wonderful achievements of an inner city counselor, youth minister, or teacher? The answer is no. Some choose to do something with the opportunities they are given in life. Others elect to throw it all away.
Where do you stand on this scale? Most people fall between the two extremes. Few of us attain such remarkable achievements that we become a household name. At the same time, we tend to keep our screw ups to a minimum while not making a career out of bad choices. Overall, we do our best and contribute where we can.
The idea behind sexual motivation is to lift your life to the next level. Wherever you are at in this moment, your life can move another step higher. For most, the required ingredient is action. Using the inbred desire called sex allows us to motivate ourselves to take action. Thinking about the sexual payoff will stimulate this behavior more than any other thought process I know. After all, we all love sex.
Consider this idea when you look at the people you encounter on a daily basis. How could their life be better? What contributions are they failing to make because they will not take action? Reflect with this same mindset upon your life. Determine where you can better apply these ideas. It is time that you move your life to another level.
Not all "men" are equal. It is a simple fact that some people make a much bigger impact on society and those around them. The idea that all people contribute the same is insane to me. Therefore, I feel it is an honest approach to look at what one does with his or her life.
Look at examples such as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King, or Mother Teresa. Compare them to the likes of the local drug addict, crack whore, or pimp. Does the life of a career criminal hold any merit when contrasted with the wonderful achievements of an inner city counselor, youth minister, or teacher? The answer is no. Some choose to do something with the opportunities they are given in life. Others elect to throw it all away.
Where do you stand on this scale? Most people fall between the two extremes. Few of us attain such remarkable achievements that we become a household name. At the same time, we tend to keep our screw ups to a minimum while not making a career out of bad choices. Overall, we do our best and contribute where we can.
The idea behind sexual motivation is to lift your life to the next level. Wherever you are at in this moment, your life can move another step higher. For most, the required ingredient is action. Using the inbred desire called sex allows us to motivate ourselves to take action. Thinking about the sexual payoff will stimulate this behavior more than any other thought process I know. After all, we all love sex.
Consider this idea when you look at the people you encounter on a daily basis. How could their life be better? What contributions are they failing to make because they will not take action? Reflect with this same mindset upon your life. Determine where you can better apply these ideas. It is time that you move your life to another level.
Monday, July 20, 2009
Creating Your Life-Start With Sex
People are often wondering how they can change their lives. They spend thousands of dollars on products in an effort to find that magical nugget which will completely transform their lives. Sadly, for most, they never uncover it. Instead, they follow the same path of "quiet desperation" that was the theme their entire life.
My belief is that most people lead lives that someone else chose for them. Few people ever take the time to consider how they got where they are. Going one step further, almost nobody ever questions how their belief system arose. Instead, they simply take for granted that what they believe is correct. Well, how did those beliefs get there? The answer is someone else ingrained them in that person's head.
Societal conditioning is one of the most powerful external forces we will ever face. It comes at us from all sides. When you look at the development of a child, there are numerous influences upon him or her which leave lasting impressions. In short, the entire thought process is created by others. These people are parents, teachers, religious folks, politicians, and peers. Simply put, we are a product of our environment.
Why do people in Boston root for the Red Sox as opposed to the Yankees? Why do we believe in equal rights while those followers of Islam consider women second class citizens? The answer is that people are conditioned by others to believe what they do.
Society has a way of taking complete control of a person's life. Most people, in this country at least, end up married. Why is that? The reason is that is what is expected of people. An alternative choice is not readily offered. People who choose the "single" lifestyle are questioned whether they are gay or not. Hell, now even the gays are asking for marriage. It is societies magical elixir. It is what "normal" people do.
We are also taught to be responsible by getting a good education, going to work, and paying our bills. This is what good citizens do. Few are taught techniques which will promote financial freedom. Society wants us to take the conservative road because, as the recent economic crisis shows, wide-spread gambling by a culture can have catastrophic consequences. Nevertheless, most people follow these tenets precisely.
Even our sex lives are determined for us although few ever consider this reality. The majority of people are heterosexual. I believe this is something that is biological. However, there still exists a great prejudice against people who are homosexual although that stigma is diminishing. The same is true for transsexuals, polygamists, and people into S&M. They are called perverts and shunned. That there is something wrong with those people is the common belief. They do not fit into society's idea of "normal.
Even in the heterosexual arena sexual behavior is dictated by others. The conditioning applies to people in all walks of life. There is a belief which determines how people are to behave sexually. Even in the privacy of their own bedroom, they are still influenced by what is deemed appropriate by others.
