This is a major difference between the Elite and the average person. The majority of people have things happen to them while the successful make things happen. This causes the masses to play the blame game whereas the top of the hierarchy is taking action.
Success is a mental game. Sexual Motivation deals a great deal with the mental aspect of life. We are all conditioned by those around us. Our minds are like sponges absorbing all that people have to offer us. In the end, our entire belief system was created by other people. Few ever take the time to proactively choose what they think. Instead, we defend the ideas that are in our heads regardless of how they got there. This is insanity at its' best but something that most people engage upon daily.
In changing our lives, it is crucial to stop being held captive by those who raised us. As adults, we are free to think whatever we so choose. This is where the onset of freedom comes from. However, one can never be completely free until he or she assumes responsibility for all that happens in one's life. This is a major undertaking but one that makes all the difference.
Personal responsibility is only for those interest in joining the Elite. By adopting this outlook, one eliminates the ability to blame. Acceptance that you are responsible for all that happens in your life is the basic premise. This is the mindset that will separate you from everyone else.
Of course, we need to begin our acceptance when we reach the age of adulthood. There are things that happened as children where we were innocent and defenseless. Children are often victims. This I am not going to deny. However, as an adult you are free to choose how you process the past. Some are still hindered by it while others motivate themselves. The choice is up to you.
Each day we are making decisions. This is a part of the human existence. At the same time, everything that happens to us was a result of a previous decision. This is a concept that is crucial to grasp. People who take responsibility for themselves know that they decided to experience everything that happened to them. Any situation can be traced back to a decision that you made. Responsibility mandates that you follow this path backwards.
Those who disagree with this statement simply haven't chose to apply this concept. For example, one would say that he didn't choose to have his wife run off with the neighbor. Well, let me ask, 'who chose the wife and the neighborhood to live in'? Obviously, this man had some say in at least one of these events. If he had not married her, would his wife had run off with the neighbor? Obviously not since he would not have had a wife (or at least that one). You see, personal responsibility means that my choices led me to where I am today.
We can see this apply to any facet of our lives. Take a look at your career. Who was the one who chose that field? The answer is you did. People often complain about their bosses. As you can guess, I ask 'who keeps showing up each day'? Anything that takes place in your life is a natural process of a decision you made at some point in time.
This mindset removes the ability to play the victim. Here we have a pastime that is more popular than baseball and football put together. Almost everyone wants to be the victim. That is why most dwell at the lower levels of the hierarchy. Playing the victim has the payoff of sympathy. However, this is a commodity that is worthless in the success game. Being a victim is opting for helplessness. The Elite know that it is power that causes one to excel. They are victors as opposed to victims.
Whatever is in your life at this moment which causes you misery is a there because somewhere along the line you chose it. This is an idea that most fail to grasp. Nevertheless, as one who is working your way up the hierarchical ladder of success, it is crucial that you implement this into your life immediately. Victims never win. The only way for you to regain the power you gave away is to start taking responsibility for your life. Whomever you are blaming at a given moment has power over you. Resist this temptation and stop seeking sympathy. The only way to excel is to exert the power that resides within you. This means taking personal responsibility for your life.
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Thursday, March 4, 2010
Sunday, January 24, 2010
Individualism
Society has a way of trying to implement it's philosophies and morality upon people. This is the essence of collective thought. It also is the method which the powerful have controlled the masses for centuries. The greatest threat to the establishment is the individual thinker.
It is no secret that the Catholic Church has ruled the masses throughout the ages. Its dogma has permeated the minds of millions upon millions. Ultimately, using the fear of eternal damnation, the Church was (and still is) able to control every aspect of one's life. Even the privacy of the bedroom is penetrated by the mindset of the Church.
Individualism provides us with another outlook. Without going into all the details which could take pages, we learn the individuals are free to choose whatever they want. Your individual mind is the most important contraption on this planet. It is up to you to develop what you can out of it. This includes you entire belief system. Your responsibility it to create one that works for you.
My writings all present an outlook that does not subscribe to fear. I know the lunacy of buying into the age-established concept that is meant to control my mind and my life. Do you see it too? Dogma, no matter who is the provider, is a way to enslave. It is true whether it comes from the altar or the capitol. Structured thought is the way of the weak. Those who fall into it are bound to live as slaves. This is supported by bounds of examples throughout history.
Sexual motivation tells you to break free from the ridiculous dogma affecting the majority of society. The teachings that were presented to us remove the basic instinctual power that is present within all of us. Since we are conditioned to behave in a certain way, we suppress that which is our greatest ally: our personal sexual desires.
Men are taught that we must be respectful. Women love a man who can cry. These are the themes that are presented by the collective mindset. In other words, a man is not to be a man. The natural desire for sexual conquest needs to be suppressed. We are told that is not how mature, evolved human beings behave. I say bullcrap to that.
On the flip side, women are to be virtuous and virginal. They are also taught to suppress the natural desires in quest of being considered a "good girl". Society promotes this belief starting at a young age in an effort to indoctrinate and create obedience. Those who stray from the collective belief are called "slut" and "whore". Once again, we see control exerted over behavior.
The elite do not buy into these concepts. Those who excel understand what it means to be an individual. It bears a great deal of responsibility yet is the only true path to freedom. Utilizing all your desires for personal gain is what life is all about. Naturally, we are not talking about stepping on the rights of others. There is a proper ethical protocol that we are all to subscribe to. However, we are not to blindly obey the teachings of those who are intent on enslaving us with their collectivism.
The individual mind is the most powerful weapon on the planet. All great achievements originated in the mind of an individual. This is why societies have fought to stamp this out of people for so many centuries. Sexual motivation is imploring your to regain the power that exists within you naturally. Do not let the idea that you are going to be called a slut deter you from tapping into this miraculous power. Ultimately, it is still your life to live. All achievement, or lack thereof, is your responsibility.
It is no secret that the Catholic Church has ruled the masses throughout the ages. Its dogma has permeated the minds of millions upon millions. Ultimately, using the fear of eternal damnation, the Church was (and still is) able to control every aspect of one's life. Even the privacy of the bedroom is penetrated by the mindset of the Church.
