Slut versus Stud?

We all know how society creates a massive double standard when it comes to sex. This is something that goes back to the beginning of civilized cultures. In short, men are studs while women are sluts.

This is the mindset that most people are raised with. To them, there is a difference between the male sexual act versus the female. Naturally, this is insane since the men need to do it with someone. A woman needs to be present if a man is to engage in sexual behavior (omitting masturbation and homosexual relations).

I feel these beliefs are just another form of control. Women are suppose to be pure and virginal. Of course, maintaining this purity until after marriage is crucial. Again, if the same expectation, from societies perspective doesnt hold, is not present for a man, how is he to get laid if all women are pure. It makes no sense.

Porn Stars Vs. Hookers

Here is an interesting illustration of the insanity of society. Have you ever wondered why prostitution is illegal in most states but making porn videos is acceptable? What is the difference? Aren't porn stars trading sex for money? Isn't that exactly what prostitutes do? I challenge anyone to tell me the difference.

In my mind there is no difference. And yes, I understand that the holy rollers out there agree with me on this. Of course, they feel that both are immoral and should be outlawed (one already is). I, on the other hand, believe that it is nobody's business. If someone wants to sell his or her body, that is that individual's choice.

Motivation

What does any of this have to do with motivation or personal development. Well, my intention here is to point out the hypocrisy that society operates under. Societal conditioning is something that we all suffer from. Breaking free from its bonds is imperative if you are to live a successful life. Nobody ever mastered their life while living in chains placed by another. The sexual belief system is one of the ways the powerful seek to control the masses. They did it for generations.

I operate under the premise that society is selling a myth. What they promote as a path to happiness is not for most people. The average person is living in a manner that is far below his or her potential. Talents that could alter the world are left untapped because people buy into the ideas of others.

What separates me from the personal development experts is that I believe we should use all the desires that are within us. Most will agree that our sexual desires are the strongest that we have. Yet, society, in an effort to maintain decorum, overlooks this. We are expected to suppress these urges. This is ridiculous in my mind. I want to take whatever is within me and use it to my benefit. That is my ultimate goal.

In my book, Sexual Motivation, I spelled out how the sex desire usually is a means to one's destruction. Looking at men like Bill Clinton, Mark Sanford, and now, Tiger Woods, we see how they jeopardized careers and marriages. This tells me we are dealing with a powerful force. What is the potential if we used this force to our benefit instead of destruction? Do you think your life would change?

That is what Sexual Motivation is all about. It is a philosophy based upon the idea that society is way off base when it comes to its outlook on sex. Those who are successful decide to take matters into their own hands. They are the ones capable of breaking free from the herd mentality. The "Elite" choose to live life as they see fit. Succumbing to the desires of others is for fools. At the end of your life, you are the one who is responsible for the journey you traveled. Blaming others will not change anything.

So what is the difference between a slut and a stud? My answer is nothing. And, I applaud both people who are behaving in such a way because they choose to live like that. People are free to engage in their sexual desires as they see fit. I congratulate anyone who breaks away from the herd mentality. That is what Sexual Motivation is all about: FREEDOM.

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Step On The Bottom

It is a dog-eat-dog world out there. This is a simple fact. No matter how we try to cut it so that life seems comforted, the cold hard reality slaps us in the face. In short, you are the one you are going to have to depend upon.

We are seeing a great debate taking place within the United States about the role of government. Many are tossing the term "nanny state" around. Getting involved in this debate is not something I am going to do. However, it does illustrate how weak most people are.

The Lesson From Katrina

The press loves to toss around accusations about the failings of FEMA in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. Certainly, there are valid points that are raised. Without rehashing that train wreck, there is something more fundamental about the lesson from Katrina. The press likes to proclaim how people who depended upon the government were harmed because of FEMA's failures. Dependence upon the government cost these people.

However, there is another group who depended upon the government: the roughly 1,500 people who died. These are the poster children for what happens when one depends upon others. Their faith in the grand power of the government to save them ultimately cost them. The dogma spewed by politicians seeking power lead people down the path to death. They are dead today because they were broken and weak.

Does all this sound to cold for you? Well it should because the world is a cold harsh place. Anyone who buys into the polyanna dogma that offered is a fool waiting to be had. Reliance upon another cedes power over to them. It makes one weak and vulnerable. Those who do so willing are setting themselves up to be walked upon. Nature dictates that, not me.

Katrina was a powerful category 4 hurricane. At times while out in the Gulf, it hit category 5 status. This particular storm was the size of Texas spanning over 500 miles across. Unlike earthquakes which happen without much warning, a hurricane gives one plenty of time. These people knew it was coming.

And what did they do? They sat there while the ignorant leaders they elected failed to take action. Now, I must state that since I live in Florida, we have some idea what these forces of nature are all about. We understand that a category 1 is nothing more than a summer storm. Get your garbage cans in and don't worry about it. As for a category 4, there is only one solution: get the hell out of the way. Do whatever is necessary to get away from that thing. It will kill you if given a chance. Ask any Floridian about this and you will find the same answer.

Most did not die in New Orleans from Katrina. Why is that? Because some used their intelligence to realize that perhaps they ought to take care of themselves. Dependence upon another (whether person or institution) during a crisis is foolish. When your ass is on the line, take action. It is that simple. Dependence can kill you.

But The Poor

Many want to counter the notion I presented with the fact that many of these people were poor. They simple did not have the resources to protect themselves by getting out of town. This is a typical response for the proponent of weakness. There is always an excuse to justify their senseless catering to these type of people. The bottom line is these people should gone to any length to save themselves. If need be, steal a bus. Do whatever is necessary to save yourself.

The truth of the matter is these people were not conditioned to think this way. They had a dependent mindset. The poor in this country is weak. That is not true around the world. Many countries see their poverty stricken fight to live on a daily basis. Each day is a struggle to survive. Not here. Our social programs remove that dire consequence. Instead, we have 2nd and 3rd generation welfare recipients who lack the ability to excel in life. The poor are glorified slaves. Nothing more.

