Society has a way of trying to implement it's philosophies and morality upon people. This is the essence of collective thought. It also is the method which the powerful have controlled the masses for centuries. The greatest threat to the establishment is the individual thinker.
It is no secret that the Catholic Church has ruled the masses throughout the ages. Its dogma has permeated the minds of millions upon millions. Ultimately, using the fear of eternal damnation, the Church was (and still is) able to control every aspect of one's life. Even the privacy of the bedroom is penetrated by the mindset of the Church.
Individualism provides us with another outlook. Without going into all the details which could take pages, we learn the individuals are free to choose whatever they want. Your individual mind is the most important contraption on this planet. It is up to you to develop what you can out of it. This includes you entire belief system. Your responsibility it to create one that works for you.
My writings all present an outlook that does not subscribe to fear. I know the lunacy of buying into the age-established concept that is meant to control my mind and my life. Do you see it too? Dogma, no matter who is the provider, is a way to enslave. It is true whether it comes from the altar or the capitol. Structured thought is the way of the weak. Those who fall into it are bound to live as slaves. This is supported by bounds of examples throughout history.
Sexual motivation tells you to break free from the ridiculous dogma affecting the majority of society. The teachings that were presented to us remove the basic instinctual power that is present within all of us. Since we are conditioned to behave in a certain way, we suppress that which is our greatest ally: our personal sexual desires.
Men are taught that we must be respectful. Women love a man who can cry. These are the themes that are presented by the collective mindset. In other words, a man is not to be a man. The natural desire for sexual conquest needs to be suppressed. We are told that is not how mature, evolved human beings behave. I say bullcrap to that.
On the flip side, women are to be virtuous and virginal. They are also taught to suppress the natural desires in quest of being considered a "good girl". Society promotes this belief starting at a young age in an effort to indoctrinate and create obedience. Those who stray from the collective belief are called "slut" and "whore". Once again, we see control exerted over behavior.
The elite do not buy into these concepts. Those who excel understand what it means to be an individual. It bears a great deal of responsibility yet is the only true path to freedom. Utilizing all your desires for personal gain is what life is all about. Naturally, we are not talking about stepping on the rights of others. There is a proper ethical protocol that we are all to subscribe to. However, we are not to blindly obey the teachings of those who are intent on enslaving us with their collectivism.
The individual mind is the most powerful weapon on the planet. All great achievements originated in the mind of an individual. This is why societies have fought to stamp this out of people for so many centuries. Sexual motivation is imploring your to regain the power that exists within you naturally. Do not let the idea that you are going to be called a slut deter you from tapping into this miraculous power. Ultimately, it is still your life to live. All achievement, or lack thereof, is your responsibility.
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Sunday, December 6, 2009
Monogamy?
The Tiger Woods episode exemplifies how our culture is focused on something that goes against natural norms. Let us start by asking "was anyone surprised that Tiger Woods was sleeping around". Many seemed to claim that it went against his image as a nice, clean-cut guy. My answer to that is "hogwash". He is a normal male with the access to women that most men can only dream about.
Here is the situation: Woods is rich, famous, good looking, well built, and the best in his field. What is the confusion concerning his sex patterns? Don't people realize that monogamy among celebrities is the exception not the rule. In fact, if you think about it, this is true for most of society.
Why do we subject ourselves to this mess? I, for one, do not see Tiger's conquests as any problem. Where I take offense to what he did is concerning the deceit with his wife. As an advocate for openness, I cannot support the lying that took place within his relationship. Of course, she might have had some sense going into this also. Monogamy is a methodology that has run its course. I believe mankind, as the rest of nature, was never designed to live in this manner.
In my opinion, what should have happened is that Woods go to his girlfriend (now his wife) and tell her of his interest in being married and starting a family. In addition, she should expect him to have other relations with women. However, when it comes to love (a subject for another day), he is hers. Sex is an entirely different manner. When he is on the road, there will be times when someone else garners his interest. That interest will be pursued periodically.
