Freedom Is Your Choosing

Exercising freedom is your choice. Each day, we all are confronted with decisions. In fact, our day is nothing more than a series of choices that are strung together. What we decide in each of these situations determines the quality of our lives. Therefore, there is nobody to blame for the situations that we find ourselves in. Everything we experience in life is done so at our own choosing.

Of course, this sounds ridiculous to you. This is how you are trained. Blame is something that we excel at. It is far easier to point the finger at someone else and proclaim them responsible for our woes. Sadly, this is incorrect. No matter what the circumstances, we made a decisions somewhere along the line to put ourselves in that situation. Again, that means it is our fault for whatever we experience.

Bondage or Freedom

Most people have the choice whether they experience bondage or freedom. This is something that we choose to do. Once again, since we are the one who makes the decisions in our lives, we are the ones who ultimately select the outcome. If you do not like the results you created thus far, it is time to make different decisions. That is what personal development is all about.

Addicts know what it is like to live in bondage. Anyone who has battled drugs or alcohol (or any addiction for that matter), knows the internal pain associated with trying to quit. At some point in their lives, the substance took control. Thus, freedom of choice was removed. However, those who get clean and sober know that the power of choice is restored. The option of picking up a drink or a drug is up to the person. In short, a person in recovery has a daily choice of living in bondage or freedom. Which is chosen is up to the person.

People who are not addicts also have this same choice. Unfortunately, it is my observation that most opt for the bondage path. They will proclaim themselves free yet lead lives of infantile existence because of fear. Happiness is an illusion for most. Instead of thriving and squeezing all they can out of life, they live the "responsible" way which is code for allowing fear to rule.

It seems like the majority of people want a better life. They are not satisfied with one area or another. Nevertheless, few ever take the action to do something that will make a more than a marginal difference. Fear is the most common jailer and its hold is like a vice. While on one hand they want change, the fear associated with that change is to great. It serves to maintain the status quo. A life ruled by fear is one that will always result in bondage.

Sexual Motivation Is Your Choice

In my book Sexual Motivation, I make the case that sex is the best motivator that humans can tap into. Since I have not heard any of the self-improvement gurus mention this powerful desire, I can only surmise that I am going contrary to the norm by suggesting that each person use sex to motivate him or herself to the highest ends. It is something that is natural within all of us and can be structured so as to empower us. Of course, some de-programming of the societal conditioning is necessary.

Did you realize that what you think about sex is your choice? Few ever take the time to reveal this truth to themselves. In doing so, they blindly accept the premise that society promotes as the norm for sexuality. Did you ever hear that marriage is between a man and a woman? How about the concept that homosexuals are going to burn in hell? Or that sex is something that is meant to express love? All these ideas are commonplace and result in forming the belief system that we carry. However, left unchecked means that someone else is determining how we live.

I am called shallow by many of my critics. They feel there I over simplify what sex is. The idea that sex is something that can be used to motivate oneself (or another) to take action is revolutionary to them. Naturally, it is also immoral and perverted (that is reason enough to check the book out). In the end, their judgments mean nothing to me and I hope the same is true for you. I lead my life how I see fit. They can push their dogma and morays on someone else.

Choosing what you think about sex is one of the most freeing actions you can take. Society is going to control you through your sexual belief system if you allow it. This is something that has occurred for the last couple thousand years. Whenever anyone succumbs to the beliefs of another, they are selecting to live in bondage. People who opt for freedom question what their beliefs are. This is how one retains power.

Check out the ideas contained in Sexual Motivation. I am sure it will be a revolutionary shift for you. The dogma that is commonly promoted does not lead to freedom. The goal is always bondage. Choose to live freely. Question without fear. It is the only true pathway.

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Uptight Society

This evening, I watched a program detailing the porn industry. It was interesting to see how an "advanced" society such as ours is still in the dark ages when it comes to sex. To many, pornography is the basis for all that is wrong with society. They believe that every ill society faces is traced back to this vice.

My question is why is this such a large industry? Estimates have it pegged at roughly $13 billion a year in the United States alone. The answer to that question lies in the simple fact that it is inherent in our human nature. Man (the species, not the gender) is a sexual animal. We are one of the few who chooses sex freely. Most other mammals engage in sex simply as part of the mating process. We have the ability of when we do it and with whom. That is not something that can be overlooked.

It is intriguing to note how society tries to place a lid on our sexual practices. Talking about sex is inappropriate in most circles. There are laws banning it in public. Hell, even nudity in public is banned in most places. And we have the gall to believe that we have advanced since the Victorian Era? What a farce.

The simple fact is that anyone who embraces his or her sexual side is further advanced than many out there. Society, with all its different factions, is intent on having us deny this side of ourselves. Religions throughout the world profess the taboo of sex except within certain parameters. Failure to honor this accord will result in eternal damnation. Sex is a route straight to hell we are taught.

To me, this is absurd. However, I am so glad that the general populous thinks this way. It is far easier to get ahead of the pack when they are tied to the starting line. Going through life denying our sexual motives and desires is like showing up for a gun fight with a knife. You are extremely under armed. When I approach life situations, I understand how my sexual desires are motivating me. All that is around us is a result of sexual urges. Those who are at the top typically have the greatest sexual aura. A high sex drive is a common trait of successful people. It is part of being the "alpha" male.

Society is uptight. Grasping this concept will allow you to maneuver through it to your advantage. Sex is natural and the desire for more is inbred within us. People are motivated by these urges often with tragic results. Those who understand the philosophy I am promoting are able to use its power for gain instead of loss. You will soon comprehend that you are excelling while others are falling victim to this power. Harness it for you own benefit.