I once had a relationship with a woman which became sexual. This woman was from a strict religious background meaning that our sexual encounters were a sin (according to her belief). Also, she has it in her mind that sex was only suppose to go to a point. In other words, she had a preconceived notion of what "good girls" did. Her idea limited her lack of willingness to stray into anything she considered deviant. This made for an extremely boring sex life. Of course, believing anything different then what she was taught was unfathomable to this person.
Here is where you can begin to take control of your life. If you truly want to create a life that is yours, start by creating the sex life you desire. Consider all the sexual possibilities that exist in the world. Do you want polygamy? Does swinging interest you? Are you bi? Is the wonderful world of BDSM of interest to you? These are all sexual practices engaged in by normal people everyday. If they are of interest to you, why aren't you pursuing them? The time has come for you to decide what you want.
Being sexually honest with yourself takes courage. Everywhere you turn in society, there is some faction telling you to go against what is true to you. Remember, stability is what society is after. That is why it conditions people the way that it does. If you have fallen victim to this mindset, start by questioning how you live your sex life. You will be amazed how much influence others have on your "private" act.
Sunday, July 19, 2009
Sex Game To Motivate
There is a very simple way to get yourself to take action: enlist someone to have sex with you if you complete it. For 95% of the people out there, the idea of getting laid as a reward will instantly stimulate action towards a desired end. There is nothing more powerful than the allure of sex. Couple this with the idea that sex is guaranteed if a task is completed and you have enough drive to move mountains.
I know what you are all thinking: how can I demean the most precious act between a couple. Get real. Do you really buy into that dribble? The truth is that most people, after a few months with the same partner, are interested in "getting off". While they may still have their partners interest at heart, they are concerned with their own. This is equally true for men as well as women.
Once again we see how society puts sex in an unrealistic position. Sex can be an expression of love. It is also a physical act culminating with a physical climax (if done right). We see how the attachment people have to sex changes things. Take a relationship for example: everything changes when you have sex with that other person. But does it need to be that way? In my opinion it does not.
The other area of resistance is the idea that providing sex to another as a reward will make one into a "prostitute". Again I say grow up. Spread you legs and let the boy have his way. Deep down we are all sexual beings. The idea of assisting someone you care about to reach his or her highest potential is beyond words. Why shouldn't you offer the most powerful motivator the Universe ever created? Obviously because of past stigmas.
Couples who play a sex game such as this find their relationship is deeper and more exciting. There is nothing wrong with offering sex as reward for a job well done. Hell, people need not be couples to utilize the technique. Friends can provide the same motivation to each other. In fact, that often is a greater motivator than when it is a spouse. We all love to have new experiences and nowhere is this truer than in the sexual arena.
My basic belief is that people put too much emphasis on sex. It is something that most people thoroughly enjoy. Therefore, it has the power to completely alter one's lot in life. When you find that you are falling behind on certain tasks, just find someone who will agree to have sex with you if you complete them. I can assure you that your productivity will increase immediately.
I know what you are all thinking: how can I demean the most precious act between a couple. Get real. Do you really buy into that dribble? The truth is that most people, after a few months with the same partner, are interested in "getting off". While they may still have their partners interest at heart, they are concerned with their own. This is equally true for men as well as women.
Once again we see how society puts sex in an unrealistic position. Sex can be an expression of love. It is also a physical act culminating with a physical climax (if done right). We see how the attachment people have to sex changes things. Take a relationship for example: everything changes when you have sex with that other person. But does it need to be that way? In my opinion it does not.
The other area of resistance is the idea that providing sex to another as a reward will make one into a "prostitute". Again I say grow up. Spread you legs and let the boy have his way. Deep down we are all sexual beings. The idea of assisting someone you care about to reach his or her highest potential is beyond words. Why shouldn't you offer the most powerful motivator the Universe ever created? Obviously because of past stigmas.
Couples who play a sex game such as this find their relationship is deeper and more exciting. There is nothing wrong with offering sex as reward for a job well done. Hell, people need not be couples to utilize the technique. Friends can provide the same motivation to each other. In fact, that often is a greater motivator than when it is a spouse. We all love to have new experiences and nowhere is this truer than in the sexual arena.
My basic belief is that people put too much emphasis on sex. It is something that most people thoroughly enjoy. Therefore, it has the power to completely alter one's lot in life. When you find that you are falling behind on certain tasks, just find someone who will agree to have sex with you if you complete them. I can assure you that your productivity will increase immediately.
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Passion Is The Key
What usually separates the successful from the unsuccessful? One word: PASSION. Those who enjoy success are passionate about what they do. They are willing to put in the extra hours necessary to excel at their craft. Passion is what separates those who watch the minutes ticking by until they can leave from those who enjoy profitable days. Passion is what makes life exciting and enjoyable.