This openness would leave her with a choice: she could leave or move forward. Either way, everything would be out on the table. Those who are open about living a polygamous lifestyle never find themselves in the situation Woods did. The truth is that Tiger's sex habits didn't get him in trouble, rather, his concealing of those habits did. Being open would have averted a great deal of trouble.
Naturally, Woods was not taught this lesson. Few in our culture are shown this. Instead, we are conditioned to believe that a marriage needs to include monogamy and that we ought to be faithful to the one we love. Yet we see this same tape played repeatedly in every walk of life. Each day, divorce courts are filled with people who "strayed". The financial and emotional price paid is dear. Ultimately, this myth is exposed with individuals being hurt.
Sadly, when it comes to sex, we ignore another of culture's lessons: honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront and tell him or her what you are into. It alleviates many headaches in the future.
Here is the situation: Woods is rich, famous, good looking, well built, and the best in his field. What is the confusion concerning his sex patterns? Don't people realize that monogamy among celebrities is the exception not the rule. In fact, if you think about it, this is true for most of society.
Why do we subject ourselves to this mess? I, for one, do not see Tiger's conquests as any problem. Where I take offense to what he did is concerning the deceit with his wife. As an advocate for openness, I cannot support the lying that took place within his relationship. Of course, she might have had some sense going into this also. Monogamy is a methodology that has run its course. I believe mankind, as the rest of nature, was never designed to live in this manner.
In my opinion, what should have happened is that Woods go to his girlfriend (now his wife) and tell her of his interest in being married and starting a family. In addition, she should expect him to have other relations with women. However, when it comes to love (a subject for another day), he is hers. Sex is an entirely different manner. When he is on the road, there will be times when someone else garners his interest. That interest will be pursued periodically.
This openness would leave her with a choice: she could leave or move forward. Either way, everything would be out on the table. Those who are open about living a polygamous lifestyle never find themselves in the situation Woods did. The truth is that Tiger's sex habits didn't get him in trouble, rather, his concealing of those habits did. Being open would have averted a great deal of trouble.
Naturally, Woods was not taught this lesson. Few in our culture are shown this. Instead, we are conditioned to believe that a marriage needs to include monogamy and that we ought to be faithful to the one we love. Yet we see this same tape played repeatedly in every walk of life. Each day, divorce courts are filled with people who "strayed". The financial and emotional price paid is dear. Ultimately, this myth is exposed with individuals being hurt.
Sadly, when it comes to sex, we ignore another of culture's lessons: honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront and tell him or her what you are into. It alleviates many headaches in the future.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
What Is Your Highest Value?
This is a question that few seem to ever consider. Instead, they trot through life going blindly from one day to the next. Nothing ever changes because the truth is that everyday resembles every other. While there might be minor changes like holidays or vacations, the fact is that each week ends up like the previous.
Determining what you value is what adds juice to your life. The few who take the time to uncover this fact about themselves live a higher quality of life than those who do not. These are the people who are awakened. Their existence takes on an entirely new meaning. Instantly, they develop something called "passion".
What is your highest value? Have you ever considered this for even a second? Putting some effort into these answers might yield insight into ways to change your life. Instead of blindly moving from day-to-day, you have the opportunity to design a life program that is fun and exciting.
For me, freedom is the highest value that I have. I attempt to structure as much of my life around this quality as I can. When I look at the aspects of my life today compared to 5 years ago, the change is remarkable. Of course, there still is a great deal of work to be done. Over the next few years, I am seeking to take my life path to an even greater level.
One of the first areas that I started this transformation was sexually. I learned a number of years ago the power of sex. It was such a motivator in my life and the lives that I witnessed. I saw seemingly reasonable people do the craziest things for sex. They were willing to risk great things in an effort to get laid. This is when I determined that sex could be an incredible motivator.
Looking at my life, I realized that monogamy was not for me. It is something that I wrestled with for years. Since I made this decision, I designed my life around this very premise. By doing this, I enjoy the freedom to live sexually as I see fit. I am not bound by the chains of what society says. While others are conforming, I am creating. The value of freedom is at the core of it all.