Individualism provides us with another outlook. Without going into all the details which could take pages, we learn the individuals are free to choose whatever they want. Your individual mind is the most important contraption on this planet. It is up to you to develop what you can out of it. This includes you entire belief system. Your responsibility it to create one that works for you.
My writings all present an outlook that does not subscribe to fear. I know the lunacy of buying into the age-established concept that is meant to control my mind and my life. Do you see it too? Dogma, no matter who is the provider, is a way to enslave. It is true whether it comes from the altar or the capitol. Structured thought is the way of the weak. Those who fall into it are bound to live as slaves. This is supported by bounds of examples throughout history.
Sexual motivation tells you to break free from the ridiculous dogma affecting the majority of society. The teachings that were presented to us remove the basic instinctual power that is present within all of us. Since we are conditioned to behave in a certain way, we suppress that which is our greatest ally: our personal sexual desires.
Men are taught that we must be respectful. Women love a man who can cry. These are the themes that are presented by the collective mindset. In other words, a man is not to be a man. The natural desire for sexual conquest needs to be suppressed. We are told that is not how mature, evolved human beings behave. I say bullcrap to that.
On the flip side, women are to be virtuous and virginal. They are also taught to suppress the natural desires in quest of being considered a "good girl". Society promotes this belief starting at a young age in an effort to indoctrinate and create obedience. Those who stray from the collective belief are called "slut" and "whore". Once again, we see control exerted over behavior.
The elite do not buy into these concepts. Those who excel understand what it means to be an individual. It bears a great deal of responsibility yet is the only true path to freedom. Utilizing all your desires for personal gain is what life is all about. Naturally, we are not talking about stepping on the rights of others. There is a proper ethical protocol that we are all to subscribe to. However, we are not to blindly obey the teachings of those who are intent on enslaving us with their collectivism.
The individual mind is the most powerful weapon on the planet. All great achievements originated in the mind of an individual. This is why societies have fought to stamp this out of people for so many centuries. Sexual motivation is imploring your to regain the power that exists within you naturally. Do not let the idea that you are going to be called a slut deter you from tapping into this miraculous power. Ultimately, it is still your life to live. All achievement, or lack thereof, is your responsibility.
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Think Bigger
Are you a victim of "small thinking"? This is the syndrome which stricken most to a life of mediocrity. The vast percentage of the population sabotages themselves by the thoughts they have. Few will enter the realm where they allow their dreams to roam freely. We become products of an average mindset.
If you want to be a huge success, it is vital that you enlarge your thinking. Those who achieve greatness have vivid dreams. For many, their imagination is their most valuable asset. They simply think on a level which is higher than most. Fortunately, this is something that is available to everyone who is willing to grasp it.
Sex is one of the most powerful motivators we have. One's sexual lifestyle tends to show the level of thinking that one has. Do you have an incredible sex life or are you one who settles for less than you want? This is an indication of where you are. If you are one who goes after those who are in "your range", then you are a victim of little thinking. Why can't you have the supermodel? Someone is getting that person. Why not you?
I will tell you why: because you most likely are not even in the game. People who think like everyone else live life on the sidelines. They do not venture out because of the risk of rejection. Their precious egos are too frail to handle it. They will walk the safe path in hopes that things might someday change. Of course we all know it will not.
Going after someone sexually who you "consider above you" is a wonderful way to step out of your old thinking. This is one area where you will instantly see tangible results. Of course, you need to be aware that the risk of rejection is still there. However, we are not concerned about what the outcome is (if he or she goes for it, great). The important part of all this is that you actually take the action to get out of your old behavior. Just approaching a person like this yields beneficial results.
This concept applies to all areas of your life. There is nothing that is limited other than what your mind creates. Living a mediocre life is a choice. The only reason you are where you are is because you chose it. Resist the temptation to blame all others around you. Take responsibility for your life. If you life is "too small", it is because you are a little thinker. Unleash the power of your dreams by enlarging the arena in your mind. Remember, mentally there are no limits.
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If you want to be a huge success, it is vital that you enlarge your thinking. Those who achieve greatness have vivid dreams. For many, their imagination is their most valuable asset. They simply think on a level which is higher than most. Fortunately, this is something that is available to everyone who is willing to grasp it.
Sex is one of the most powerful motivators we have. One's sexual lifestyle tends to show the level of thinking that one has. Do you have an incredible sex life or are you one who settles for less than you want? This is an indication of where you are. If you are one who goes after those who are in "your range", then you are a victim of little thinking. Why can't you have the supermodel? Someone is getting that person. Why not you?
I will tell you why: because you most likely are not even in the game. People who think like everyone else live life on the sidelines. They do not venture out because of the risk of rejection. Their precious egos are too frail to handle it. They will walk the safe path in hopes that things might someday change. Of course we all know it will not.
Going after someone sexually who you "consider above you" is a wonderful way to step out of your old thinking. This is one area where you will instantly see tangible results. Of course, you need to be aware that the risk of rejection is still there. However, we are not concerned about what the outcome is (if he or she goes for it, great). The important part of all this is that you actually take the action to get out of your old behavior. Just approaching a person like this yields beneficial results.
This concept applies to all areas of your life. There is nothing that is limited other than what your mind creates. Living a mediocre life is a choice. The only reason you are where you are is because you chose it. Resist the temptation to blame all others around you. Take responsibility for your life. If you life is "too small", it is because you are a little thinker. Unleash the power of your dreams by enlarging the arena in your mind. Remember, mentally there are no limits.
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Saturday, September 12, 2009
Giving Away Your Sex Life
Who controls your sex life? Are you one of those people who believes that you do? Do you really believe that? If so, have you ever thought about your sexual beliefs? My hypothesis is that you have not. Few people ever consider what they believe. They simply accept those beliefs as truth.
My experience is that most people give their sex lives away. They do not forge their own sexual lifestyle. Instead, they allow the influences of others to hold power over them. In the end, it is others who are dictating what one does sexually.
