Freedom Is Your Choosing

Exercising freedom is your choice. Each day, we all are confronted with decisions. In fact, our day is nothing more than a series of choices that are strung together. What we decide in each of these situations determines the quality of our lives. Therefore, there is nobody to blame for the situations that we find ourselves in. Everything we experience in life is done so at our own choosing.

Of course, this sounds ridiculous to you. This is how you are trained. Blame is something that we excel at. It is far easier to point the finger at someone else and proclaim them responsible for our woes. Sadly, this is incorrect. No matter what the circumstances, we made a decisions somewhere along the line to put ourselves in that situation. Again, that means it is our fault for whatever we experience.

Bondage or Freedom

Most people have the choice whether they experience bondage or freedom. This is something that we choose to do. Once again, since we are the one who makes the decisions in our lives, we are the ones who ultimately select the outcome. If you do not like the results you created thus far, it is time to make different decisions. That is what personal development is all about.

Addicts know what it is like to live in bondage. Anyone who has battled drugs or alcohol (or any addiction for that matter), knows the internal pain associated with trying to quit. At some point in their lives, the substance took control. Thus, freedom of choice was removed. However, those who get clean and sober know that the power of choice is restored. The option of picking up a drink or a drug is up to the person. In short, a person in recovery has a daily choice of living in bondage or freedom. Which is chosen is up to the person.

People who are not addicts also have this same choice. Unfortunately, it is my observation that most opt for the bondage path. They will proclaim themselves free yet lead lives of infantile existence because of fear. Happiness is an illusion for most. Instead of thriving and squeezing all they can out of life, they live the "responsible" way which is code for allowing fear to rule.

It seems like the majority of people want a better life. They are not satisfied with one area or another. Nevertheless, few ever take the action to do something that will make a more than a marginal difference. Fear is the most common jailer and its hold is like a vice. While on one hand they want change, the fear associated with that change is to great. It serves to maintain the status quo. A life ruled by fear is one that will always result in bondage.

Sexual Motivation Is Your Choice

In my book Sexual Motivation, I make the case that sex is the best motivator that humans can tap into. Since I have not heard any of the self-improvement gurus mention this powerful desire, I can only surmise that I am going contrary to the norm by suggesting that each person use sex to motivate him or herself to the highest ends. It is something that is natural within all of us and can be structured so as to empower us. Of course, some de-programming of the societal conditioning is necessary.

Did you realize that what you think about sex is your choice? Few ever take the time to reveal this truth to themselves. In doing so, they blindly accept the premise that society promotes as the norm for sexuality. Did you ever hear that marriage is between a man and a woman? How about the concept that homosexuals are going to burn in hell? Or that sex is something that is meant to express love? All these ideas are commonplace and result in forming the belief system that we carry. However, left unchecked means that someone else is determining how we live.

I am called shallow by many of my critics. They feel there I over simplify what sex is. The idea that sex is something that can be used to motivate oneself (or another) to take action is revolutionary to them. Naturally, it is also immoral and perverted (that is reason enough to check the book out). In the end, their judgments mean nothing to me and I hope the same is true for you. I lead my life how I see fit. They can push their dogma and morays on someone else.

Choosing what you think about sex is one of the most freeing actions you can take. Society is going to control you through your sexual belief system if you allow it. This is something that has occurred for the last couple thousand years. Whenever anyone succumbs to the beliefs of another, they are selecting to live in bondage. People who opt for freedom question what their beliefs are. This is how one retains power.

Check out the ideas contained in Sexual Motivation. I am sure it will be a revolutionary shift for you. The dogma that is commonly promoted does not lead to freedom. The goal is always bondage. Choose to live freely. Question without fear. It is the only true pathway.

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How Fear Controls Us

Fear is a enemy that most people fight on a regular basis. However, it is so subtle that most do not know the power that it wields. Fear has the ability to completely destroy one's life without issuing a single challenge. It simply silently kills all life one day at a time.

The problem with humans is that we project. Our minds have the ability to create pictures in our head. These images are so real that we believe they are real. The mind cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy. If it sees the image, it takes it to be true.

At the same time, the mind also has the ability to protect us from peril. When it determines a situation to be dangerous, it will emit signals that foster our protection. The feeling of fear will be felt throughout the body thus increasing the releasing of chemicals to assist us. It is the basic fight or flight response.

Naturally, most of what we encounter does not require this life or death response. Nevertheless, the mind will do all it can to protect itself (us) from harm. Fear is the tool that is most valuable in this effort. The mind conjures up response to our images which it deems necessary for protection.

Sadly, the mind favors status quo. The unknown is something the mind abhors. When it does not know the outcome to a situation, the mind cannot let that exist. It will invent an outcome. Most often this image is a negative one. The majority of the population has the brain trained to seek the negative. It is the default mindset. Instead of projecting positively, the mind takes the opposite track. This allows it to increase the fear within the body and move to a situation that it knows.

Let us relate this to our favorite subject, sex. Specifically, what happens when a guy sees a woman that he is sexually interested in. Most often it goes something like this: something about her physically catches his attention. The next step is he has an argument in his head as to whether to approach her. One side says to go for it while the other argues against it. At this point, the projection mechanism kicks in. He starts to play in his mind what will happen if he goes up to her. Suddenly, the mind, disliking the uncertainty, focuses upon an image with a horrific outcome. If there were bad experiences in the past, it will draw upon them. His mind will "see" the most outrageous outcome ever experienced by a man. This circumstance passes fear and moves to stark terror. Naturally, any chance of approaching this sexy woman is long gone. The fear took complete control of the situation.

This is a basic example of how the mind uses fear to control us. It is one that most of us can identify with in one way or another. We all have felt the fear in our bodies when interacting with someone who we were attracted to. The fact that we have no idea what the outcome will be is what causes the mind to delve towards the "worst case scenario". Again, the mind abhors the unknown.

Creating better pictures in our head is the fundamental change that we all need to make. The fact that the fear we are listening to is not based in reality shows that we buy into something that is false. Fear is not real. There is no basis whatsoever to follow this insane mind concept. Yet we do. Applying sexual motivation to our lives is paramount to success. Turning the mental makeup from one of failure to success is crucial. The above situation is one that we return to over and over. Learn to alter you behavior by approaching someone of the opposite sex. We want the mind to begin to reference positive experiences with this behavior. In doing so, we will be able to draw upon this in all our other activities.