Conforming certainly has its place in our lives. I do not advocate anarchy. However, I do promote taking control of your life based upon what you value. Creating ways to fulfill these values in different areas of your life is what the journey is all about. I highly suggest you ponder what it is that you value. After that, look at how that plays in your sexual relations. This will unearth the most powerful area where you can align yourself with your true nature. Historically, sex is used to take a man down. Now we are going to use it to propel us forward.
Determining what you value is what adds juice to your life. The few who take the time to uncover this fact about themselves live a higher quality of life than those who do not. These are the people who are awakened. Their existence takes on an entirely new meaning. Instantly, they develop something called "passion".
What is your highest value? Have you ever considered this for even a second? Putting some effort into these answers might yield insight into ways to change your life. Instead of blindly moving from day-to-day, you have the opportunity to design a life program that is fun and exciting.
For me, freedom is the highest value that I have. I attempt to structure as much of my life around this quality as I can. When I look at the aspects of my life today compared to 5 years ago, the change is remarkable. Of course, there still is a great deal of work to be done. Over the next few years, I am seeking to take my life path to an even greater level.
One of the first areas that I started this transformation was sexually. I learned a number of years ago the power of sex. It was such a motivator in my life and the lives that I witnessed. I saw seemingly reasonable people do the craziest things for sex. They were willing to risk great things in an effort to get laid. This is when I determined that sex could be an incredible motivator.
Looking at my life, I realized that monogamy was not for me. It is something that I wrestled with for years. Since I made this decision, I designed my life around this very premise. By doing this, I enjoy the freedom to live sexually as I see fit. I am not bound by the chains of what society says. While others are conforming, I am creating. The value of freedom is at the core of it all.
Conforming certainly has its place in our lives. I do not advocate anarchy. However, I do promote taking control of your life based upon what you value. Creating ways to fulfill these values in different areas of your life is what the journey is all about. I highly suggest you ponder what it is that you value. After that, look at how that plays in your sexual relations. This will unearth the most powerful area where you can align yourself with your true nature. Historically, sex is used to take a man down. Now we are going to use it to propel us forward.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Components of Sexual Motivation
The idea that we are motivated by sex is not a novel concept. Studies dating back to the late 1940s were undertaken in an effort to unmask the animal called human sexuality. Those in the scientific community have long wondered what is the fascination with sex. And, why does it have so much power over us.
Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.
The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.
Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.
How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.
Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.
The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.
Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.
How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.
Monday, July 6, 2009
Doing It Before You Know What You Are Doing
I am surprised how people take a different approach towards sex then they do the other areas of their lives. When it comes to sex, whatever fears exist are easily thrust (pun intended) aside. Yet, we allow fear to stop us from taking action in almost all other areas of life. Why is this?
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Saturday, July 4, 2009
Sexual Conditioning
My basic premise is that people are too uptight about sex. It is something that society teaches us is not to be talked about. Yet, it is an act that most everyone engages in and is crucial for the survival of the species. Nevertheless, those who decide to live a free sexual life are labeled as being perverted. It is as if there is an unwritten social norm for proper sexual behavior. Of course, we do not uncover what it is until we move outside what is considered proper.
This conditioning is what causes people to miss one of the most powerful forces known to man. We all know the lengths that certain people will go to for sex. Usually the consequences are dire since it involves infidelity or some other social precept that is broken. Yet if we can harness this power for good, we can see our lives instantly changed for the better.
We are all conditioned sexually. Society, through parent, religion, and the education system, creates our beliefs. This is done through repetition. We hear the same statement made over and over until it is drilled into our minds. It is part of our conscious.
Most who grew up in the Christian faith will remember hearing something about sex outside the bounds of marriage being a sin. This is a fundamental tenet of this discipline. Since this is the most common faith in the Western world in terms of numbers, the majority of society has this idea programmed somewhere in their DNA. Then, it is reinforced each time we see a politician caught in the bed of another other than his wife (I am sure women politicians cheat too but it seems only the men get caught). They are on camera apologizing for their bad choices.