If you feel this untrue, look at all those one will consider before having sex. How many people feel guilty about having sex outside of marriage? Obviously, they are allowing the influence of the religious zealot to affect how they feel about their sexual activities. Peers also have a way of directing who we will sleep with. Many people fall prey to worrying what their friends will think before going to bed with someone who is "less than desirable".
All these different groups hold power over the masses. Society uses sex as a method of maintaining the order it wants. Sex is the second most powerful desire next to the desire to live. Anyone who can control the sex desire controls the person. Religions, long the power base in historical societies, have done this for centuries. Sex outside of marriage is a sin, period. And, certain sex acts within the marriage are also sins.
If you buy into any of this stuff then you are giving away your sex life. Individual power does not come by doing that. This is one of the reasons why I believe that sex as a motivator is never used. People do not retain the power over their sex lives. It is something that they freely toss to another (person or institution) without a thought. If you are to live according to the ideals of sex as a motivator, you must take this power back.
Personal development begins with the inward search as to what makes you go. We all have natural inclinations that are present within us. Some are consistent with humanity while others are particular to certain people. Those who question the beliefs and ideals that are instilled by others are those who have a chance of breaking free. Freedom ultimately leads to success. Bondage or imprisonment (of the mind) always ends in failure. Giving away your sex life is a catastrophic failure.
It is best to recognize others for what they are. Everyone seeks to assume control. It is a basic tenet of humanity. This is true at the level of the individual, group, or society. A government wants to have control over the masses. Politicians continually seek to gain more power. Religious entities promise eternal damnation without adherence to their beliefs. Parents want the happiness of their children as long as it fits into the parameters they choose. Everywhere you turn, someone is going to influence how you think.
Start by regaining your sex life back. Sit down and decide what you want sexually. How can you exercise the natural power that is within you to make yourself happier and more successful? Where are you presently altering your behavior to satisfy the beliefs of another? These are all ideas which will help you to shape the sex life that you desire.
My experience is that most people give their sex lives away. They do not forge their own sexual lifestyle. Instead, they allow the influences of others to hold power over them. In the end, it is others who are dictating what one does sexually.
If you feel this untrue, look at all those one will consider before having sex. How many people feel guilty about having sex outside of marriage? Obviously, they are allowing the influence of the religious zealot to affect how they feel about their sexual activities. Peers also have a way of directing who we will sleep with. Many people fall prey to worrying what their friends will think before going to bed with someone who is "less than desirable".
All these different groups hold power over the masses. Society uses sex as a method of maintaining the order it wants. Sex is the second most powerful desire next to the desire to live. Anyone who can control the sex desire controls the person. Religions, long the power base in historical societies, have done this for centuries. Sex outside of marriage is a sin, period. And, certain sex acts within the marriage are also sins.
If you buy into any of this stuff then you are giving away your sex life. Individual power does not come by doing that. This is one of the reasons why I believe that sex as a motivator is never used. People do not retain the power over their sex lives. It is something that they freely toss to another (person or institution) without a thought. If you are to live according to the ideals of sex as a motivator, you must take this power back.
Personal development begins with the inward search as to what makes you go. We all have natural inclinations that are present within us. Some are consistent with humanity while others are particular to certain people. Those who question the beliefs and ideals that are instilled by others are those who have a chance of breaking free. Freedom ultimately leads to success. Bondage or imprisonment (of the mind) always ends in failure. Giving away your sex life is a catastrophic failure.
It is best to recognize others for what they are. Everyone seeks to assume control. It is a basic tenet of humanity. This is true at the level of the individual, group, or society. A government wants to have control over the masses. Politicians continually seek to gain more power. Religious entities promise eternal damnation without adherence to their beliefs. Parents want the happiness of their children as long as it fits into the parameters they choose. Everywhere you turn, someone is going to influence how you think.
Start by regaining your sex life back. Sit down and decide what you want sexually. How can you exercise the natural power that is within you to make yourself happier and more successful? Where are you presently altering your behavior to satisfy the beliefs of another? These are all ideas which will help you to shape the sex life that you desire.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Carpe Diem
Yesterday, I experienced something that retaught me how fragile things are. We take many things for granted. Over the course of time, our life situations become familiar to us. That familiarity leads to us being complacent with how things are. Regardless of what the circumstances, man can get accustomed to almost anything.
People will often focus on all the negative in their lives. They tend to complain about how awful things are going. Rarely do they concentrate on all the benefits they have or opportunities ahead of them. The mind likes to default to the misery.
Carpe Diem is the latin phrase meaning "seize the day". We all have only the 24 hours right now. We can choose to use it for positive purposes or negative. The choice is entirely up to us.
My experience yesterday taught me how fragile my life is. I was body surfacing in the ocean when a wave took me heels-over-head. As I was forced under, my face was planted on the ocean floor with the force of the way whipping my body over the top of me. This causes my neck to "snap" in a whiplash like fashion. Luckily, I turned out alright other than an extremely sore neck.
The point that I am making is that something like that could have caused paralysis. Walking is something that I take for granted on a daily basis. Rarely do I give a thought that I can do something which gives me incredible freedom. Ask anyone who is bound to a wheelchair about the loss of freedom they experienced. Walking is something that few are grateful for, at least until it is lost.
Sexual motivation is all about "seizing the day". The goal is to try and motivate ourselves to take the actions which move our lives to the next level. Using the power force of sex helps us to create the incentive to act. There is too much to lose by wasting time. Procrastination is just a slow form of death.
An experience like I went through makes me realize how fragile everything is. Too often I get caught up in the idea of rejection, thus allowing fear to win. I am reminded that life is short and I am here to make the best of it. Fearing the reactions of others is insane and useless.
How many times are you afraid to talk to someone because of what they will say? Do you allow the reactions of others to dictate your life? It is time to stop that. Motivating yourself to move forward is crucial. Freedom is at risk unless you adopt this outlook.
Remember, whatever is here today can be gone tomorrow. We just never know.
People will often focus on all the negative in their lives. They tend to complain about how awful things are going. Rarely do they concentrate on all the benefits they have or opportunities ahead of them. The mind likes to default to the misery.