Society likes the dogma of equality. It is a myth but one that is sold as realistic by all the do-gooders. Of course, Katrina showed that nature knows the truth. There is no such thing as equality. Trying to "level the playing field" only creates mediocrity. Every culture throughout the ages has seen those who are strong excel. There are "Elite" in every nation. At the same time, there are also pawns who are used by the powerful. The question is "which one are you going to be".

Changing The Course

In my book Sexual Motivation, I write about the need to tap into that power that is within all of us to move ourselves from the present situation we currently reside. Along these lines, I make reference to the hierarchy that exists within society. If you are to alter you life, you need to do those things which will move you up the ladder. Applying your sexual desires to motivate yourself will lead you to success.

One of the first things you can do to change you position is to realize that most people will do nothing to better themselves. They are of the same mindset of those who died in Katrina. They are so ingrained in dependency that they cannot even save their own lives. Mediocrity is a step up for many people. They exist only to die. That is the story of their life. In between, they do little that makes an impact on anything. The years pass by with continued complaining and bitching about everyone else. Ultimately, their loss is their own making. But these people will never understand that.

The "Elite" view things in a much different light. They understand the mindset of most and take action to separate themselves from the pack. These people use the masses for their own ends. Success if not create in a vacuum. Along the way, you will need the assistance of others. Some do it willingly while others are unknowing pawns. They key is to tap into both to maximize your progress.

The bleeding hearts like to refer to the usury practices of business owners. They sling accusations about being greedy and taking advantage of people who work for them. However, this shows the ignorance of most people. Anyone who works for another does so willingly. He or she trades time for money. That is how it works. Put in 40 (or 80) hours and get a check. You are entitled to wages, not profits (I understand that some companies have profit sharing; that is a different subject). The business owner is the one who profits (or loses). When a business is highly successful, a business owner can make a substantial amount of money.

Many feel this owner has an obligation to share with those who work for him or her. That is untrue. The deal was that an employee would get a paycheck for his/her time. As long as that agreement is fulfilled, an owner has no other obligation. If an employee does not like that, he or she is free to seek work elsewhere. There are no slavery clauses in any employment contract. Anyone can up and quit without reason.

Many see unfairness in this system. What I see is a system that is natural. The people who agree to the employment terms deserve to get stepped upon. They are at the bottom of the food chain. Those who move up the hierarchy know that they are responsible for the choices they make. When one is willing to make the trade of time for money, that is a person who can be leveraged for personal gain. Trying to deny this fact is foolish.

Understand this concept if you want to alter your life. There are many who are around you who will never amount to anything. Now, I am not saying they are not nice people or that they dont have wonderful hearts. That is all probably true. However, the fact is that most of society falls at a place on the hierarchy where they allows others to leverage them for their benefit. Someone is already doing it. In fact, it is being done to you also. The difference is you are now aware of what is happening.

It is a dog-eat-dog world out there. Resist the temptation to buy into anything that tells you otherwise. Only the weak depend upon something outside of them for their success. You are here to forge your own path. Start moving your way up the hierarchy. If not, someone else will be stepping on you.

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Freedom Is Your Choosing

Exercising freedom is your choice. Each day, we all are confronted with decisions. In fact, our day is nothing more than a series of choices that are strung together. What we decide in each of these situations determines the quality of our lives. Therefore, there is nobody to blame for the situations that we find ourselves in. Everything we experience in life is done so at our own choosing.

Of course, this sounds ridiculous to you. This is how you are trained. Blame is something that we excel at. It is far easier to point the finger at someone else and proclaim them responsible for our woes. Sadly, this is incorrect. No matter what the circumstances, we made a decisions somewhere along the line to put ourselves in that situation. Again, that means it is our fault for whatever we experience.

Bondage or Freedom

Most people have the choice whether they experience bondage or freedom. This is something that we choose to do. Once again, since we are the one who makes the decisions in our lives, we are the ones who ultimately select the outcome. If you do not like the results you created thus far, it is time to make different decisions. That is what personal development is all about.

Addicts know what it is like to live in bondage. Anyone who has battled drugs or alcohol (or any addiction for that matter), knows the internal pain associated with trying to quit. At some point in their lives, the substance took control. Thus, freedom of choice was removed. However, those who get clean and sober know that the power of choice is restored. The option of picking up a drink or a drug is up to the person. In short, a person in recovery has a daily choice of living in bondage or freedom. Which is chosen is up to the person.

People who are not addicts also have this same choice. Unfortunately, it is my observation that most opt for the bondage path. They will proclaim themselves free yet lead lives of infantile existence because of fear. Happiness is an illusion for most. Instead of thriving and squeezing all they can out of life, they live the "responsible" way which is code for allowing fear to rule.

It seems like the majority of people want a better life. They are not satisfied with one area or another. Nevertheless, few ever take the action to do something that will make a more than a marginal difference. Fear is the most common jailer and its hold is like a vice. While on one hand they want change, the fear associated with that change is to great. It serves to maintain the status quo. A life ruled by fear is one that will always result in bondage.

Sexual Motivation Is Your Choice

In my book Sexual Motivation, I make the case that sex is the best motivator that humans can tap into. Since I have not heard any of the self-improvement gurus mention this powerful desire, I can only surmise that I am going contrary to the norm by suggesting that each person use sex to motivate him or herself to the highest ends. It is something that is natural within all of us and can be structured so as to empower us. Of course, some de-programming of the societal conditioning is necessary.

Did you realize that what you think about sex is your choice? Few ever take the time to reveal this truth to themselves. In doing so, they blindly accept the premise that society promotes as the norm for sexuality. Did you ever hear that marriage is between a man and a woman? How about the concept that homosexuals are going to burn in hell? Or that sex is something that is meant to express love? All these ideas are commonplace and result in forming the belief system that we carry. However, left unchecked means that someone else is determining how we live.

I am called shallow by many of my critics. They feel there I over simplify what sex is. The idea that sex is something that can be used to motivate oneself (or another) to take action is revolutionary to them. Naturally, it is also immoral and perverted (that is reason enough to check the book out). In the end, their judgments mean nothing to me and I hope the same is true for you. I lead my life how I see fit. They can push their dogma and morays on someone else.

Choosing what you think about sex is one of the most freeing actions you can take. Society is going to control you through your sexual belief system if you allow it. This is something that has occurred for the last couple thousand years. Whenever anyone succumbs to the beliefs of another, they are selecting to live in bondage. People who opt for freedom question what their beliefs are. This is how one retains power.