The conditioning gets even better. Researchers have proven that males need to ejaculate for health reasons. It is a natural process of the human body. Yet, growing up in the previous faith mentioned, I heard that masturbation will cause blindness. Fortunately, as a long time and tested self lover, I am happy to share I have 20/20 vision. Blindness did not occur. Perhaps I was misled by those who weren't looking out for my own best interest.
Normalcy is what society seeks. Our culture is based upon the premise of marriage between one man and one woman. It is what is best for the ongoing survival. Married people with families provide stability. I believe this is why there is so much resistance to any other definition for marriage. The culture depends upon this institution for social order.
Homosexuality, poly, bdsm, and other acts are considered taboo. The churches call them sins. Many states call them illegal with laws forbidding them. Thus, we are left with the concept of what normal is. It is not written down, explained, or published. Instead, there is an implying of what is considered appropriate behavior.
The most absurd concept we are taught is with regards to nudity. We are shown that we are suppose to "cover up". The human body is shown to be taboo. Looking at naked women (or men) is perverted and pornographic. Public nudity is forbidden. Films that show tits and asses receive a rating that is appropriate only for "mature audiences". To me, this is absurd.
As a long time practicing nudist I can tell you that there are only two categories people fall into. A visit to the nude beach will reveal there are either cocks or pussies. This is the only distinction. Everyone out there has an ass and a chest with two nipple on them. The sizes will vary but the equipment is the same. Yet we are suppose to cover all this up like it is unnatural.
We are born naked and everyone gets naked on a daily basis. In talking with many people over the years, I have yet to find anyone who showers with their clothing on. Everyone gets naked to bathe. It is a natural act. However, society tells us to do this in private like there is something wrong with it.
As you can see, there are all kinds of messages about sex and sexuality we receive from those who are in charge of message promotion. The media, religions, and influential people like parents all model our behavior. Over the years, this is the conditioning that leads us to unhealthy sexual conclusions. Engaging in activity outsides the bounds of what is acceptable makes many people feel guilty. And guilt is one of the most powerful behavioral modifying techniques there is. The churches of the world have used it for centuries. It is effective.
To be truly free, we need to break free of the social conditioning as it pertains to sex. Doing so will allow us to access the incredible power behind this motivator. A life designed around the acquisition of sex will be more successful than one that is not. People will do more for sex then they will do for love, money, or recognition. In fact, often these are acquired as a means to more sex. Money and power = sex. It is as old as the hills.
Look at your sexual conditioning and ask if it makes sense to you. Did you choose the beliefs that you presently have? If not, consider each one to see if it applies to you or not. This will establish the basic foundation that will allow you to move your life to the next level. Take it today.
This conditioning is what causes people to miss one of the most powerful forces known to man. We all know the lengths that certain people will go to for sex. Usually the consequences are dire since it involves infidelity or some other social precept that is broken. Yet if we can harness this power for good, we can see our lives instantly changed for the better.
We are all conditioned sexually. Society, through parent, religion, and the education system, creates our beliefs. This is done through repetition. We hear the same statement made over and over until it is drilled into our minds. It is part of our conscious.
Most who grew up in the Christian faith will remember hearing something about sex outside the bounds of marriage being a sin. This is a fundamental tenet of this discipline. Since this is the most common faith in the Western world in terms of numbers, the majority of society has this idea programmed somewhere in their DNA. Then, it is reinforced each time we see a politician caught in the bed of another other than his wife (I am sure women politicians cheat too but it seems only the men get caught). They are on camera apologizing for their bad choices.
The conditioning gets even better. Researchers have proven that males need to ejaculate for health reasons. It is a natural process of the human body. Yet, growing up in the previous faith mentioned, I heard that masturbation will cause blindness. Fortunately, as a long time and tested self lover, I am happy to share I have 20/20 vision. Blindness did not occur. Perhaps I was misled by those who weren't looking out for my own best interest.
Normalcy is what society seeks. Our culture is based upon the premise of marriage between one man and one woman. It is what is best for the ongoing survival. Married people with families provide stability. I believe this is why there is so much resistance to any other definition for marriage. The culture depends upon this institution for social order.