Passion starts with a mindset. Sexual motivation is successful because it is driven by something most people are passionate about: sex. Sex has the power to completely transform or destroy lives. Too often we see the later occur. The case of the South Carolina Governor is proof of that. If this desire has the ability to make him risk everything by traveling to a foreign land, don't you think it has the power to motivate you to take action in your life? I believe that it does.
My problem with those I meet in everyday life is that they are simply existing. Their lives are all spelled out for them. They are at a certain place Monday through Friday. At certain times of the year they are allowed to take vacation. Life is a constant struggle to make end meets. Sadly, they consistently spend their lives looking ahead. They never exist in the present moment.
Notice the lack of passion in that description. This is how most people feel. If you doubt my conclusion, simply take a look at those at your local mall. You will see the struggle on their faces. Any joy that is seen is on the children. The conditioning of life has not taken its toll on these beings. Nevertheless, you see it on most everyone over 30. They are at the point where the excitement is replaced with the tyranny of responsibilities. Life gets too hard for them.
What they lack is passion. This is true even in their relationships. Watch the interaction of most couples who are together more than 5 years. They simply act like roommates. There is no excitement or zest. They are not motivated by sex or anything else. Each day is just tolerated.
My idea is to change that. Life offers a lot more than simply an existence. While anyone is free to choose this route, I prefer to live on a higher plane. There is a zest that comes from accomplishment. For me, the desire to increase my sexual experiences motivates me to be productive. I can apply the sex based mindset to anything I need to accomplish. Challenges are easier to overcome when you have motivation. Sexual motivation is the most powerful force that I can think of.
This concept allows you to implement passion back into your life. It is the way to increase the likelihood for success. Everyone has to undertake activities that he or she dislikes. Nobody gets to do what they want all the time. There are always tasks which need our attention regardless of how distasteful they are. Approaching them with passion enables us to move beyond the mundane to what truly excites us.
Remember that passion is the key for all success. Long term achievement is only accomplished by loving what we are doing. Loving life is a wonderful beginning. This begins in the mind. Resolve today to believe that you are going to make this day spectacular. There is nothing that says you just have to tolerate it. Being passionate about life will transcend into all areas. Start the process right now.
Passion starts with a mindset. Sexual motivation is successful because it is driven by something most people are passionate about: sex. Sex has the power to completely transform or destroy lives. Too often we see the later occur. The case of the South Carolina Governor is proof of that. If this desire has the ability to make him risk everything by traveling to a foreign land, don't you think it has the power to motivate you to take action in your life? I believe that it does.
My problem with those I meet in everyday life is that they are simply existing. Their lives are all spelled out for them. They are at a certain place Monday through Friday. At certain times of the year they are allowed to take vacation. Life is a constant struggle to make end meets. Sadly, they consistently spend their lives looking ahead. They never exist in the present moment.
Notice the lack of passion in that description. This is how most people feel. If you doubt my conclusion, simply take a look at those at your local mall. You will see the struggle on their faces. Any joy that is seen is on the children. The conditioning of life has not taken its toll on these beings. Nevertheless, you see it on most everyone over 30. They are at the point where the excitement is replaced with the tyranny of responsibilities. Life gets too hard for them.
What they lack is passion. This is true even in their relationships. Watch the interaction of most couples who are together more than 5 years. They simply act like roommates. There is no excitement or zest. They are not motivated by sex or anything else. Each day is just tolerated.
My idea is to change that. Life offers a lot more than simply an existence. While anyone is free to choose this route, I prefer to live on a higher plane. There is a zest that comes from accomplishment. For me, the desire to increase my sexual experiences motivates me to be productive. I can apply the sex based mindset to anything I need to accomplish. Challenges are easier to overcome when you have motivation. Sexual motivation is the most powerful force that I can think of.
This concept allows you to implement passion back into your life. It is the way to increase the likelihood for success. Everyone has to undertake activities that he or she dislikes. Nobody gets to do what they want all the time. There are always tasks which need our attention regardless of how distasteful they are. Approaching them with passion enables us to move beyond the mundane to what truly excites us.
Remember that passion is the key for all success. Long term achievement is only accomplished by loving what we are doing. Loving life is a wonderful beginning. This begins in the mind. Resolve today to believe that you are going to make this day spectacular. There is nothing that says you just have to tolerate it. Being passionate about life will transcend into all areas. Start the process right now.
The Ability To Go Against The Grain
It takes a certain inner strength to be able to go against the grain. People want to do what is popular. Fitting in is something that is basic to most individuals. I presume it is inherent in us as humans. Only a select few in any generation were able to rebel against common thought. At some level, we all want to be considered "normal".