Check out the ideas contained in Sexual Motivation. I am sure it will be a revolutionary shift for you. The dogma that is commonly promoted does not lead to freedom. The goal is always bondage. Choose to live freely. Question without fear. It is the only true pathway.

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Sexual Motivation: Money

This post is going to be full of stereotypes. The reason why I believe stereotypes are good examples is because they do reflect reality to a certain degree. Of course, there are many who fit outside the stereotypical mindset. Nevertheless, for a large percentage of the population, a stereotype can be accurate. My intention here is to emphasize those that are appropriate for motivation.

There is an old saying: marry the first time for love and the second time for money. Have you ever pondered what this statement really means? To me, it shows the fallacy for many behind the connotation of making a lifelong commitment for love. Since the divorce rate is over 50%, many are finding that this single event can lead to financial ruin. Falling in love and run off with someone "to live happily ever after" is not the norm anymore. Hence, people take a different approach the second time around.

In my book Sexual Motivation, I explain some of the reasons for marriage throughout the ages. Many today would claim that a woman marrying just for money is nothing more than a golddigger. She is considered by society to be a slut, selling her body for money. The common viewpoint is she is nothing more than a whore. Even those who are not so judgmental will call her "shallow". This is what people are conditioned to believe.

Arranged Marriages

Most of history saw marriage used in a different way. Instead of leaving the choice to some starstruck lovers, families often arranged the marriages for their children. This was done in an effort to preserve the family lineage while gaining some political or economic assets. In short, people married for money whether it was to gain it or preserve it.

The odd fact about this is that the arranging of marriages was not done among the common folk. It was the royalty and upper echelon of society. The "Elite" were the ones interested in using marriage for gain. These were the ones who had a vested interest. Those who were middle to lower class were afforded the opportunity to pursue love; they had few assets to consider.

Were women under this system considered whores or sluts. Certainly not. The truth is that people have historically married for reasons other than love. Man's history is littered with times of uncertainty and peril. Often people sought out security as a means of stabilizing their lives. Marriage was a mechanism that offered a ways towards a more stable life.

The Western Culture witnessed something similar throughout its history. While not having arranged marriages, this vehicle was used by many as a path to stability. This is evident when you look at life before the equal rights movement. Women, in the early centuries of this country, were taught that their role was to become a mother and housewife. For this reason, they were not afforded the education and opportunities to pursue a career. Hence, their standard of living was dependent upon someone else. They had little input into their upward mobility.

Perhaps this is where the "golddigger" mentality came from. Women were forced to chase after some of the "Elite" if they had any chance of advancing up societies hierarchy. Of course, the families (and deserving candidates) felt the intrusion when someone "not worthy" tried to catch a well off beau. Instantly, the girl was discredited in an effort to get her to leave. Again, the hierarchy has to be preserved in their opinion.

How Things Do Not Change

The above instances seem archaic and backwater. But, are they really so out of date? Do we not see this behavior exemplified today through the Western Cultures? I cite the example of Donald Trump in my book. Do you think he would approve of one of his children marrying an unemployed steel worker? My belief is that would not go over so well. Obviously, he has higher aspirations for his children.

The hierarchy still exists. Those who are in the "Elite" class seek to keep those who are out. At the same time, those who are lower on the rung are seeking to move upwards. Marriage is still a quick way to get there. In fact, it is one of the fastest and proven methods to alter your social/economic class. While society puts labels people who choose this path, there are many still seeking it.

What does this mean for us looking to use this information to our advantage? Knowing that there is a multi-generational concept in operation allows us to develop a strategy that will attract what we need. However, it will require indulging in the stereotype which, as we see, has validity.

Golddiggers

In Sexual Motivation, I mention how sports car help to prove the stereotype of money for sex exists. Consider the reasoning why one buys a sports car. Does this person spend $60,000+ actually receive something that is twice as good as a $30,000 vehicle? Some might try to make the case that he or she does. For the true automotive enthusiast, this might be true. However, for the average person, I believe there is an ulterior motive.

Why does someone drop the big money on a Porsche? Obviously, this is done to show financial wherewithal. Those who buy this automobile are typically middle aged men who have lost a little on the physical end. Of course, cruising around in a vehicle such as this compensates for that loss. People buy Porsches to get laid. Many will claim otherwise but that is the stereotype which I think fits. You see a overweight, middle-aged, bald guy with a hot girl and tell me the Porsche had nothing to do with it. Of course it did. She is seeking financial stability.

Money is a wonderful motivator. One of the keys to success I mention in my book, is financial. Society rates those who achieve economic success highly. Since that is the case, one can use sexual motivation to attain this end. Self-motivation is what separates those who do from those who wish. Taking action is what makes the difference.

If you are a male, what is your motivation? Simply, you want to get the "golddigger". Now, before jumping off the deep end, I will say there is a difference between being motivated by this end and actually doing it. When you achieve the financial success you desire, who you choose to be with is up to you. You can seek out the girl who wants love, romance, and a deep connection while caring little about money. However, from a motivational standpoint, put yourself in a position to attract the hot girl who is simply looking for the easy ride. This is where we want to get ourselves to take action.

I am a firm believer that sex is one of the most powerful motivators that human have to access. We will do all kinds of crazy things for it. The time has come to start using this power for a productive end. The link between financial success (money) and sex is clear. If you want to get some of the "Elite" sexually, you need to be able to walk in those circles. Money is the mechanism that will attract them. Supermodels are drawn to the rich and powerful. Motivate yourself with the image of attracting one of these people. It is a basic fact that more money means having a wider array of people to have sex with. Use this idea to motivate yourself to the highest financial ends.

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Clarity: A Key To Freedom

Confusion is a wonderful jailer. Most people never get clear about what they truly want. Instead, they settle for whatever life throws their way. Sadly, this usually is not very good which causes them to complain. In the end, a lack of clarity won out.

It is impossible to move towards something unless you know exactly what that is. Goal setting experts will tell you that for something to be considered a real goal it must be measurable. This means that there is a time when you know whether you reached it or not. It is similar to driving across country (I know you all have heard this before). When you set out on a trip, the first thing you do is to plan on your destination. Doing this alleviates increases your chances since you know where you are going.

