The Core: Sexual Freedom

Do you crave being free? Is freedom something that you hold extremely dear? If so, I would suggest that you look at your sexual practices to determine how much freedom you really have. I say this because I am a believer that the sexual desire is one of the most powerful that we have as human beings. However, society has a way of conditioning us into behaving in ways that it deems appropriate.

Alternative lifestyles have always existed on the fringe. However, when enough people start to buy into the concepts, even if they aren't practitioners themselves, that way of life becomes more mainstream. A classic example of this is the gay struggle and how it has moved into societal acceptability. While not perfect, I would say that being gay lacks the stigma it had 40 years ago. It is a movement that garnered the attention of the masses and have attained mainstream acceptability.

The same is not true for many other lifestyle choices. We all know the attacks the Morons and other polygamous people endure. Their preference for multiple wives is disregarded by society as perverted and immoral. In fact, the secular belief has made it illegal to practice this way of life.

Nudists also face the same circumstances. Even though we enter into this world without a stitch of clothing on us, anyone about the age of toddler faces consequences if he or she chooses to get back to this natural state. The absurdity of the Gestapo idea has gone so far as to arrest people for being naked in their own homes. This is complete insanity. But, just another example of how freedom is removed by those who seek to control.

Make no mistake, the state exists for one purpose: to control. Every governmental mechanism, no matter what form it is, uses laws to prohibit behavior. It also wields it power to make the people behave in certain ways. This is true going back to the days of Caesar. Consider that the next time you hear that the government (and politicians) are here to help.

Sexual Control

Taking control of your sexual activities is one of the main methods that organizations place your under their power. Again, this is something that occurred over the last few thousand years. Sex, an act that is totally natural, is promoted as something that is dirty, perverted, and bad. Dogma and laws have followed this course forever.

Let me ask you: why, in the United States, is sodomy illegal in many states? By the same token, why is oral sex illegal in still other ones? What business is it of the government, or anyone else, what two adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom? The logical answer is that it is no one's business. But controlling the minds and actions of people is not a logical game. This particular mechanism is instilled to alter your behavior while you are in the privacy of your own home. If you will obey when alone, you certainly will fall in line when others are watching. This is their goal. Control the most private act and you control the mind. It is that simple.

Breaking free from the slavery mindset begins with questioning all that is given to you. My suggestion is to always start with sex since that is what the powerful always seem to go after. Whether it is the churches or the governments, there is always a force seeking to alter your sexual behavior. Look at all the lessons that you were taught regarding sex and you will see the truth behind this idea.

The Real Deal

The real truth is that freedom means that one can decide whatever he or she wishes. Shaping your sexual life is an important step onto the path of freedom. Resisting the temptation to buy into what society considers normal is something that requires a great deal of courage. Consider the plight of all those gay people who 'came out of the closest'. They endured horrific treatment as a result of their desire to be open and free with their sexual choices. This is just another example that freedom is never free.

My belief is that one can never be free as long as he or she is living a sexual lie. Now, I am not a proponent of the idea that living an alternative lifestyle is the only way to live. Nor do I feel that everyone is cut out for something different from the norm. For many, the life of one man and one woman living in monogamy is ideal . However, for the rest of us, this is fantasy. Personally, I could no more make a traditional relationship work than I could fly to the moon. Both activities require a certain skill set that is foreign to me. I am not cut out for either. Many that I encounter feel the same way.

Being true to oneself is extremely difficult. Making the choice to live your life as you see fit is something that most lack the courage to do. It is far easier to be a law abiding citizen while obeying the prevailing dogma that is preached each Sunday. Naturally, if this is something that you find happiness in, then by all means do it. However, if you adhered to what you were taught yet still find yourself lacking the peace and contentment that you should have, I would suggest seriously looking at the path your choose. Perhaps it is time to alter your journey.

I am a proponent of being proactive in your life. Too many, by default, are reactive. By questioning what your belief system is, you are beginning to take control of what occurs in your life. Your belief system determines how your mind processes the world around you. Changing the barometer of how things occur in your head changes your world. Happiness is a choice. However, I found it impossible to be happy when I was living in the bondage of the ideas of others. Fundamentally, until I consciously chose to breakaway, I was going to suffer. It is only after seriously looking at my sexual/romantic/intimate activities did I begin to understand how freedom was acquired. I urge you to do the same. Sexual freedom is the core to freedom in life. Begin today of getting out of the bondage.

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Clarity: A Key To Freedom

Confusion is a wonderful jailer. Most people never get clear about what they truly want. Instead, they settle for whatever life throws their way. Sadly, this usually is not very good which causes them to complain. In the end, a lack of clarity won out.

It is impossible to move towards something unless you know exactly what that is. Goal setting experts will tell you that for something to be considered a real goal it must be measurable. This means that there is a time when you know whether you reached it or not. It is similar to driving across country (I know you all have heard this before). When you set out on a trip, the first thing you do is to plan on your destination. Doing this alleviates increases your chances since you know where you are going.

Sexual Clarity

I often tell people that the best place to start is with one's own sexual lifestyle. You would be amazed how few people proactively chose the sex life that they have. Instead, they allowed the forces around them dictate what is proper behavior and what is not. Come on. What is more personal than sex. Surely, this is one area that anyone has the complete freedom to choose? A quick look around society will tell you that the exact opposite is true.

Nowhere is control from the outside more evident than in the sexual arena. People are influenced by a variety of institutions, individuals, and dogma. Unfortunately, this occurs without any knowledge on the person's part. The conditioning that takes place happens over decades. It starts from the youngest of ages until we thoroughly adhere to the dogma. Each of us is subject to this so, unless one actively seeks to reprogram him or herself, the result is blind obedience.

Decide what you want out of your sex life. Spend time getting clear exactly what you want things to look like. Forget the preconceived notions that you have. Your programming will scream at many of the ideas that you might come up with. The dogma we were taught is powerful and you learned it well. Now is time to really consider what will make you happy.

Susceptible To Control

Confusion allows for someone else to assume control. Have you ever seen a movie where there is a traumatic scene where people are in jeopardy? Often, in these films, the person who is "in charge" freezes resulting in a lack of decision. He or she just doesn't know what to do. Fortunately, for all those involved, the films hero is there to step in and take control. The indecision and lack of certainty on the part of the leader opens the door for someone else.

Our minds are the same way. When we are uncertain about what we are going to do, we allow someone else to make the decisions. This can happen with another person who is there who actually makes the choice for us. Or, it might be a previous idea that was planted by someone else in the past. Nevertheless, the end result is we are not consciously choosing what we want. This is enabling us to be controlled in that moment. Once again, this shows how confusion is a wonderful jailer.

Breaking Free

The process of breaking free from bondage is to decide what you want. It is that simple. In my book Sexual Motivation, I mentioned that determining your sexual desires enables you to be firm in your decisions. To thy own self be true. Live your life for you and nobody else. This is where we find happiness.

So, do you want an open sexual relationship? Are you gay? Bisexual? Polyamorous? Polysexual? Do you like to masturbate but feel guilty about it? Is anal sex something that you want to try? Whatever the preference, determine that it is something for you. Do not allow the dogma of the past to affect you. Who cares what others think! If it makes you happy, then pursue it. This is what creates freedom.

With a little clarity you will start to see the power in this concept. Momentum is built the moment that you realize what you want. A lot of energy in life is wasted on activities that we do not care about nor do they net much effect. Removing this practice allows us to focus our attention that those tasks which will create a benefit to us. Freedom dictates this is what we go after. Resist the temptation to justify living any other way.

Get clear about what you want in life and you will be free to go after it.

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