Homosexuality, poly, bdsm, and other acts are considered taboo. The churches call them sins. Many states call them illegal with laws forbidding them. Thus, we are left with the concept of what normal is. It is not written down, explained, or published. Instead, there is an implying of what is considered appropriate behavior.
The most absurd concept we are taught is with regards to nudity. We are shown that we are suppose to "cover up". The human body is shown to be taboo. Looking at naked women (or men) is perverted and pornographic. Public nudity is forbidden. Films that show tits and asses receive a rating that is appropriate only for "mature audiences". To me, this is absurd.
As a long time practicing nudist I can tell you that there are only two categories people fall into. A visit to the nude beach will reveal there are either cocks or pussies. This is the only distinction. Everyone out there has an ass and a chest with two nipple on them. The sizes will vary but the equipment is the same. Yet we are suppose to cover all this up like it is unnatural.
We are born naked and everyone gets naked on a daily basis. In talking with many people over the years, I have yet to find anyone who showers with their clothing on. Everyone gets naked to bathe. It is a natural act. However, society tells us to do this in private like there is something wrong with it.
As you can see, there are all kinds of messages about sex and sexuality we receive from those who are in charge of message promotion. The media, religions, and influential people like parents all model our behavior. Over the years, this is the conditioning that leads us to unhealthy sexual conclusions. Engaging in activity outsides the bounds of what is acceptable makes many people feel guilty. And guilt is one of the most powerful behavioral modifying techniques there is. The churches of the world have used it for centuries. It is effective.
To be truly free, we need to break free of the social conditioning as it pertains to sex. Doing so will allow us to access the incredible power behind this motivator. A life designed around the acquisition of sex will be more successful than one that is not. People will do more for sex then they will do for love, money, or recognition. In fact, often these are acquired as a means to more sex. Money and power = sex. It is as old as the hills.
Look at your sexual conditioning and ask if it makes sense to you. Did you choose the beliefs that you presently have? If not, consider each one to see if it applies to you or not. This will establish the basic foundation that will allow you to move your life to the next level. Take it today.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
The Opinion of Others II
This is a follow up to a post form the other day titled The Opinion of Others. It is suggested that you read it first.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
The Opinion Of Others
Politicians are well aware that there will be a sector of the population that dislikes them. Regardless of how popular one is, roughly half the people will think that person is doing a bad job and want them out of office. Even in Presidential politics, this holds true. Every four years, the winner has more than 40 million people vote against him.
When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.
I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.
The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.
A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.
Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.
When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.
I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.
The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.
A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.
Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Sex in Music
My daughter and a couple of her friends came to visit me this weekend. She lives an hour away so that means a fair bit of car time both to and fro. Like most teenagers, they wanted to listen to the radio. Naturally, the idea of listening to my type of music was out of the question. Being a product of the 80s, I am still a fan of the hair bands. Yet, the choice in the car was R&B and Rap.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Sex Ruling The Powerful
Last week, the Governor of South Carolina, Marc Sanford, admitted to having an affair with a woman in Argentina. Instantly we heard the calls for his resignation. This is just another one of the long list of politicians who got involved in an illicit affair.
Perhaps the most famous affair in the last few decades was Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky. This made headlines with the resulting grand jury perjury charge ending with Clinton being impeached. Fortunately for him the Congress didnt press the trial to have him removed from office.
This shows the power of man's sex drive. The powerful show what they are willing to throw everything away to fulfill this desire. Careers are ruined and fortunes are lost. Nevertheless, society fails to acknowledge the power this emotion has over people. Instead we call them names to condone our own behavior.
The truth is that sex is a part of our lives and the desire for sex will push mankind to do all kinds of insane things. To try and turn off that emotion is futile and foolhardy. At the end of the day, we either embrace it or get run over by it. These men mentioned previously chose to get run over by it.
Deep down I believe that everyone wants sex. The only reason people are not more honest with themselves about this is because society has conditioned them to suppress it. Hedonists are not held in high regard. We are taught that civilized people "control" themselves.