Sexual Clarity

I often tell people that the best place to start is with one's own sexual lifestyle. You would be amazed how few people proactively chose the sex life that they have. Instead, they allowed the forces around them dictate what is proper behavior and what is not. Come on. What is more personal than sex. Surely, this is one area that anyone has the complete freedom to choose? A quick look around society will tell you that the exact opposite is true.

Nowhere is control from the outside more evident than in the sexual arena. People are influenced by a variety of institutions, individuals, and dogma. Unfortunately, this occurs without any knowledge on the person's part. The conditioning that takes place happens over decades. It starts from the youngest of ages until we thoroughly adhere to the dogma. Each of us is subject to this so, unless one actively seeks to reprogram him or herself, the result is blind obedience.

Decide what you want out of your sex life. Spend time getting clear exactly what you want things to look like. Forget the preconceived notions that you have. Your programming will scream at many of the ideas that you might come up with. The dogma we were taught is powerful and you learned it well. Now is time to really consider what will make you happy.

Susceptible To Control

Confusion allows for someone else to assume control. Have you ever seen a movie where there is a traumatic scene where people are in jeopardy? Often, in these films, the person who is "in charge" freezes resulting in a lack of decision. He or she just doesn't know what to do. Fortunately, for all those involved, the films hero is there to step in and take control. The indecision and lack of certainty on the part of the leader opens the door for someone else.

Our minds are the same way. When we are uncertain about what we are going to do, we allow someone else to make the decisions. This can happen with another person who is there who actually makes the choice for us. Or, it might be a previous idea that was planted by someone else in the past. Nevertheless, the end result is we are not consciously choosing what we want. This is enabling us to be controlled in that moment. Once again, this shows how confusion is a wonderful jailer.

Breaking Free

The process of breaking free from bondage is to decide what you want. It is that simple. In my book Sexual Motivation, I mentioned that determining your sexual desires enables you to be firm in your decisions. To thy own self be true. Live your life for you and nobody else. This is where we find happiness.

So, do you want an open sexual relationship? Are you gay? Bisexual? Polyamorous? Polysexual? Do you like to masturbate but feel guilty about it? Is anal sex something that you want to try? Whatever the preference, determine that it is something for you. Do not allow the dogma of the past to affect you. Who cares what others think! If it makes you happy, then pursue it. This is what creates freedom.

With a little clarity you will start to see the power in this concept. Momentum is built the moment that you realize what you want. A lot of energy in life is wasted on activities that we do not care about nor do they net much effect. Removing this practice allows us to focus our attention that those tasks which will create a benefit to us. Freedom dictates this is what we go after. Resist the temptation to justify living any other way.

Get clear about what you want in life and you will be free to go after it.

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Standing On Your Own Two Feet

Sexual motivation presumes that you are one of those people who wants to stand on your own two feet. I just got done reading "Atlas Shrugged" by Ayn Rand. In it, the producers all go on strike because they are tired of being taken advantage of by the "moochers" (politicians, professors, unions, and welfare seekers). They remove themselves from the abuse of society which leads to its' decay.

Naturally, I could go into a long political discussion about the present day events. I will spare you the details of that. However, it is important to note that there is a certain mindset which needs to be emphasized. People who are "elite" have the idea that they are the ones who make things happen. It is they who take the action that brings about results. When things do not transpire as planned, these are the ones who resist the temptation to blame others for what occurred. Instead, they survey the present situation in an effort to find a solution. We can only move from the point that we are at.

Are you one who wants to blame others for you plight? If you are, sexual motivation will not work for you. It is something that is beneficial to those who want to produce. Action is the key to getting results. Being responsible for your life starts in your mind. This is where personal power comes from.

Being sexually driven is something that most people can tap into. Nevertheless, there is no need to do that if the your main objective is to get home in time to watch reruns of some television program. There needs to be more.

John Galt, one of the main characters in Atlas Shrugged gives a speech where he shows the separation in the mindset of the two classes of people. Producers believe in the power of the mind. It is the ability of one's mind to create that separates us from the animal kingdom. What are you doing with yours?

Use your sexual motivation to create more in your life. There are unlimited opportunities in this world today. Even though things are difficult, there is wealth being created in all areas of life. While your financial life might not be spectacular, you can take action to create an improved body. Notice the key word, YOU. Sexual motivation taps into the power within you to get the results in your life.

Start the process by seeking to stand on your own two feet. Nobody else is to blame for how your life is. If there is something that you do not like, then begin to make the changes necessary to improve your circumstances.

Creating The Elite

The main idea behind sexual motivation is to enable people to tap into the natural potential which resides within them. Most of us are capable of so much more. Yet, we buy into the concepts of a society which lead to mediocrity. It is sad to witness but this fact offers an opportunity for those willing to move ahead. People who learn how to take action are able to enjoy the success above everyone else.

Society preaches dependence. This is the main message we receive when we look at the basic ideas of the governments, charities, and religious institutions. Individual dreams and desires is being replaced with the idea of "the greater good". It is something that causes those with talent to "sacrifice" for the benefit of others. We are taught that we are compassionate, loving, and altruistic. This is not true. What we are is allowing ourselves to be robbed of all that we can create because of the inner abilities we have.

Sex is one of the most powerful forces on Earth. We see its power each time we witness what one is giving up for this elusive force. Nevertheless, we are taught to forgive the "transgressions" of these individuals. Instead of admitting they are following a natural desire, we are told these people are "fallible". Society preaches that there is something wrong with following our natural desires. It places conditions on our behavior by teaching us what is right and what is wrong.

Those who are able to see this outlook for what it is are able to overcome the conditioning. This is why I call it "creating the elite". Being elite is a category that is above the masses. People who are elite can do things that are out of reach for the masses. They have privileges because of their place in society.

Those who are able to practice sexual motivation attain the elite status. While the majority of people are following the tenets which breeds mediocrity, we tap into those desires which result in success. Everything in the world is available for conquest. This is an idea that goes back to the beginning of civilization. Following certain patterns of behavior creates success in any field, culture, or society. The only question is whether action is taken or not.

