Saying Yes

Here is a test that is quick and easy to do: go to a public place where there are lots of people (example: a mall) and see how often people say the word "no". It is astounding to realize there are so many who live their life with this as their predominant thought. In effect, they are depriving themselves of saying "yes" in their own lives. Happiness eludes them because of they fail to engage in life.

We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.

These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".

Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.

Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.

It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.

Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".