Carpe Diem is the latin phrase meaning "seize the day". We all have only the 24 hours right now. We can choose to use it for positive purposes or negative. The choice is entirely up to us.
My experience yesterday taught me how fragile my life is. I was body surfacing in the ocean when a wave took me heels-over-head. As I was forced under, my face was planted on the ocean floor with the force of the way whipping my body over the top of me. This causes my neck to "snap" in a whiplash like fashion. Luckily, I turned out alright other than an extremely sore neck.
The point that I am making is that something like that could have caused paralysis. Walking is something that I take for granted on a daily basis. Rarely do I give a thought that I can do something which gives me incredible freedom. Ask anyone who is bound to a wheelchair about the loss of freedom they experienced. Walking is something that few are grateful for, at least until it is lost.
Sexual motivation is all about "seizing the day". The goal is to try and motivate ourselves to take the actions which move our lives to the next level. Using the power force of sex helps us to create the incentive to act. There is too much to lose by wasting time. Procrastination is just a slow form of death.
An experience like I went through makes me realize how fragile everything is. Too often I get caught up in the idea of rejection, thus allowing fear to win. I am reminded that life is short and I am here to make the best of it. Fearing the reactions of others is insane and useless.
How many times are you afraid to talk to someone because of what they will say? Do you allow the reactions of others to dictate your life? It is time to stop that. Motivating yourself to move forward is crucial. Freedom is at risk unless you adopt this outlook.
Remember, whatever is here today can be gone tomorrow. We just never know.
Monday, August 10, 2009
The Opinions of Others
Did you ever take the time to consider how much you value the opinions of others? Actually, to take it once step further, did you ever ponder how you allow the opinions of others to control your life? If you are like most, these thoughts never really cross your mind. Instead, you pass through life living according to the precepts of others.
Nowhere is this more evident than in the area of sex. I found that the sexual arena is where all human behavior is magnified. If you want to find out something about how humans act, look at their sexual practices. With regard to the opinions of others, we see that our sexual activities are often controlled those very opinions. People rarely form their own ideals in this area. Instead, they allow others to dictate all that transpires.
Remember the days of high school where you would go out with a certain girl (or guy) because you knew your friends would not approve? Of course. We all remember those days. Sadly, the truth that most of us do not have to think all the way back to high school to recall this behavior. I would guess the majority of people retain this same mindset into adulthood.
Sex is something that is highly personal and individual. We all are attracted to something different. What one person finds sexy, another might find revolting. However, most tend to fall into the trap of trying to fit into what is considered normal. Therefore, they will resist taking action which goes contrary to popular belief.
A prime example is the homosexual community. This is a group that was ostracized for decades by society. They were judged, condemned, and physically abused. Society called them all kinds of names in an effort to "convert" them to normalcy. Sadly, many fell prey to these pressures. The opinions of others (and the violence) forced them to abandon the sexual choice they wanted to make. This trend changed in the last few decades with homosexuality being accepted by a larger percentage of the population. Nevertheless, the same cannot be said for polygamists, transgenders, or swingers. These groups are still looked down upon.
People who know me understand that I am involved in all kinds of "defiant" sexual behavior. (I write that term in quotes to signify their judgment not mine) I am a swinger, nudist, and practitioner of BDSM. These are lifestyle choices which I consciously chose which puts me at odds with mainstream society. Nevertheless, this is how I want to live my life. I am not at the mercy of public opinion on this one.
This brings me back to my original questions. Consider your life and how often you succumb to the wishes of others. Do you attend family gatherings out of guilt? Are you worried about what others will think when you are confronted with a decision? Do you shy away from choices because you know they are against the norms of those you frequently interact with? This is a sign that you put too much emphasis on what others think. Your life is your own. It is up to you to determine what you do with your time here on this planet. At the end of the road, when you look back, there will be nobody to blame but yourself.
Stop putting stock into what others think. The sad truth is that most of the people you are trying to appease are unhappy in their own lives. Whenever anyone is focusing upon your life, they are not looking at their own. This distraction is what most people want since they lack the courage to face the truth about their lives. Hence, they spent their time criticizing others who decide to live a little differently. These are the people that most are putting stock in.
As you can see, the opinions of others should matter little to you. I chose to live my life according to standards that are acceptable to me. If someone else has an issue with my choice, then that is his or her problem. We are free to choose how we spend our time on this planet and this is a freedom I opt to exercise. Do you have the courage to do the same? If so, then stop worrying so much about what others think. Do not allow their misery to rule your life.
Nowhere is this more evident than in the area of sex. I found that the sexual arena is where all human behavior is magnified. If you want to find out something about how humans act, look at their sexual practices. With regard to the opinions of others, we see that our sexual activities are often controlled those very opinions. People rarely form their own ideals in this area. Instead, they allow others to dictate all that transpires.
Remember the days of high school where you would go out with a certain girl (or guy) because you knew your friends would not approve? Of course. We all remember those days. Sadly, the truth that most of us do not have to think all the way back to high school to recall this behavior. I would guess the majority of people retain this same mindset into adulthood.
Sex is something that is highly personal and individual. We all are attracted to something different. What one person finds sexy, another might find revolting. However, most tend to fall into the trap of trying to fit into what is considered normal. Therefore, they will resist taking action which goes contrary to popular belief.
A prime example is the homosexual community. This is a group that was ostracized for decades by society. They were judged, condemned, and physically abused. Society called them all kinds of names in an effort to "convert" them to normalcy. Sadly, many fell prey to these pressures. The opinions of others (and the violence) forced them to abandon the sexual choice they wanted to make. This trend changed in the last few decades with homosexuality being accepted by a larger percentage of the population. Nevertheless, the same cannot be said for polygamists, transgenders, or swingers. These groups are still looked down upon.
People who know me understand that I am involved in all kinds of "defiant" sexual behavior. (I write that term in quotes to signify their judgment not mine) I am a swinger, nudist, and practitioner of BDSM. These are lifestyle choices which I consciously chose which puts me at odds with mainstream society. Nevertheless, this is how I want to live my life. I am not at the mercy of public opinion on this one.