Unfortunately, normal in this generation is the path to mediocrity. Following the herd leads to another form of slavery. The recent financial crisis reveals how the "American Dream" can be smashed in a few short months. Now, there are millions of people who are dependent upon the decisions of others for their existence. The laid off only hope their unemployment compensation and/or welfare payments are granted. At the same time, many workers are hoping they are not the next one chosen to be let go. Their lives are all in the hands of others.
What was the cause of all this: debt. People lived above their means for way too long. We spend a great deal of effort trying to have all the things that impress others. Being normal meant going to school to get a "secure" job which paid well while allowing us to accumulate all those things which would make us happy. Those items were: a foreign automobile, an over sized house, exotic vacations, and designer clothing. This mindset gave the entire nation a huge debt load. When things collapsed, they brought almost everyone down with them.
Succeeding requires going against the grain. This takes courage. Those who walk a different path risk being alienated by those closest to him/her. Isolation is something that most people will do almost anything to avoid. Being an outcast is a sentence heavier than most can handle.
The entire concept of sex based motivation goes against many tenets of our culture. We like to portray ourselves as an "evolved" society. There are times we seem to evoke the Victorian principles of yesteryear. Everything that is wrong with society can be attributed to some form of moral decay. This is what we are taught. The idea of using something that is inherent within us is contrary to what "upstanding" people do. Entertaining the sexual side of ourselves is not normal; that is something the perverts do. By classifying our behavior, society exerts control over us. It is only by getting out from under this control that we can call ourselves free.
The recent events in this country show us where following the herd leads us. It is time for each of us to take the power over our lives. We lived under the myth of society for long enough. Success is something that is available to each individual. However, we first must decide what our definition of that is. Then, it takes us setting up a plan for achieving the results we desire. Finally, we take action to get to the point that we are destined. It is that simple. Yet, we must be the one to take these steps. Leaving it to others can have catastrophic results.
Unfortunately, normal in this generation is the path to mediocrity. Following the herd leads to another form of slavery. The recent financial crisis reveals how the "American Dream" can be smashed in a few short months. Now, there are millions of people who are dependent upon the decisions of others for their existence. The laid off only hope their unemployment compensation and/or welfare payments are granted. At the same time, many workers are hoping they are not the next one chosen to be let go. Their lives are all in the hands of others.
What was the cause of all this: debt. People lived above their means for way too long. We spend a great deal of effort trying to have all the things that impress others. Being normal meant going to school to get a "secure" job which paid well while allowing us to accumulate all those things which would make us happy. Those items were: a foreign automobile, an over sized house, exotic vacations, and designer clothing. This mindset gave the entire nation a huge debt load. When things collapsed, they brought almost everyone down with them.
Succeeding requires going against the grain. This takes courage. Those who walk a different path risk being alienated by those closest to him/her. Isolation is something that most people will do almost anything to avoid. Being an outcast is a sentence heavier than most can handle.
The entire concept of sex based motivation goes against many tenets of our culture. We like to portray ourselves as an "evolved" society. There are times we seem to evoke the Victorian principles of yesteryear. Everything that is wrong with society can be attributed to some form of moral decay. This is what we are taught. The idea of using something that is inherent within us is contrary to what "upstanding" people do. Entertaining the sexual side of ourselves is not normal; that is something the perverts do. By classifying our behavior, society exerts control over us. It is only by getting out from under this control that we can call ourselves free.
The recent events in this country show us where following the herd leads us. It is time for each of us to take the power over our lives. We lived under the myth of society for long enough. Success is something that is available to each individual. However, we first must decide what our definition of that is. Then, it takes us setting up a plan for achieving the results we desire. Finally, we take action to get to the point that we are destined. It is that simple. Yet, we must be the one to take these steps. Leaving it to others can have catastrophic results.
Friday, July 17, 2009
How Fear Controls Us
Fear is a enemy that most people fight on a regular basis. However, it is so subtle that most do not know the power that it wields. Fear has the ability to completely destroy one's life without issuing a single challenge. It simply silently kills all life one day at a time.
The problem with humans is that we project. Our minds have the ability to create pictures in our head. These images are so real that we believe they are real. The mind cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy. If it sees the image, it takes it to be true.
At the same time, the mind also has the ability to protect us from peril. When it determines a situation to be dangerous, it will emit signals that foster our protection. The feeling of fear will be felt throughout the body thus increasing the releasing of chemicals to assist us. It is the basic fight or flight response.
Naturally, most of what we encounter does not require this life or death response. Nevertheless, the mind will do all it can to protect itself (us) from harm. Fear is the tool that is most valuable in this effort. The mind conjures up response to our images which it deems necessary for protection.
Sadly, the mind favors status quo. The unknown is something the mind abhors. When it does not know the outcome to a situation, the mind cannot let that exist. It will invent an outcome. Most often this image is a negative one. The majority of the population has the brain trained to seek the negative. It is the default mindset. Instead of projecting positively, the mind takes the opposite track. This allows it to increase the fear within the body and move to a situation that it knows.