Sexual motivation is all about taking action. We believe this is the best way to get oneself to take those steps which ultimately lead to success. Tapping into one of the most powerful forces ever created will yield much greater results as opposed to hoping and praying for things to be different. Those who wish enjoy nothing more than pipedreams. Those who act enjoy all this planet has to offer.

Abstinence-One Way To Motivate

Here is something to consider: what if I had the power to determine whether you would ever have sex again or not? I know, that power already is being utilized by your wife. But seriously, what if you had to have my permission to have sex and I would only grant it based upon certain parameters being met? How do you think your life would change? I would bet it would see an noticeable jump upwards.

The reason why I say this is because I can hold one to a very high standard. The foundation of sexual motivation is to open ourselves up the ingrained power that is our sexual desire. This is something that is natural and, other than the desire for survival, the more powerful desire we have.

Envisioning yourself living life without sex will provide insight into the magical force this is. How do you feel about never having sex again? Abstinence, or the threat of, can be really motivating. I used this technique many times to get myself over periods of stagnation.

Many motivational experts will use the love of one's children to emphasize how one can always move things up to another level. They will ask a person if he or she could complete the action if the life of the children was at stake. Often, they will mention that if you do not do this, your children will die (graphic but effective). When confronted with this prospect, naturally most will say that they will find a way to get it accomplished.

This is the same idea. What we need to do is to stimulate the mind to get out of the way. If you believe you can do no more, then you are right. However, if we add certain stimuli, we often find a new belief is created. Suddenly, when faced with the prospect of lifelong abstinence, one finds the internal fortitude to succeed. Of course, this is something that was there all along, the mind just bought into the excuses that one offered up. Sexual motivation is how we break free from the consequences of those excuses.

One final thought on this idea: couples can really use this as a means of getting the other to step up. Decide on some things that need to be done. Use sex as a reward and abstinence as a punishment. Watch how quickly motivation changes when confronted with this situation. You will see productivity increase substantially.

Play around with this idea and see where it gets you.

Think Bigger

Are you a victim of "small thinking"? This is the syndrome which stricken most to a life of mediocrity. The vast percentage of the population sabotages themselves by the thoughts they have. Few will enter the realm where they allow their dreams to roam freely. We become products of an average mindset.

If you want to be a huge success, it is vital that you enlarge your thinking. Those who achieve greatness have vivid dreams. For many, their imagination is their most valuable asset. They simply think on a level which is higher than most. Fortunately, this is something that is available to everyone who is willing to grasp it.

Sex is one of the most powerful motivators we have. One's sexual lifestyle tends to show the level of thinking that one has. Do you have an incredible sex life or are you one who settles for less than you want? This is an indication of where you are. If you are one who goes after those who are in "your range", then you are a victim of little thinking. Why can't you have the supermodel? Someone is getting that person. Why not you?

I will tell you why: because you most likely are not even in the game. People who think like everyone else live life on the sidelines. They do not venture out because of the risk of rejection. Their precious egos are too frail to handle it. They will walk the safe path in hopes that things might someday change. Of course we all know it will not.

Going after someone sexually who you "consider above you" is a wonderful way to step out of your old thinking. This is one area where you will instantly see tangible results. Of course, you need to be aware that the risk of rejection is still there. However, we are not concerned about what the outcome is (if he or she goes for it, great). The important part of all this is that you actually take the action to get out of your old behavior. Just approaching a person like this yields beneficial results.

This concept applies to all areas of your life. There is nothing that is limited other than what your mind creates. Living a mediocre life is a choice. The only reason you are where you are is because you chose it. Resist the temptation to blame all others around you. Take responsibility for your life. If you life is "too small", it is because you are a little thinker. Unleash the power of your dreams by enlarging the arena in your mind. Remember, mentally there are no limits.
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Giving Away Your Sex Life

Who controls your sex life? Are you one of those people who believes that you do? Do you really believe that? If so, have you ever thought about your sexual beliefs? My hypothesis is that you have not. Few people ever consider what they believe. They simply accept those beliefs as truth.

My experience is that most people give their sex lives away. They do not forge their own sexual lifestyle. Instead, they allow the influences of others to hold power over them. In the end, it is others who are dictating what one does sexually.

If you feel this untrue, look at all those one will consider before having sex. How many people feel guilty about having sex outside of marriage? Obviously, they are allowing the influence of the religious zealot to affect how they feel about their sexual activities. Peers also have a way of directing who we will sleep with. Many people fall prey to worrying what their friends will think before going to bed with someone who is "less than desirable".

All these different groups hold power over the masses. Society uses sex as a method of maintaining the order it wants. Sex is the second most powerful desire next to the desire to live. Anyone who can control the sex desire controls the person. Religions, long the power base in historical societies, have done this for centuries. Sex outside of marriage is a sin, period. And, certain sex acts within the marriage are also sins.

If you buy into any of this stuff then you are giving away your sex life. Individual power does not come by doing that. This is one of the reasons why I believe that sex as a motivator is never used. People do not retain the power over their sex lives. It is something that they freely toss to another (person or institution) without a thought. If you are to live according to the ideals of sex as a motivator, you must take this power back.

Personal development begins with the inward search as to what makes you go. We all have natural inclinations that are present within us. Some are consistent with humanity while others are particular to certain people. Those who question the beliefs and ideals that are instilled by others are those who have a chance of breaking free. Freedom ultimately leads to success. Bondage or imprisonment (of the mind) always ends in failure. Giving away your sex life is a catastrophic failure.

It is best to recognize others for what they are. Everyone seeks to assume control. It is a basic tenet of humanity. This is true at the level of the individual, group, or society. A government wants to have control over the masses. Politicians continually seek to gain more power. Religious entities promise eternal damnation without adherence to their beliefs. Parents want the happiness of their children as long as it fits into the parameters they choose. Everywhere you turn, someone is going to influence how you think.

Start by regaining your sex life back. Sit down and decide what you want sexually. How can you exercise the natural power that is within you to make yourself happier and more successful? Where are you presently altering your behavior to satisfy the beliefs of another? These are all ideas which will help you to shape the sex life that you desire.