This brings me back to my original questions. Consider your life and how often you succumb to the wishes of others. Do you attend family gatherings out of guilt? Are you worried about what others will think when you are confronted with a decision? Do you shy away from choices because you know they are against the norms of those you frequently interact with? This is a sign that you put too much emphasis on what others think. Your life is your own. It is up to you to determine what you do with your time here on this planet. At the end of the road, when you look back, there will be nobody to blame but yourself.
Stop putting stock into what others think. The sad truth is that most of the people you are trying to appease are unhappy in their own lives. Whenever anyone is focusing upon your life, they are not looking at their own. This distraction is what most people want since they lack the courage to face the truth about their lives. Hence, they spent their time criticizing others who decide to live a little differently. These are the people that most are putting stock in.
As you can see, the opinions of others should matter little to you. I chose to live my life according to standards that are acceptable to me. If someone else has an issue with my choice, then that is his or her problem. We are free to choose how we spend our time on this planet and this is a freedom I opt to exercise. Do you have the courage to do the same? If so, then stop worrying so much about what others think. Do not allow their misery to rule your life.
Friday, July 31, 2009
Success Key: Focus
Did you know the ability to focus is one of the most basic needs for success? Many believe they have this capability yet further analysis quickly reveals they do not. We are in the age of instant messenging, cell phones, and Internet on the run. With all those things going on around us, it is easy to get distracted.
I once heard a quote on M*A*S*H that made a lot of sense. Winchester, the uptight Bostonian doctor, told the others that "he does one thing at a time, he does it well, then he moves on". This is a sound aspiration to have. The ability to focus our complete attention on one activity makes us much stronger.
Multi-tasking seems to be the mantra of the day. The problem with this idea is that the brain has the ability to only focus on one thing at a time (at the conscious level). Multi-tasking only serves to split our attention between two (or more) details. Simple division will lead you to understand that concentrating on two things at one time will make you 50% effective.
Actually, this idea is a bit misleading. As mentioned, the mind can only focus on one thing at a time. When you have two things going simultaneously, your attention truly switches back and forth between the two activities. Therefore, the mind is in 100% concentration yet it is constantly starting and stopping. This leads to ineffectiveness. The concept of momentum is another powerful tool for success and it is impossible to generate while switching in this manner.
To take your life to the next level, start to harness the power of the mind. Focusing on one thing at a time is how that is accomplished. This will take practice to develop the discipline. We are so trained to mentally be in many different areas at one time. For example, how many web browser do you have open at this moment? Obviously you can only view one page at a time. Nevertheless, most people have more than one tab open. Add to that the fact that the instant messenger is on and you can see how getting anything accomplished is tested.
The best way to start is to turn all that stuff of. Shut off the television, close the web browsers, and instant messenger to reduce distractions. Focus on only doing what is directly in front of you with complete attention. You will quickly notice how much more effective you are. Also, an added bonus is realized: you will get things done in a shorter period of time. The momentum developed by concentrating on one activity allows you to garner all the power of your mind. This is the foundation of success.
I once heard a quote on M*A*S*H that made a lot of sense. Winchester, the uptight Bostonian doctor, told the others that "he does one thing at a time, he does it well, then he moves on". This is a sound aspiration to have. The ability to focus our complete attention on one activity makes us much stronger.
Multi-tasking seems to be the mantra of the day. The problem with this idea is that the brain has the ability to only focus on one thing at a time (at the conscious level). Multi-tasking only serves to split our attention between two (or more) details. Simple division will lead you to understand that concentrating on two things at one time will make you 50% effective.
Actually, this idea is a bit misleading. As mentioned, the mind can only focus on one thing at a time. When you have two things going simultaneously, your attention truly switches back and forth between the two activities. Therefore, the mind is in 100% concentration yet it is constantly starting and stopping. This leads to ineffectiveness. The concept of momentum is another powerful tool for success and it is impossible to generate while switching in this manner.
To take your life to the next level, start to harness the power of the mind. Focusing on one thing at a time is how that is accomplished. This will take practice to develop the discipline. We are so trained to mentally be in many different areas at one time. For example, how many web browser do you have open at this moment? Obviously you can only view one page at a time. Nevertheless, most people have more than one tab open. Add to that the fact that the instant messenger is on and you can see how getting anything accomplished is tested.
The best way to start is to turn all that stuff of. Shut off the television, close the web browsers, and instant messenger to reduce distractions. Focus on only doing what is directly in front of you with complete attention. You will quickly notice how much more effective you are. Also, an added bonus is realized: you will get things done in a shorter period of time. The momentum developed by concentrating on one activity allows you to garner all the power of your mind. This is the foundation of success.
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
Getting Started
This is one of the fundamentals of success. Nothing is ever accomplished if you never get started. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step (or something like that). Thus, we are going to look at the concept of taking the first action.
Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.
Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.
Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.
Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.
Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.
Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.
To your success.
Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.
Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.
Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.
Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.
Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.
Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.
To your success.
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
All People Are Not Equal
The Founding Fathers of the United States believed that all men are created equal. This is a fundamental premise of our system of justice. This is a belief that I hold true also. All of us are created with the same inalienable rights. However, that is where the equality stops.
Not all "men" are equal. It is a simple fact that some people make a much bigger impact on society and those around them. The idea that all people contribute the same is insane to me. Therefore, I feel it is an honest approach to look at what one does with his or her life.
Look at examples such as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King, or Mother Teresa. Compare them to the likes of the local drug addict, crack whore, or pimp. Does the life of a career criminal hold any merit when contrasted with the wonderful achievements of an inner city counselor, youth minister, or teacher? The answer is no. Some choose to do something with the opportunities they are given in life. Others elect to throw it all away.
Where do you stand on this scale? Most people fall between the two extremes. Few of us attain such remarkable achievements that we become a household name. At the same time, we tend to keep our screw ups to a minimum while not making a career out of bad choices. Overall, we do our best and contribute where we can.
The idea behind sexual motivation is to lift your life to the next level. Wherever you are at in this moment, your life can move another step higher. For most, the required ingredient is action. Using the inbred desire called sex allows us to motivate ourselves to take action. Thinking about the sexual payoff will stimulate this behavior more than any other thought process I know. After all, we all love sex.