Let us relate this to our favorite subject, sex. Specifically, what happens when a guy sees a woman that he is sexually interested in. Most often it goes something like this: something about her physically catches his attention. The next step is he has an argument in his head as to whether to approach her. One side says to go for it while the other argues against it. At this point, the projection mechanism kicks in. He starts to play in his mind what will happen if he goes up to her. Suddenly, the mind, disliking the uncertainty, focuses upon an image with a horrific outcome. If there were bad experiences in the past, it will draw upon them. His mind will "see" the most outrageous outcome ever experienced by a man. This circumstance passes fear and moves to stark terror. Naturally, any chance of approaching this sexy woman is long gone. The fear took complete control of the situation.
This is a basic example of how the mind uses fear to control us. It is one that most of us can identify with in one way or another. We all have felt the fear in our bodies when interacting with someone who we were attracted to. The fact that we have no idea what the outcome will be is what causes the mind to delve towards the "worst case scenario". Again, the mind abhors the unknown.
Creating better pictures in our head is the fundamental change that we all need to make. The fact that the fear we are listening to is not based in reality shows that we buy into something that is false. Fear is not real. There is no basis whatsoever to follow this insane mind concept. Yet we do. Applying sexual motivation to our lives is paramount to success. Turning the mental makeup from one of failure to success is crucial. The above situation is one that we return to over and over. Learn to alter you behavior by approaching someone of the opposite sex. We want the mind to begin to reference positive experiences with this behavior. In doing so, we will be able to draw upon this in all our other activities.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Components of Sexual Motivation
The idea that we are motivated by sex is not a novel concept. Studies dating back to the late 1940s were undertaken in an effort to unmask the animal called human sexuality. Those in the scientific community have long wondered what is the fascination with sex. And, why does it have so much power over us.
Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.
The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.
Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.
How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.
Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.
The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.
Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.
How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.
Uptight Society
This evening, I watched a program detailing the porn industry. It was interesting to see how an "advanced" society such as ours is still in the dark ages when it comes to sex. To many, pornography is the basis for all that is wrong with society. They believe that every ill society faces is traced back to this vice.
My question is why is this such a large industry? Estimates have it pegged at roughly $13 billion a year in the United States alone. The answer to that question lies in the simple fact that it is inherent in our human nature. Man (the species, not the gender) is a sexual animal. We are one of the few who chooses sex freely. Most other mammals engage in sex simply as part of the mating process. We have the ability of when we do it and with whom. That is not something that can be overlooked.
It is intriguing to note how society tries to place a lid on our sexual practices. Talking about sex is inappropriate in most circles. There are laws banning it in public. Hell, even nudity in public is banned in most places. And we have the gall to believe that we have advanced since the Victorian Era? What a farce.
The simple fact is that anyone who embraces his or her sexual side is further advanced than many out there. Society, with all its different factions, is intent on having us deny this side of ourselves. Religions throughout the world profess the taboo of sex except within certain parameters. Failure to honor this accord will result in eternal damnation. Sex is a route straight to hell we are taught.
To me, this is absurd. However, I am so glad that the general populous thinks this way. It is far easier to get ahead of the pack when they are tied to the starting line. Going through life denying our sexual motives and desires is like showing up for a gun fight with a knife. You are extremely under armed. When I approach life situations, I understand how my sexual desires are motivating me. All that is around us is a result of sexual urges. Those who are at the top typically have the greatest sexual aura. A high sex drive is a common trait of successful people. It is part of being the "alpha" male.
Society is uptight. Grasping this concept will allow you to maneuver through it to your advantage. Sex is natural and the desire for more is inbred within us. People are motivated by these urges often with tragic results. Those who understand the philosophy I am promoting are able to use its power for gain instead of loss. You will soon comprehend that you are excelling while others are falling victim to this power. Harness it for you own benefit.
Saying Yes
Here is a test that is quick and easy to do: go to a public place where there are lots of people (example: a mall) and see how often people say the word "no". It is astounding to realize there are so many who live their life with this as their predominant thought. In effect, they are depriving themselves of saying "yes" in their own lives. Happiness eludes them because of they fail to engage in life.
We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.
These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".
Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.
Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.
It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.
Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".
We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.
These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".
Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.
Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.
It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.
Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".
Monday, July 6, 2009
Doing It Before You Know What You Are Doing
I am surprised how people take a different approach towards sex then they do the other areas of their lives. When it comes to sex, whatever fears exist are easily thrust (pun intended) aside. Yet, we allow fear to stop us from taking action in almost all other areas of life. Why is this?
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Sunday, July 5, 2009
In 100 Years What Will It Matter?
