Fear is a enemy that most people fight on a regular basis. However, it is so subtle that most do not know the power that it wields. Fear has the ability to completely destroy one's life without issuing a single challenge. It simply silently kills all life one day at a time.
The problem with humans is that we project. Our minds have the ability to create pictures in our head. These images are so real that we believe they are real. The mind cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy. If it sees the image, it takes it to be true.
At the same time, the mind also has the ability to protect us from peril. When it determines a situation to be dangerous, it will emit signals that foster our protection. The feeling of fear will be felt throughout the body thus increasing the releasing of chemicals to assist us. It is the basic fight or flight response.
Naturally, most of what we encounter does not require this life or death response. Nevertheless, the mind will do all it can to protect itself (us) from harm. Fear is the tool that is most valuable in this effort. The mind conjures up response to our images which it deems necessary for protection.
Sadly, the mind favors status quo. The unknown is something the mind abhors. When it does not know the outcome to a situation, the mind cannot let that exist. It will invent an outcome. Most often this image is a negative one. The majority of the population has the brain trained to seek the negative. It is the default mindset. Instead of projecting positively, the mind takes the opposite track. This allows it to increase the fear within the body and move to a situation that it knows.
Let us relate this to our favorite subject, sex. Specifically, what happens when a guy sees a woman that he is sexually interested in. Most often it goes something like this: something about her physically catches his attention. The next step is he has an argument in his head as to whether to approach her. One side says to go for it while the other argues against it. At this point, the projection mechanism kicks in. He starts to play in his mind what will happen if he goes up to her. Suddenly, the mind, disliking the uncertainty, focuses upon an image with a horrific outcome. If there were bad experiences in the past, it will draw upon them. His mind will "see" the most outrageous outcome ever experienced by a man. This circumstance passes fear and moves to stark terror. Naturally, any chance of approaching this sexy woman is long gone. The fear took complete control of the situation.
This is a basic example of how the mind uses fear to control us. It is one that most of us can identify with in one way or another. We all have felt the fear in our bodies when interacting with someone who we were attracted to. The fact that we have no idea what the outcome will be is what causes the mind to delve towards the "worst case scenario". Again, the mind abhors the unknown.
Creating better pictures in our head is the fundamental change that we all need to make. The fact that the fear we are listening to is not based in reality shows that we buy into something that is false. Fear is not real. There is no basis whatsoever to follow this insane mind concept. Yet we do. Applying sexual motivation to our lives is paramount to success. Turning the mental makeup from one of failure to success is crucial. The above situation is one that we return to over and over. Learn to alter you behavior by approaching someone of the opposite sex. We want the mind to begin to reference positive experiences with this behavior. In doing so, we will be able to draw upon this in all our other activities.
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