Consider this idea when you look at the people you encounter on a daily basis. How could their life be better? What contributions are they failing to make because they will not take action? Reflect with this same mindset upon your life. Determine where you can better apply these ideas. It is time that you move your life to another level.
Not all "men" are equal. It is a simple fact that some people make a much bigger impact on society and those around them. The idea that all people contribute the same is insane to me. Therefore, I feel it is an honest approach to look at what one does with his or her life.
Look at examples such as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King, or Mother Teresa. Compare them to the likes of the local drug addict, crack whore, or pimp. Does the life of a career criminal hold any merit when contrasted with the wonderful achievements of an inner city counselor, youth minister, or teacher? The answer is no. Some choose to do something with the opportunities they are given in life. Others elect to throw it all away.
Where do you stand on this scale? Most people fall between the two extremes. Few of us attain such remarkable achievements that we become a household name. At the same time, we tend to keep our screw ups to a minimum while not making a career out of bad choices. Overall, we do our best and contribute where we can.
The idea behind sexual motivation is to lift your life to the next level. Wherever you are at in this moment, your life can move another step higher. For most, the required ingredient is action. Using the inbred desire called sex allows us to motivate ourselves to take action. Thinking about the sexual payoff will stimulate this behavior more than any other thought process I know. After all, we all love sex.
Consider this idea when you look at the people you encounter on a daily basis. How could their life be better? What contributions are they failing to make because they will not take action? Reflect with this same mindset upon your life. Determine where you can better apply these ideas. It is time that you move your life to another level.
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
Saying Yes
Here is a test that is quick and easy to do: go to a public place where there are lots of people (example: a mall) and see how often people say the word "no". It is astounding to realize there are so many who live their life with this as their predominant thought. In effect, they are depriving themselves of saying "yes" in their own lives. Happiness eludes them because of they fail to engage in life.
We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.
These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".
Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.
Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.
It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.
Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".
We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.
These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".
Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.
Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.
It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.
Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".
Monday, July 6, 2009
Doing It Before You Know What You Are Doing
I am surprised how people take a different approach towards sex then they do the other areas of their lives. When it comes to sex, whatever fears exist are easily thrust (pun intended) aside. Yet, we allow fear to stop us from taking action in almost all other areas of life. Why is this?
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.
The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.
Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.
Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.
Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.
Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.
Sunday, July 5, 2009
In 100 Years What Will It Matter?
We have all heard this. Sadly, few of us ever subscribe to this philosophy. People get too caught up with the short term results in life. They never seem to get past the fact there are certain things that are inevitable in life. However, walk through the action and move on. It is that simple.
Sex as a motivator is helpful in allowing us to move past some of the fear we have residing within our heads. We tend to do a little better when we let the "little head override the big head". This goes contrary to what society teaches yet judging by the amount of unhappy people, who wants to listen to their methodology anyway? There is a lot more available to those who reach for it.
Rejection is a part of life. This is true whether we are referring to dating, sex, business, sales, or dealing with family. There will be times we are told "no". The reasons will vary but the end result is the same: we do not get what we want. It is reality so deal with it.
When we focus upon dating, who is the one who goes out on Friday night with the hot girl? Simply, the one who asks. It is the one who takes the risk who succeeds. Those who play it safe by avoiding the chance of rejection get to sit home alone watching an old movie. You have to get into the game to win.
The same is true in sales. Those who leave the office and make sales calls end up selling. Contrast this with the numbers of those who never leave the office. They avert the rejection while also avoiding success. The ones who put themselves out there prevail in the end.
Think back to the first girl who rejected you in school. For me it was a girl named Angel. I asked her out at a dance only to be shot down quicker than I knew what happened. It was as if "no" was pre-programmed. At the time it was devastating. Fortunately, I have since gotten over it (amazing what 30 years will do for a guy). Time does heal all wounds.
What would have happened if I allowed this past experience to stop me? There are many women I went out with after that because I asked them. I did not allow the fear to stop me. Sex is something that is gotten only after asking. You have to put yourself at a risk of being rejected.
In life, emotional wounds can heal quickly. It does not take 100 years. However, the point is to not get too caught up in how things are going to turn out. The results we achieve on a daily basis are usually inconsequential when viewed on the broader scale. When going through your day, go for it. What is the worst that will happen. Someone tells you "no". So what? In the long run it matters little.
Go for the sex. Go for the money. Go for the promotion. Go for it all. Whenever you take a chance, you have the opportunity to succeed. Each time you remain on the sidelines, you ensure you will remain in place. Success is available to those who go for it. Remember, in 100 years it won't matter. In fact, it will not matter in 100 days. So take a chance.
Sex as a motivator is helpful in allowing us to move past some of the fear we have residing within our heads. We tend to do a little better when we let the "little head override the big head". This goes contrary to what society teaches yet judging by the amount of unhappy people, who wants to listen to their methodology anyway? There is a lot more available to those who reach for it.
Rejection is a part of life. This is true whether we are referring to dating, sex, business, sales, or dealing with family. There will be times we are told "no". The reasons will vary but the end result is the same: we do not get what we want. It is reality so deal with it.
When we focus upon dating, who is the one who goes out on Friday night with the hot girl? Simply, the one who asks. It is the one who takes the risk who succeeds. Those who play it safe by avoiding the chance of rejection get to sit home alone watching an old movie. You have to get into the game to win.
The same is true in sales. Those who leave the office and make sales calls end up selling. Contrast this with the numbers of those who never leave the office. They avert the rejection while also avoiding success. The ones who put themselves out there prevail in the end.
Think back to the first girl who rejected you in school. For me it was a girl named Angel. I asked her out at a dance only to be shot down quicker than I knew what happened. It was as if "no" was pre-programmed. At the time it was devastating. Fortunately, I have since gotten over it (amazing what 30 years will do for a guy). Time does heal all wounds.
What would have happened if I allowed this past experience to stop me? There are many women I went out with after that because I asked them. I did not allow the fear to stop me. Sex is something that is gotten only after asking. You have to put yourself at a risk of being rejected.