We have all heard this. Sadly, few of us ever subscribe to this philosophy. People get too caught up with the short term results in life. They never seem to get past the fact there are certain things that are inevitable in life. However, walk through the action and move on. It is that simple.
Sex as a motivator is helpful in allowing us to move past some of the fear we have residing within our heads. We tend to do a little better when we let the "little head override the big head". This goes contrary to what society teaches yet judging by the amount of unhappy people, who wants to listen to their methodology anyway? There is a lot more available to those who reach for it.
Rejection is a part of life. This is true whether we are referring to dating, sex, business, sales, or dealing with family. There will be times we are told "no". The reasons will vary but the end result is the same: we do not get what we want. It is reality so deal with it.
When we focus upon dating, who is the one who goes out on Friday night with the hot girl? Simply, the one who asks. It is the one who takes the risk who succeeds. Those who play it safe by avoiding the chance of rejection get to sit home alone watching an old movie. You have to get into the game to win.
The same is true in sales. Those who leave the office and make sales calls end up selling. Contrast this with the numbers of those who never leave the office. They avert the rejection while also avoiding success. The ones who put themselves out there prevail in the end.
Think back to the first girl who rejected you in school. For me it was a girl named Angel. I asked her out at a dance only to be shot down quicker than I knew what happened. It was as if "no" was pre-programmed. At the time it was devastating. Fortunately, I have since gotten over it (amazing what 30 years will do for a guy). Time does heal all wounds.
What would have happened if I allowed this past experience to stop me? There are many women I went out with after that because I asked them. I did not allow the fear to stop me. Sex is something that is gotten only after asking. You have to put yourself at a risk of being rejected.
In life, emotional wounds can heal quickly. It does not take 100 years. However, the point is to not get too caught up in how things are going to turn out. The results we achieve on a daily basis are usually inconsequential when viewed on the broader scale. When going through your day, go for it. What is the worst that will happen. Someone tells you "no". So what? In the long run it matters little.
Go for the sex. Go for the money. Go for the promotion. Go for it all. Whenever you take a chance, you have the opportunity to succeed. Each time you remain on the sidelines, you ensure you will remain in place. Success is available to those who go for it. Remember, in 100 years it won't matter. In fact, it will not matter in 100 days. So take a chance.
Sex as a motivator is helpful in allowing us to move past some of the fear we have residing within our heads. We tend to do a little better when we let the "little head override the big head". This goes contrary to what society teaches yet judging by the amount of unhappy people, who wants to listen to their methodology anyway? There is a lot more available to those who reach for it.
Rejection is a part of life. This is true whether we are referring to dating, sex, business, sales, or dealing with family. There will be times we are told "no". The reasons will vary but the end result is the same: we do not get what we want. It is reality so deal with it.
When we focus upon dating, who is the one who goes out on Friday night with the hot girl? Simply, the one who asks. It is the one who takes the risk who succeeds. Those who play it safe by avoiding the chance of rejection get to sit home alone watching an old movie. You have to get into the game to win.
The same is true in sales. Those who leave the office and make sales calls end up selling. Contrast this with the numbers of those who never leave the office. They avert the rejection while also avoiding success. The ones who put themselves out there prevail in the end.
Think back to the first girl who rejected you in school. For me it was a girl named Angel. I asked her out at a dance only to be shot down quicker than I knew what happened. It was as if "no" was pre-programmed. At the time it was devastating. Fortunately, I have since gotten over it (amazing what 30 years will do for a guy). Time does heal all wounds.
What would have happened if I allowed this past experience to stop me? There are many women I went out with after that because I asked them. I did not allow the fear to stop me. Sex is something that is gotten only after asking. You have to put yourself at a risk of being rejected.
In life, emotional wounds can heal quickly. It does not take 100 years. However, the point is to not get too caught up in how things are going to turn out. The results we achieve on a daily basis are usually inconsequential when viewed on the broader scale. When going through your day, go for it. What is the worst that will happen. Someone tells you "no". So what? In the long run it matters little.
Go for the sex. Go for the money. Go for the promotion. Go for it all. Whenever you take a chance, you have the opportunity to succeed. Each time you remain on the sidelines, you ensure you will remain in place. Success is available to those who go for it. Remember, in 100 years it won't matter. In fact, it will not matter in 100 days. So take a chance.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Sexual Conditioning
My basic premise is that people are too uptight about sex. It is something that society teaches us is not to be talked about. Yet, it is an act that most everyone engages in and is crucial for the survival of the species. Nevertheless, those who decide to live a free sexual life are labeled as being perverted. It is as if there is an unwritten social norm for proper sexual behavior. Of course, we do not uncover what it is until we move outside what is considered proper.
