Being True To Oneself

Have you ever read the conflict that one who is gay goes through internally when trying to determine which sexual avenue to pursue? Here is an individual who has an internal yearning one way yet societal conditioning is pushing him or her another way. Many are confronted with similar experiences when deciding whether to pursue an alternative lifestyle.

Over the last few days, I have challenged each of you to determine how you would like your sexual life to be. Most have never undertaken this exercise. Instead, they fall prey to the conditioning that is placed upon them. Whatever is considered 'normal' is the avenue followed. This takes place in bedrooms all over the world every night.

Are you one of those people who craves something different? If you are, I highly suggest looking at this aspect of your life to take some proactive control. Since sex is so personal and highly charged, anyone who is able to exert control in that area assumes power over so many others. This is something that dogma has done for centuries. Breaking free of this is the first step to freedom.

Being True To Oneself

Determining what one wants in life is only part of the battle. Many seem to feel that the most difficult part of the process is in the choosing. This is not the case. What gets really hard is to remain true to that decision. It is only after making this choice that one truly understands the power behind the social conditioning. In addition, one begin to see all the ways that society attempts to sway a person.

The example of the homosexual epitomizes how influential society can be against any alternative lifestyle. A person who chooses to follow this path is ostracized and demonized by religious institutions. He or she is labeled as immoral while being told that hell is the foregone conclusion. Another factor is that homosexual intercourse is illegal in a number of states since sodomy is outlawed. Our gay friend is now risking imprisonment for his choices. At the same time, everywhere one turns there are images of the family unit since this is what the mainstream promotes. Obviously, this brings up another issue since gay marriage is currently banned. Therefore, the family unit is reserved only for those who fit a particular model.

In the face of all these pressures, it is easy to see why one would question his or her choice. Naturally, for many, since it is an issue of sexual orientation, homosexuality is something that one does not waver upon. However, the same cannot be said for polyamory, BDSM, or swinging. These are all lifestyle choices that people make without the biological incentive to be that way. They are also decisions that society will do everything it can to demean and belittle. This is where the questioning can enter into the picture.

Is it worth it? If one carefully thought out the decisions, I can attest that it certainly is. Remaining true to one's inner core is the most difficult part of this process. To thy own self be true. The desire to rescind one's decision can hit at odd times. Probably the most trying time is when one meets someone outside the lifestyle. This is commonly when one will begin to question they way he or she choose. Perhaps happiness is possible in the traditional is the overriding thought. Of course, a review of one's personal history might reveal the fallacy behind this mindset. Most chose an alternative lifestyle since the traditional was not working. Reverting back will only lead to more of the same.

Being true to oneself is the only path to success and happiness. We all have an internal calling that will make us happy. Life is not a 'one size fits all' deal. Each of us is responsible for finding our own way. What we uncover reveals what is true for us. Going contrary to this insight, while perhaps unpopular, is not the path we need to pursue. Let your internal barometer be your guide. It will not let you down.

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