In life, emotional wounds can heal quickly. It does not take 100 years. However, the point is to not get too caught up in how things are going to turn out. The results we achieve on a daily basis are usually inconsequential when viewed on the broader scale. When going through your day, go for it. What is the worst that will happen. Someone tells you "no". So what? In the long run it matters little.
Go for the sex. Go for the money. Go for the promotion. Go for it all. Whenever you take a chance, you have the opportunity to succeed. Each time you remain on the sidelines, you ensure you will remain in place. Success is available to those who go for it. Remember, in 100 years it won't matter. In fact, it will not matter in 100 days. So take a chance.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
The Opinion of Others II
This is a follow up to a post form the other day titled The Opinion of Others. It is suggested that you read it first.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.
Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.
That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.
The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.
Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.
As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.
To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.
We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.
The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.
When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.
Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.
So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.
The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.
Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.
Mindset for Success
Have you ever noticed how your expectations create the experience that you have? It is a proven fact that your mindset plays a crucial role in the success that you achieve. Like the old saying "whether you think you can or can't, you are right".
Everyone has fear, worry, and doubt. The difference is that the successful are able to cast aside these thoughts while taking action. At the same time, the unsuccessful allow these things to stop them. It is the primary reason why people succeed or fail.
Life is an action sport. However, it is the mind which typically dictates what action will be taken. Procrastination is a result of a thought process that prevents moving forward. The idea of "doing something later" is the default mindset for those who struggle with putting things off. It is the mindset which determines what is done.
Results are also a condition of the mind. Many disciplines profess the power of a positive mindset. Our lives are a reflection of what goes on in our heads. Those who believe they will succeed do.; those who do not, don't. If you have the mindset that an event will be boring and uninteresting, that is exactly what it will be. Our mind creates the outcome.
We see this play out repeatedly in the dating world. The guy who has the courage to ask a girl out while maintaining an attitude of confidence that she will agree (confidence, not arrogance), usually succeeds. The one who asks in a timid manner often experiences rejection. His mindset sabotaged the entire process.
The same situation plays out when it comes to sex. Those who approach the opposite sex in a manner which shows there is sexual interest and confidence will get laid. Sadly, many take the opposite track. They believe that women aren't interested in sex. They are sold on the idea that romance and emotional connection are what they want. This is true for many. However, there are a lot of women who are horny and want to get screwed. Those who understand this fact can move in an appropriate manner.
Success starts with knowing what outcome is desired. After that, it is crucial to have the mindset which says "I am going to achieve this outcome". Basic sales training teaches to enter a presentation expecting to get the sale. You have nothing to lose. Unfortunately, people are often conditioned to think the opposite way. They expect to fail and are surprised when things work out the way they want. This is a recipe for failure. Consistent success required a consistent success mindset. Begin by expecting only positive results today.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Sex in Music
My daughter and a couple of her friends came to visit me this weekend. She lives an hour away so that means a fair bit of car time both to and fro. Like most teenagers, they wanted to listen to the radio. Naturally, the idea of listening to my type of music was out of the question. Being a product of the 80s, I am still a fan of the hair bands. Yet, the choice in the car was R&B and Rap.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.
My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.
The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.
This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.
Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.
Monday, June 29, 2009
Sex Ruling The Powerful
Last week, the Governor of South Carolina, Marc Sanford, admitted to having an affair with a woman in Argentina. Instantly we heard the calls for his resignation. This is just another one of the long list of politicians who got involved in an illicit affair.
Perhaps the most famous affair in the last few decades was Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky. This made headlines with the resulting grand jury perjury charge ending with Clinton being impeached. Fortunately for him the Congress didnt press the trial to have him removed from office.
This shows the power of man's sex drive. The powerful show what they are willing to throw everything away to fulfill this desire. Careers are ruined and fortunes are lost. Nevertheless, society fails to acknowledge the power this emotion has over people. Instead we call them names to condone our own behavior.
The truth is that sex is a part of our lives and the desire for sex will push mankind to do all kinds of insane things. To try and turn off that emotion is futile and foolhardy. At the end of the day, we either embrace it or get run over by it. These men mentioned previously chose to get run over by it.
Deep down I believe that everyone wants sex. The only reason people are not more honest with themselves about this is because society has conditioned them to suppress it. Hedonists are not held in high regard. We are taught that civilized people "control" themselves.
Sadly, used properly sex is one of the greatest motivators ever. We saw how it can almost destroy the "most powerful man in the world" and his career. If it can do this, then it can also move the largest of mountains. It is all in how it is utilized.
I like to think of how all my actions affect my sex life. This seems odd at first. However, with a little practice, it is amazing how motivated one becomes. The desire for sex motivates me to take action even when I feel least like it. If I believe (it is the belief, reality is not important) that something will result in me having more sex, I will take that action. The trick is to see a sexual benefit in all that I need to do.
We will cover more on this in the future. Nevertheless, for now, understand the power that sex has over mankind and how it can be harnessed to create a sensational life.
Perhaps the most famous affair in the last few decades was Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky. This made headlines with the resulting grand jury perjury charge ending with Clinton being impeached. Fortunately for him the Congress didnt press the trial to have him removed from office.
This shows the power of man's sex drive. The powerful show what they are willing to throw everything away to fulfill this desire. Careers are ruined and fortunes are lost. Nevertheless, society fails to acknowledge the power this emotion has over people. Instead we call them names to condone our own behavior.
The truth is that sex is a part of our lives and the desire for sex will push mankind to do all kinds of insane things. To try and turn off that emotion is futile and foolhardy. At the end of the day, we either embrace it or get run over by it. These men mentioned previously chose to get run over by it.
Deep down I believe that everyone wants sex. The only reason people are not more honest with themselves about this is because society has conditioned them to suppress it. Hedonists are not held in high regard. We are taught that civilized people "control" themselves.
Sadly, used properly sex is one of the greatest motivators ever. We saw how it can almost destroy the "most powerful man in the world" and his career. If it can do this, then it can also move the largest of mountains. It is all in how it is utilized.