This conditioning is what causes people to miss one of the most powerful forces known to man. We all know the lengths that certain people will go to for sex. Usually the consequences are dire since it involves infidelity or some other social precept that is broken. Yet if we can harness this power for good, we can see our lives instantly changed for the better.
We are all conditioned sexually. Society, through parent, religion, and the education system, creates our beliefs. This is done through repetition. We hear the same statement made over and over until it is drilled into our minds. It is part of our conscious.
Most who grew up in the Christian faith will remember hearing something about sex outside the bounds of marriage being a sin. This is a fundamental tenet of this discipline. Since this is the most common faith in the Western world in terms of numbers, the majority of society has this idea programmed somewhere in their DNA. Then, it is reinforced each time we see a politician caught in the bed of another other than his wife (I am sure women politicians cheat too but it seems only the men get caught). They are on camera apologizing for their bad choices.
The conditioning gets even better. Researchers have proven that males need to ejaculate for health reasons. It is a natural process of the human body. Yet, growing up in the previous faith mentioned, I heard that masturbation will cause blindness. Fortunately, as a long time and tested self lover, I am happy to share I have 20/20 vision. Blindness did not occur. Perhaps I was misled by those who weren't looking out for my own best interest.
Normalcy is what society seeks. Our culture is based upon the premise of marriage between one man and one woman. It is what is best for the ongoing survival. Married people with families provide stability. I believe this is why there is so much resistance to any other definition for marriage. The culture depends upon this institution for social order.
Homosexuality, poly, bdsm, and other acts are considered taboo. The churches call them sins. Many states call them illegal with laws forbidding them. Thus, we are left with the concept of what normal is. It is not written down, explained, or published. Instead, there is an implying of what is considered appropriate behavior.
The most absurd concept we are taught is with regards to nudity. We are shown that we are suppose to "cover up". The human body is shown to be taboo. Looking at naked women (or men) is perverted and pornographic. Public nudity is forbidden. Films that show tits and asses receive a rating that is appropriate only for "mature audiences". To me, this is absurd.
As a long time practicing nudist I can tell you that there are only two categories people fall into. A visit to the nude beach will reveal there are either cocks or pussies. This is the only distinction. Everyone out there has an ass and a chest with two nipple on them. The sizes will vary but the equipment is the same. Yet we are suppose to cover all this up like it is unnatural.
We are born naked and everyone gets naked on a daily basis. In talking with many people over the years, I have yet to find anyone who showers with their clothing on. Everyone gets naked to bathe. It is a natural act. However, society tells us to do this in private like there is something wrong with it.
As you can see, there are all kinds of messages about sex and sexuality we receive from those who are in charge of message promotion. The media, religions, and influential people like parents all model our behavior. Over the years, this is the conditioning that leads us to unhealthy sexual conclusions. Engaging in activity outsides the bounds of what is acceptable makes many people feel guilty. And guilt is one of the most powerful behavioral modifying techniques there is. The churches of the world have used it for centuries. It is effective.
To be truly free, we need to break free of the social conditioning as it pertains to sex. Doing so will allow us to access the incredible power behind this motivator. A life designed around the acquisition of sex will be more successful than one that is not. People will do more for sex then they will do for love, money, or recognition. In fact, often these are acquired as a means to more sex. Money and power = sex. It is as old as the hills.
Look at your sexual conditioning and ask if it makes sense to you. Did you choose the beliefs that you presently have? If not, consider each one to see if it applies to you or not. This will establish the basic foundation that will allow you to move your life to the next level. Take it today.
This conditioning is what causes people to miss one of the most powerful forces known to man. We all know the lengths that certain people will go to for sex. Usually the consequences are dire since it involves infidelity or some other social precept that is broken. Yet if we can harness this power for good, we can see our lives instantly changed for the better.
We are all conditioned sexually. Society, through parent, religion, and the education system, creates our beliefs. This is done through repetition. We hear the same statement made over and over until it is drilled into our minds. It is part of our conscious.
Most who grew up in the Christian faith will remember hearing something about sex outside the bounds of marriage being a sin. This is a fundamental tenet of this discipline. Since this is the most common faith in the Western world in terms of numbers, the majority of society has this idea programmed somewhere in their DNA. Then, it is reinforced each time we see a politician caught in the bed of another other than his wife (I am sure women politicians cheat too but it seems only the men get caught). They are on camera apologizing for their bad choices.
The conditioning gets even better. Researchers have proven that males need to ejaculate for health reasons. It is a natural process of the human body. Yet, growing up in the previous faith mentioned, I heard that masturbation will cause blindness. Fortunately, as a long time and tested self lover, I am happy to share I have 20/20 vision. Blindness did not occur. Perhaps I was misled by those who weren't looking out for my own best interest.