Sadly, used properly sex is one of the greatest motivators ever. We saw how it can almost destroy the "most powerful man in the world" and his career. If it can do this, then it can also move the largest of mountains. It is all in how it is utilized.
I like to think of how all my actions affect my sex life. This seems odd at first. However, with a little practice, it is amazing how motivated one becomes. The desire for sex motivates me to take action even when I feel least like it. If I believe (it is the belief, reality is not important) that something will result in me having more sex, I will take that action. The trick is to see a sexual benefit in all that I need to do.
We will cover more on this in the future. Nevertheless, for now, understand the power that sex has over mankind and how it can be harnessed to create a sensational life.
Perhaps the most famous affair in the last few decades was Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky. This made headlines with the resulting grand jury perjury charge ending with Clinton being impeached. Fortunately for him the Congress didnt press the trial to have him removed from office.
This shows the power of man's sex drive. The powerful show what they are willing to throw everything away to fulfill this desire. Careers are ruined and fortunes are lost. Nevertheless, society fails to acknowledge the power this emotion has over people. Instead we call them names to condone our own behavior.
The truth is that sex is a part of our lives and the desire for sex will push mankind to do all kinds of insane things. To try and turn off that emotion is futile and foolhardy. At the end of the day, we either embrace it or get run over by it. These men mentioned previously chose to get run over by it.
Deep down I believe that everyone wants sex. The only reason people are not more honest with themselves about this is because society has conditioned them to suppress it. Hedonists are not held in high regard. We are taught that civilized people "control" themselves.
Sadly, used properly sex is one of the greatest motivators ever. We saw how it can almost destroy the "most powerful man in the world" and his career. If it can do this, then it can also move the largest of mountains. It is all in how it is utilized.
I like to think of how all my actions affect my sex life. This seems odd at first. However, with a little practice, it is amazing how motivated one becomes. The desire for sex motivates me to take action even when I feel least like it. If I believe (it is the belief, reality is not important) that something will result in me having more sex, I will take that action. The trick is to see a sexual benefit in all that I need to do.
We will cover more on this in the future. Nevertheless, for now, understand the power that sex has over mankind and how it can be harnessed to create a sensational life.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Sex As A Motivator
Sex is one of the strongest emotions that people have. It makes men do things that are totally self defeating. There are hundreds of examples of powerful men throwing everything away for sex. It is something that has baffled researchers for decades.
Nevertheless, I am not here to figure out the primal urges of man. I simply accept that they exist and work with it. Since we know that the sex desire is so strong, let's use it for our advantage. It is time people start to readily accept this fact to push their life to greater heights.
When you think about it, most of what we do has a sexual thought behind it. Marketers know this well. The old saying "sex sells" holds true year after year. People are continually thinking about what the opposite sex will think. This is something that is conditioned within us even without our knowledge. Most times people are subconscious about it. Nevertheless, it is there.
Consider the concept of luxury automobiles. Why do people spend an amount equal to a decent house for a car? Who are the buyers of vehicles like Corvettes, Jaguar, and Porsche? If we analyze the statistics we understand that most of the buyers are male. And, they buy these cars because of the image it presents. In other words, is it a "chick magnet"? The marketers of these automobiles know this and use it to their advantage. That is why there is always a hot girl in the car ads.
The same holds true for women. Look at how they dress. Women will spend large sums of money making their appearance look top-notch. They are taught to do this to attract the right man. Even though society has changed, these generational ideas of yesteryear still persist. Women take great care to do their hair, make up and to wear the finest clothing. They also work out regularly to keep themselves fit. Basically, they want to maintain the sex appeal.
Our sex desire is powerful. Use it to get yourself motivated to take the action you are putting off. The easiest area to begin is with your body. This is what is judged first. Think of all the sex you will get if you lose the 50 extra pounds you are carrying. Make a game of it. Perhaps use this as a motivational tool with your partner (sexual not business). Offer sex as a reward for activities completed. You will be amazed how the motivation level skyrockets.