I like to think of how all my actions affect my sex life. This seems odd at first. However, with a little practice, it is amazing how motivated one becomes. The desire for sex motivates me to take action even when I feel least like it. If I believe (it is the belief, reality is not important) that something will result in me having more sex, I will take that action. The trick is to see a sexual benefit in all that I need to do.
We will cover more on this in the future. Nevertheless, for now, understand the power that sex has over mankind and how it can be harnessed to create a sensational life.
Sunday, June 28, 2009
Sex for money or money for sex?
In most of the United States it is illegal to overtly trade sex for money. With the exception of certain parts of Nevada, prostitution is illegal. The act of providing sexual favors in exchange for currency will land you in jail. Nevertheless, the overt practice of this is forbidden; that is not to say there are not other methods employed.
It always struck me as odd that our culture outlaws prostitution while allows a porn actor or actress to get paid for having sex on film. Of course, up until the 1970s, there were laws which made this illegal too. Society advanced to the stage where it deemed this permissible. Nevertheless, it still feels that prostitution is an offense worthy of incarceration.
While sex for money is frowned upon, money for sex is something that is promoted. We see it plastered all over the movies and commercials. Success is always denoted with a beautiful woman or handsome man. The connotation is that having more of the resources (power) equates to having more of the opposite sex. Have you ever noticed the fantasies depicted in beer commercials? It is interesting that there is usually more than one beautiful woman there. Again, the idea is that more is better.
Sex is a powerful motivator. It is used to get us to buy a certain beer, automobile or house. Marketers know this and use it accordingly. If it can be used to separate us from our money can it also be used to help us acquire more money? Of course it can. Sex is the most powerful weapon against procrastination on the planet. Promise someone more sex and they will take the necessary action.
It is no secret that the affluent enjoy greater benefits sexually. Wealthy men tend to have sexy, younger women on their arms. Both seem equally happy. At the same time, we are starting to see older affluent women with younger men. What was once taboo in the culture is now acceptable.
Do you want to become more? Consider the difference in sexual partners available in the next tax bracket up. Stereotypically, the most unattractive are the "trailer trash" while the rich are the most attractive. While individuals vary this is generally true. If you are able to move up in wealth, do you think you stand a greater chance of attracting a better partner? Will you be able to fulfill your sexual fantasies? I surmise this possibility is enhanced when you have a Mercedes as opposed to a Kia. If you doubt the validity of this, take a look at our society. This lesson is everywhere.
Remember, sex is a powerful motivator. Use it to get off your duff and make something of yourself. All your dreams can come true if you will take the action necessary to get there. Do it now.
It always struck me as odd that our culture outlaws prostitution while allows a porn actor or actress to get paid for having sex on film. Of course, up until the 1970s, there were laws which made this illegal too. Society advanced to the stage where it deemed this permissible. Nevertheless, it still feels that prostitution is an offense worthy of incarceration.
While sex for money is frowned upon, money for sex is something that is promoted. We see it plastered all over the movies and commercials. Success is always denoted with a beautiful woman or handsome man. The connotation is that having more of the resources (power) equates to having more of the opposite sex. Have you ever noticed the fantasies depicted in beer commercials? It is interesting that there is usually more than one beautiful woman there. Again, the idea is that more is better.
Sex is a powerful motivator. It is used to get us to buy a certain beer, automobile or house. Marketers know this and use it accordingly. If it can be used to separate us from our money can it also be used to help us acquire more money? Of course it can. Sex is the most powerful weapon against procrastination on the planet. Promise someone more sex and they will take the necessary action.
It is no secret that the affluent enjoy greater benefits sexually. Wealthy men tend to have sexy, younger women on their arms. Both seem equally happy. At the same time, we are starting to see older affluent women with younger men. What was once taboo in the culture is now acceptable.
Do you want to become more? Consider the difference in sexual partners available in the next tax bracket up. Stereotypically, the most unattractive are the "trailer trash" while the rich are the most attractive. While individuals vary this is generally true. If you are able to move up in wealth, do you think you stand a greater chance of attracting a better partner? Will you be able to fulfill your sexual fantasies? I surmise this possibility is enhanced when you have a Mercedes as opposed to a Kia. If you doubt the validity of this, take a look at our society. This lesson is everywhere.
Remember, sex is a powerful motivator. Use it to get off your duff and make something of yourself. All your dreams can come true if you will take the action necessary to get there. Do it now.
Sex As A Motivator
Sex is one of the strongest emotions that people have. It makes men do things that are totally self defeating. There are hundreds of examples of powerful men throwing everything away for sex. It is something that has baffled researchers for decades.
Nevertheless, I am not here to figure out the primal urges of man. I simply accept that they exist and work with it. Since we know that the sex desire is so strong, let's use it for our advantage. It is time people start to readily accept this fact to push their life to greater heights.
When you think about it, most of what we do has a sexual thought behind it. Marketers know this well. The old saying "sex sells" holds true year after year. People are continually thinking about what the opposite sex will think. This is something that is conditioned within us even without our knowledge. Most times people are subconscious about it. Nevertheless, it is there.
Consider the concept of luxury automobiles. Why do people spend an amount equal to a decent house for a car? Who are the buyers of vehicles like Corvettes, Jaguar, and Porsche? If we analyze the statistics we understand that most of the buyers are male. And, they buy these cars because of the image it presents. In other words, is it a "chick magnet"? The marketers of these automobiles know this and use it to their advantage. That is why there is always a hot girl in the car ads.
The same holds true for women. Look at how they dress. Women will spend large sums of money making their appearance look top-notch. They are taught to do this to attract the right man. Even though society has changed, these generational ideas of yesteryear still persist. Women take great care to do their hair, make up and to wear the finest clothing. They also work out regularly to keep themselves fit. Basically, they want to maintain the sex appeal.
Our sex desire is powerful. Use it to get yourself motivated to take the action you are putting off. The easiest area to begin is with your body. This is what is judged first. Think of all the sex you will get if you lose the 50 extra pounds you are carrying. Make a game of it. Perhaps use this as a motivational tool with your partner (sexual not business). Offer sex as a reward for activities completed. You will be amazed how the motivation level skyrockets.