Actions Not Words

We are judged based upon our actions. Words are meaningless unless we follow them up with action. This is the mistake that many make. It is easy to talk a "big game". However, backing those words up is a different matter altogether.

Sexual motivation is all about using the natural desires within us to move ourselves to action. The world is watching how we behave and all success depends upon our ability to act. Those who succumb to procrastination end up living a life that is wrought with disappointment.

Some of the best examples show this point emphatically. Let us use our physical body. Many can use losing weight. We are a nation of "lard asses" who need to get active. This is not a secret. In fact, most will tell you they need to lose weight. However, do they ever do anything about it? For the majority, the answer is "no".

Talking about losing weight will not bring about success. The same is true for business, money, or relationships. All the promises in the world are worthless without action. Success is a result of taking action in some form. All my writing is a result of me sitting down and doing it. Tax returns are filed because accountants fill them out. Building erected only after people get busy building them. At some point, everything needs to move from the planning stage.

The power of success is a great motivator to get people to act. Whenever you can picture yourself getting a sexual payoff, you are more likely to take some action. Overcoming fears that reside in our mind is often part of the process. Nevertheless, the payoff is worth it when sex is involved.

Another example which shows how important action is in the area of relationships. Many fall prey to the fear of rejection. When confronted with the prospect of asking someone out, often the mind will picture all the bad that can happen from that question. It instantly jumps to the rejection. Of course, it is impossible to get laid without asking someone out. Failure to do so will only lead to masturbation.

Consider these words as you go through your day. How much time are you spending doing as opposed to thinking. We need to understand how important taking action is. If we are continually procrastinating, then we will suffer the consequences for that. The world has a way of finding and rewarding those who take action. Make sure you are one of them.

Success Key: Focus

Did you know the ability to focus is one of the most basic needs for success? Many believe they have this capability yet further analysis quickly reveals they do not. We are in the age of instant messenging, cell phones, and Internet on the run. With all those things going on around us, it is easy to get distracted.

I once heard a quote on M*A*S*H that made a lot of sense. Winchester, the uptight Bostonian doctor, told the others that "he does one thing at a time, he does it well, then he moves on". This is a sound aspiration to have. The ability to focus our complete attention on one activity makes us much stronger.

Multi-tasking seems to be the mantra of the day. The problem with this idea is that the brain has the ability to only focus on one thing at a time (at the conscious level). Multi-tasking only serves to split our attention between two (or more) details. Simple division will lead you to understand that concentrating on two things at one time will make you 50% effective.

Actually, this idea is a bit misleading. As mentioned, the mind can only focus on one thing at a time. When you have two things going simultaneously, your attention truly switches back and forth between the two activities. Therefore, the mind is in 100% concentration yet it is constantly starting and stopping. This leads to ineffectiveness. The concept of momentum is another powerful tool for success and it is impossible to generate while switching in this manner.

To take your life to the next level, start to harness the power of the mind. Focusing on one thing at a time is how that is accomplished. This will take practice to develop the discipline. We are so trained to mentally be in many different areas at one time. For example, how many web browser do you have open at this moment? Obviously you can only view one page at a time. Nevertheless, most people have more than one tab open. Add to that the fact that the instant messenger is on and you can see how getting anything accomplished is tested.

The best way to start is to turn all that stuff of. Shut off the television, close the web browsers, and instant messenger to reduce distractions. Focus on only doing what is directly in front of you with complete attention. You will quickly notice how much more effective you are. Also, an added bonus is realized: you will get things done in a shorter period of time. The momentum developed by concentrating on one activity allows you to garner all the power of your mind. This is the foundation of success.

Getting Started

This is one of the fundamentals of success. Nothing is ever accomplished if you never get started. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step (or something like that). Thus, we are going to look at the concept of taking the first action.

Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.

Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.

Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.

Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.

Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.

Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.

To your success.

Creating Your Life-Start With Sex

People are often wondering how they can change their lives. They spend thousands of dollars on products in an effort to find that magical nugget which will completely transform their lives. Sadly, for most, they never uncover it. Instead, they follow the same path of "quiet desperation" that was the theme their entire life.

My belief is that most people lead lives that someone else chose for them. Few people ever take the time to consider how they got where they are. Going one step further, almost nobody ever questions how their belief system arose. Instead, they simply take for granted that what they believe is correct. Well, how did those beliefs get there? The answer is someone else ingrained them in that person's head.

Societal conditioning is one of the most powerful external forces we will ever face. It comes at us from all sides. When you look at the development of a child, there are numerous influences upon him or her which leave lasting impressions. In short, the entire thought process is created by others. These people are parents, teachers, religious folks, politicians, and peers. Simply put, we are a product of our environment.

Why do people in Boston root for the Red Sox as opposed to the Yankees? Why do we believe in equal rights while those followers of Islam consider women second class citizens? The answer is that people are conditioned by others to believe what they do.

Society has a way of taking complete control of a person's life. Most people, in this country at least, end up married. Why is that? The reason is that is what is expected of people. An alternative choice is not readily offered. People who choose the "single" lifestyle are questioned whether they are gay or not. Hell, now even the gays are asking for marriage. It is societies magical elixir. It is what "normal" people do.

We are also taught to be responsible by getting a good education, going to work, and paying our bills. This is what good citizens do. Few are taught techniques which will promote financial freedom. Society wants us to take the conservative road because, as the recent economic crisis shows, wide-spread gambling by a culture can have catastrophic consequences. Nevertheless, most people follow these tenets precisely.

Even our sex lives are determined for us although few ever consider this reality. The majority of people are heterosexual. I believe this is something that is biological. However, there still exists a great prejudice against people who are homosexual although that stigma is diminishing. The same is true for transsexuals, polygamists, and people into S&M. They are called perverts and shunned. That there is something wrong with those people is the common belief. They do not fit into society's idea of "normal.

Even in the heterosexual arena sexual behavior is dictated by others. The conditioning applies to people in all walks of life. There is a belief which determines how people are to behave sexually. Even in the privacy of their own bedroom, they are still influenced by what is deemed appropriate by others.

