Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Slut versus Stud?

We all know how society creates a massive double standard when it comes to sex. This is something that goes back to the beginning of civilized cultures. In short, men are studs while women are sluts.

This is the mindset that most people are raised with. To them, there is a difference between the male sexual act versus the female. Naturally, this is insane since the men need to do it with someone. A woman needs to be present if a man is to engage in sexual behavior (omitting masturbation and homosexual relations).

I feel these beliefs are just another form of control. Women are suppose to be pure and virginal. Of course, maintaining this purity until after marriage is crucial. Again, if the same expectation, from societies perspective doesnt hold, is not present for a man, how is he to get laid if all women are pure. It makes no sense.

Porn Stars Vs. Hookers

Here is an interesting illustration of the insanity of society. Have you ever wondered why prostitution is illegal in most states but making porn videos is acceptable? What is the difference? Aren't porn stars trading sex for money? Isn't that exactly what prostitutes do? I challenge anyone to tell me the difference.

In my mind there is no difference. And yes, I understand that the holy rollers out there agree with me on this. Of course, they feel that both are immoral and should be outlawed (one already is). I, on the other hand, believe that it is nobody's business. If someone wants to sell his or her body, that is that individual's choice.

Motivation

What does any of this have to do with motivation or personal development. Well, my intention here is to point out the hypocrisy that society operates under. Societal conditioning is something that we all suffer from. Breaking free from its bonds is imperative if you are to live a successful life. Nobody ever mastered their life while living in chains placed by another. The sexual belief system is one of the ways the powerful seek to control the masses. They did it for generations.

I operate under the premise that society is selling a myth. What they promote as a path to happiness is not for most people. The average person is living in a manner that is far below his or her potential. Talents that could alter the world are left untapped because people buy into the ideas of others.

What separates me from the personal development experts is that I believe we should use all the desires that are within us. Most will agree that our sexual desires are the strongest that we have. Yet, society, in an effort to maintain decorum, overlooks this. We are expected to suppress these urges. This is ridiculous in my mind. I want to take whatever is within me and use it to my benefit. That is my ultimate goal.

In my book, Sexual Motivation, I spelled out how the sex desire usually is a means to one's destruction. Looking at men like Bill Clinton, Mark Sanford, and now, Tiger Woods, we see how they jeopardized careers and marriages. This tells me we are dealing with a powerful force. What is the potential if we used this force to our benefit instead of destruction? Do you think your life would change?

That is what Sexual Motivation is all about. It is a philosophy based upon the idea that society is way off base when it comes to its outlook on sex. Those who are successful decide to take matters into their own hands. They are the ones capable of breaking free from the herd mentality. The "Elite" choose to live life as they see fit. Succumbing to the desires of others is for fools. At the end of your life, you are the one who is responsible for the journey you traveled. Blaming others will not change anything.

So what is the difference between a slut and a stud? My answer is nothing. And, I applaud both people who are behaving in such a way because they choose to live like that. People are free to engage in their sexual desires as they see fit. I congratulate anyone who breaks away from the herd mentality. That is what Sexual Motivation is all about: FREEDOM.

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