There is a very simple way to get yourself to take action: enlist someone to have sex with you if you complete it. For 95% of the people out there, the idea of getting laid as a reward will instantly stimulate action towards a desired end. There is nothing more powerful than the allure of sex. Couple this with the idea that sex is guaranteed if a task is completed and you have enough drive to move mountains.
I know what you are all thinking: how can I demean the most precious act between a couple. Get real. Do you really buy into that dribble? The truth is that most people, after a few months with the same partner, are interested in "getting off". While they may still have their partners interest at heart, they are concerned with their own. This is equally true for men as well as women.
Once again we see how society puts sex in an unrealistic position. Sex can be an expression of love. It is also a physical act culminating with a physical climax (if done right). We see how the attachment people have to sex changes things. Take a relationship for example: everything changes when you have sex with that other person. But does it need to be that way? In my opinion it does not.
The other area of resistance is the idea that providing sex to another as a reward will make one into a "prostitute". Again I say grow up. Spread you legs and let the boy have his way. Deep down we are all sexual beings. The idea of assisting someone you care about to reach his or her highest potential is beyond words. Why shouldn't you offer the most powerful motivator the Universe ever created? Obviously because of past stigmas.
Couples who play a sex game such as this find their relationship is deeper and more exciting. There is nothing wrong with offering sex as reward for a job well done. Hell, people need not be couples to utilize the technique. Friends can provide the same motivation to each other. In fact, that often is a greater motivator than when it is a spouse. We all love to have new experiences and nowhere is this truer than in the sexual arena.
My basic belief is that people put too much emphasis on sex. It is something that most people thoroughly enjoy. Therefore, it has the power to completely alter one's lot in life. When you find that you are falling behind on certain tasks, just find someone who will agree to have sex with you if you complete them. I can assure you that your productivity will increase immediately.
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Sunday, July 19, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Uptight Society
This evening, I watched a program detailing the porn industry. It was interesting to see how an "advanced" society such as ours is still in the dark ages when it comes to sex. To many, pornography is the basis for all that is wrong with society. They believe that every ill society faces is traced back to this vice.
My question is why is this such a large industry? Estimates have it pegged at roughly $13 billion a year in the United States alone. The answer to that question lies in the simple fact that it is inherent in our human nature. Man (the species, not the gender) is a sexual animal. We are one of the few who chooses sex freely. Most other mammals engage in sex simply as part of the mating process. We have the ability of when we do it and with whom. That is not something that can be overlooked.
It is intriguing to note how society tries to place a lid on our sexual practices. Talking about sex is inappropriate in most circles. There are laws banning it in public. Hell, even nudity in public is banned in most places. And we have the gall to believe that we have advanced since the Victorian Era? What a farce.
The simple fact is that anyone who embraces his or her sexual side is further advanced than many out there. Society, with all its different factions, is intent on having us deny this side of ourselves. Religions throughout the world profess the taboo of sex except within certain parameters. Failure to honor this accord will result in eternal damnation. Sex is a route straight to hell we are taught.
To me, this is absurd. However, I am so glad that the general populous thinks this way. It is far easier to get ahead of the pack when they are tied to the starting line. Going through life denying our sexual motives and desires is like showing up for a gun fight with a knife. You are extremely under armed. When I approach life situations, I understand how my sexual desires are motivating me. All that is around us is a result of sexual urges. Those who are at the top typically have the greatest sexual aura. A high sex drive is a common trait of successful people. It is part of being the "alpha" male.
Society is uptight. Grasping this concept will allow you to maneuver through it to your advantage. Sex is natural and the desire for more is inbred within us. People are motivated by these urges often with tragic results. Those who understand the philosophy I am promoting are able to use its power for gain instead of loss. You will soon comprehend that you are excelling while others are falling victim to this power. Harness it for you own benefit.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
The Opinion of Others II
This is a follow up to a post form the other day titled The Opinion of Others. It is suggested that you read it first.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Sex in Music
My daughter and a couple of her friends came to visit me this weekend. She lives an hour away so that means a fair bit of car time both to and fro. Like most teenagers, they wanted to listen to the radio. Naturally, the idea of listening to my type of music was out of the question. Being a product of the 80s, I am still a fan of the hair bands. Yet, the choice in the car was R&B and Rap.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