I once had a relationship with a woman which became sexual. This woman was from a strict religious background meaning that our sexual encounters were a sin (according to her belief). Also, she has it in her mind that sex was only suppose to go to a point. In other words, she had a preconceived notion of what "good girls" did. Her idea limited her lack of willingness to stray into anything she considered deviant. This made for an extremely boring sex life. Of course, believing anything different then what she was taught was unfathomable to this person.

Here is where you can begin to take control of your life. If you truly want to create a life that is yours, start by creating the sex life you desire. Consider all the sexual possibilities that exist in the world. Do you want polygamy? Does swinging interest you? Are you bi? Is the wonderful world of BDSM of interest to you? These are all sexual practices engaged in by normal people everyday. If they are of interest to you, why aren't you pursuing them? The time has come for you to decide what you want.

Being sexually honest with yourself takes courage. Everywhere you turn in society, there is some faction telling you to go against what is true to you. Remember, stability is what society is after. That is why it conditions people the way that it does. If you have fallen victim to this mindset, start by questioning how you live your sex life. You will be amazed how much influence others have on your "private" act.

Sex Game To Motivate

There is a very simple way to get yourself to take action: enlist someone to have sex with you if you complete it. For 95% of the people out there, the idea of getting laid as a reward will instantly stimulate action towards a desired end. There is nothing more powerful than the allure of sex. Couple this with the idea that sex is guaranteed if a task is completed and you have enough drive to move mountains.

I know what you are all thinking: how can I demean the most precious act between a couple. Get real. Do you really buy into that dribble? The truth is that most people, after a few months with the same partner, are interested in "getting off". While they may still have their partners interest at heart, they are concerned with their own. This is equally true for men as well as women.

Once again we see how society puts sex in an unrealistic position. Sex can be an expression of love. It is also a physical act culminating with a physical climax (if done right). We see how the attachment people have to sex changes things. Take a relationship for example: everything changes when you have sex with that other person. But does it need to be that way? In my opinion it does not.

The other area of resistance is the idea that providing sex to another as a reward will make one into a "prostitute". Again I say grow up. Spread you legs and let the boy have his way. Deep down we are all sexual beings. The idea of assisting someone you care about to reach his or her highest potential is beyond words. Why shouldn't you offer the most powerful motivator the Universe ever created? Obviously because of past stigmas.

Couples who play a sex game such as this find their relationship is deeper and more exciting. There is nothing wrong with offering sex as reward for a job well done. Hell, people need not be couples to utilize the technique. Friends can provide the same motivation to each other. In fact, that often is a greater motivator than when it is a spouse. We all love to have new experiences and nowhere is this truer than in the sexual arena.

My basic belief is that people put too much emphasis on sex. It is something that most people thoroughly enjoy. Therefore, it has the power to completely alter one's lot in life. When you find that you are falling behind on certain tasks, just find someone who will agree to have sex with you if you complete them. I can assure you that your productivity will increase immediately.

Passion Is The Key

What usually separates the successful from the unsuccessful? One word: PASSION. Those who enjoy success are passionate about what they do. They are willing to put in the extra hours necessary to excel at their craft. Passion is what separates those who watch the minutes ticking by until they can leave from those who enjoy profitable days. Passion is what makes life exciting and enjoyable.

Passion starts with a mindset. Sexual motivation is successful because it is driven by something most people are passionate about: sex. Sex has the power to completely transform or destroy lives. Too often we see the later occur. The case of the South Carolina Governor is proof of that. If this desire has the ability to make him risk everything by traveling to a foreign land, don't you think it has the power to motivate you to take action in your life? I believe that it does.

My problem with those I meet in everyday life is that they are simply existing. Their lives are all spelled out for them. They are at a certain place Monday through Friday. At certain times of the year they are allowed to take vacation. Life is a constant struggle to make end meets. Sadly, they consistently spend their lives looking ahead. They never exist in the present moment.

Notice the lack of passion in that description. This is how most people feel. If you doubt my conclusion, simply take a look at those at your local mall. You will see the struggle on their faces. Any joy that is seen is on the children. The conditioning of life has not taken its toll on these beings. Nevertheless, you see it on most everyone over 30. They are at the point where the excitement is replaced with the tyranny of responsibilities. Life gets too hard for them.

What they lack is passion. This is true even in their relationships. Watch the interaction of most couples who are together more than 5 years. They simply act like roommates. There is no excitement or zest. They are not motivated by sex or anything else. Each day is just tolerated.

My idea is to change that. Life offers a lot more than simply an existence. While anyone is free to choose this route, I prefer to live on a higher plane. There is a zest that comes from accomplishment. For me, the desire to increase my sexual experiences motivates me to be productive. I can apply the sex based mindset to anything I need to accomplish. Challenges are easier to overcome when you have motivation. Sexual motivation is the most powerful force that I can think of.

This concept allows you to implement passion back into your life. It is the way to increase the likelihood for success. Everyone has to undertake activities that he or she dislikes. Nobody gets to do what they want all the time. There are always tasks which need our attention regardless of how distasteful they are. Approaching them with passion enables us to move beyond the mundane to what truly excites us.

Remember that passion is the key for all success. Long term achievement is only accomplished by loving what we are doing. Loving life is a wonderful beginning. This begins in the mind. Resolve today to believe that you are going to make this day spectacular. There is nothing that says you just have to tolerate it. Being passionate about life will transcend into all areas. Start the process right now.

The Ability To Go Against The Grain

It takes a certain inner strength to be able to go against the grain. People want to do what is popular. Fitting in is something that is basic to most individuals. I presume it is inherent in us as humans. Only a select few in any generation were able to rebel against common thought. At some level, we all want to be considered "normal".

Unfortunately, normal in this generation is the path to mediocrity. Following the herd leads to another form of slavery. The recent financial crisis reveals how the "American Dream" can be smashed in a few short months. Now, there are millions of people who are dependent upon the decisions of others for their existence. The laid off only hope their unemployment compensation and/or welfare payments are granted. At the same time, many workers are hoping they are not the next one chosen to be let go. Their lives are all in the hands of others.

What was the cause of all this: debt. People lived above their means for way too long. We spend a great deal of effort trying to have all the things that impress others. Being normal meant going to school to get a "secure" job which paid well while allowing us to accumulate all those things which would make us happy. Those items were: a foreign automobile, an over sized house, exotic vacations, and designer clothing. This mindset gave the entire nation a huge debt load. When things collapsed, they brought almost everyone down with them.