Normalcy is what society seeks. Our culture is based upon the premise of marriage between one man and one woman. It is what is best for the ongoing survival. Married people with families provide stability. I believe this is why there is so much resistance to any other definition for marriage. The culture depends upon this institution for social order.
Homosexuality, poly, bdsm, and other acts are considered taboo. The churches call them sins. Many states call them illegal with laws forbidding them. Thus, we are left with the concept of what normal is. It is not written down, explained, or published. Instead, there is an implying of what is considered appropriate behavior.
The most absurd concept we are taught is with regards to nudity. We are shown that we are suppose to "cover up". The human body is shown to be taboo. Looking at naked women (or men) is perverted and pornographic. Public nudity is forbidden. Films that show tits and asses receive a rating that is appropriate only for "mature audiences". To me, this is absurd.
As a long time practicing nudist I can tell you that there are only two categories people fall into. A visit to the nude beach will reveal there are either cocks or pussies. This is the only distinction. Everyone out there has an ass and a chest with two nipple on them. The sizes will vary but the equipment is the same. Yet we are suppose to cover all this up like it is unnatural.
We are born naked and everyone gets naked on a daily basis. In talking with many people over the years, I have yet to find anyone who showers with their clothing on. Everyone gets naked to bathe. It is a natural act. However, society tells us to do this in private like there is something wrong with it.
As you can see, there are all kinds of messages about sex and sexuality we receive from those who are in charge of message promotion. The media, religions, and influential people like parents all model our behavior. Over the years, this is the conditioning that leads us to unhealthy sexual conclusions. Engaging in activity outsides the bounds of what is acceptable makes many people feel guilty. And guilt is one of the most powerful behavioral modifying techniques there is. The churches of the world have used it for centuries. It is effective.
To be truly free, we need to break free of the social conditioning as it pertains to sex. Doing so will allow us to access the incredible power behind this motivator. A life designed around the acquisition of sex will be more successful than one that is not. People will do more for sex then they will do for love, money, or recognition. In fact, often these are acquired as a means to more sex. Money and power = sex. It is as old as the hills.
Look at your sexual conditioning and ask if it makes sense to you. Did you choose the beliefs that you presently have? If not, consider each one to see if it applies to you or not. This will establish the basic foundation that will allow you to move your life to the next level. Take it today.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
The Opinion of Others II
This is a follow up to a post form the other day titled The Opinion of Others. It is suggested that you read it first.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
Mindset for Success
Have you ever noticed how your expectations create the experience that you have? It is a proven fact that your mindset plays a crucial role in the success that you achieve. Like the old saying "whether you think you can or can't, you are right".
Everyone has fear, worry, and doubt. The difference is that the successful are able to cast aside these thoughts while taking action. At the same time, the unsuccessful allow these things to stop them. It is the primary reason why people succeed or fail.
Life is an action sport. However, it is the mind which typically dictates what action will be taken. Procrastination is a result of a thought process that prevents moving forward. The idea of "doing something later" is the default mindset for those who struggle with putting things off. It is the mindset which determines what is done.
Results are also a condition of the mind. Many disciplines profess the power of a positive mindset. Our lives are a reflection of what goes on in our heads. Those who believe they will succeed do.; those who do not, don't. If you have the mindset that an event will be boring and uninteresting, that is exactly what it will be. Our mind creates the outcome.
We see this play out repeatedly in the dating world. The guy who has the courage to ask a girl out while maintaining an attitude of confidence that she will agree (confidence, not arrogance), usually succeeds. The one who asks in a timid manner often experiences rejection. His mindset sabotaged the entire process.
The same situation plays out when it comes to sex. Those who approach the opposite sex in a manner which shows there is sexual interest and confidence will get laid. Sadly, many take the opposite track. They believe that women aren't interested in sex. They are sold on the idea that romance and emotional connection are what they want. This is true for many. However, there are a lot of women who are horny and want to get screwed. Those who understand this fact can move in an appropriate manner.
Success starts with knowing what outcome is desired. After that, it is crucial to have the mindset which says "I am going to achieve this outcome". Basic sales training teaches to enter a presentation expecting to get the sale. You have nothing to lose. Unfortunately, people are often conditioned to think the opposite way. They expect to fail and are surprised when things work out the way they want. This is a recipe for failure. Consistent success required a consistent success mindset. Begin by expecting only positive results today.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
The Opinion Of Others
Politicians are well aware that there will be a sector of the population that dislikes them. Regardless of how popular one is, roughly half the people will think that person is doing a bad job and want them out of office. Even in Presidential politics, this holds true. Every four years, the winner has more than 40 million people vote against him.
When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.
I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.
The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.
A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.
Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.
When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.
I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.
The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.
A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.
Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.