Succeeding requires going against the grain. This takes courage. Those who walk a different path risk being alienated by those closest to him/her. Isolation is something that most people will do almost anything to avoid. Being an outcast is a sentence heavier than most can handle.

The entire concept of sex based motivation goes against many tenets of our culture. We like to portray ourselves as an "evolved" society. There are times we seem to evoke the Victorian principles of yesteryear. Everything that is wrong with society can be attributed to some form of moral decay. This is what we are taught. The idea of using something that is inherent within us is contrary to what "upstanding" people do. Entertaining the sexual side of ourselves is not normal; that is something the perverts do. By classifying our behavior, society exerts control over us. It is only by getting out from under this control that we can call ourselves free.

The recent events in this country show us where following the herd leads us. It is time for each of us to take the power over our lives. We lived under the myth of society for long enough. Success is something that is available to each individual. However, we first must decide what our definition of that is. Then, it takes us setting up a plan for achieving the results we desire. Finally, we take action to get to the point that we are destined. It is that simple. Yet, we must be the one to take these steps. Leaving it to others can have catastrophic results.

How Fear Controls Us

Fear is a enemy that most people fight on a regular basis. However, it is so subtle that most do not know the power that it wields. Fear has the ability to completely destroy one's life without issuing a single challenge. It simply silently kills all life one day at a time.

The problem with humans is that we project. Our minds have the ability to create pictures in our head. These images are so real that we believe they are real. The mind cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy. If it sees the image, it takes it to be true.

At the same time, the mind also has the ability to protect us from peril. When it determines a situation to be dangerous, it will emit signals that foster our protection. The feeling of fear will be felt throughout the body thus increasing the releasing of chemicals to assist us. It is the basic fight or flight response.

Naturally, most of what we encounter does not require this life or death response. Nevertheless, the mind will do all it can to protect itself (us) from harm. Fear is the tool that is most valuable in this effort. The mind conjures up response to our images which it deems necessary for protection.

Sadly, the mind favors status quo. The unknown is something the mind abhors. When it does not know the outcome to a situation, the mind cannot let that exist. It will invent an outcome. Most often this image is a negative one. The majority of the population has the brain trained to seek the negative. It is the default mindset. Instead of projecting positively, the mind takes the opposite track. This allows it to increase the fear within the body and move to a situation that it knows.

Let us relate this to our favorite subject, sex. Specifically, what happens when a guy sees a woman that he is sexually interested in. Most often it goes something like this: something about her physically catches his attention. The next step is he has an argument in his head as to whether to approach her. One side says to go for it while the other argues against it. At this point, the projection mechanism kicks in. He starts to play in his mind what will happen if he goes up to her. Suddenly, the mind, disliking the uncertainty, focuses upon an image with a horrific outcome. If there were bad experiences in the past, it will draw upon them. His mind will "see" the most outrageous outcome ever experienced by a man. This circumstance passes fear and moves to stark terror. Naturally, any chance of approaching this sexy woman is long gone. The fear took complete control of the situation.

This is a basic example of how the mind uses fear to control us. It is one that most of us can identify with in one way or another. We all have felt the fear in our bodies when interacting with someone who we were attracted to. The fact that we have no idea what the outcome will be is what causes the mind to delve towards the "worst case scenario". Again, the mind abhors the unknown.

Creating better pictures in our head is the fundamental change that we all need to make. The fact that the fear we are listening to is not based in reality shows that we buy into something that is false. Fear is not real. There is no basis whatsoever to follow this insane mind concept. Yet we do. Applying sexual motivation to our lives is paramount to success. Turning the mental makeup from one of failure to success is crucial. The above situation is one that we return to over and over. Learn to alter you behavior by approaching someone of the opposite sex. We want the mind to begin to reference positive experiences with this behavior. In doing so, we will be able to draw upon this in all our other activities.

Components of Sexual Motivation

The idea that we are motivated by sex is not a novel concept. Studies dating back to the late 1940s were undertaken in an effort to unmask the animal called human sexuality. Those in the scientific community have long wondered what is the fascination with sex. And, why does it have so much power over us.

Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.

The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.

Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.

How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.

Uptight Society

This evening, I watched a program detailing the porn industry. It was interesting to see how an "advanced" society such as ours is still in the dark ages when it comes to sex. To many, pornography is the basis for all that is wrong with society. They believe that every ill society faces is traced back to this vice.

My question is why is this such a large industry? Estimates have it pegged at roughly $13 billion a year in the United States alone. The answer to that question lies in the simple fact that it is inherent in our human nature. Man (the species, not the gender) is a sexual animal. We are one of the few who chooses sex freely. Most other mammals engage in sex simply as part of the mating process. We have the ability of when we do it and with whom. That is not something that can be overlooked.

It is intriguing to note how society tries to place a lid on our sexual practices. Talking about sex is inappropriate in most circles. There are laws banning it in public. Hell, even nudity in public is banned in most places. And we have the gall to believe that we have advanced since the Victorian Era? What a farce.

The simple fact is that anyone who embraces his or her sexual side is further advanced than many out there. Society, with all its different factions, is intent on having us deny this side of ourselves. Religions throughout the world profess the taboo of sex except within certain parameters. Failure to honor this accord will result in eternal damnation. Sex is a route straight to hell we are taught.

To me, this is absurd. However, I am so glad that the general populous thinks this way. It is far easier to get ahead of the pack when they are tied to the starting line. Going through life denying our sexual motives and desires is like showing up for a gun fight with a knife. You are extremely under armed. When I approach life situations, I understand how my sexual desires are motivating me. All that is around us is a result of sexual urges. Those who are at the top typically have the greatest sexual aura. A high sex drive is a common trait of successful people. It is part of being the "alpha" male.

Society is uptight. Grasping this concept will allow you to maneuver through it to your advantage. Sex is natural and the desire for more is inbred within us. People are motivated by these urges often with tragic results. Those who understand the philosophy I am promoting are able to use its power for gain instead of loss. You will soon comprehend that you are excelling while others are falling victim to this power. Harness it for you own benefit.