Yesterday, I experienced something that retaught me how fragile things are. We take many things for granted. Over the course of time, our life situations become familiar to us. That familiarity leads to us being complacent with how things are. Regardless of what the circumstances, man can get accustomed to almost anything.
People will often focus on all the negative in their lives. They tend to complain about how awful things are going. Rarely do they concentrate on all the benefits they have or opportunities ahead of them. The mind likes to default to the misery.
Carpe Diem is the latin phrase meaning "seize the day". We all have only the 24 hours right now. We can choose to use it for positive purposes or negative. The choice is entirely up to us.
My experience yesterday taught me how fragile my life is. I was body surfacing in the ocean when a wave took me heels-over-head. As I was forced under, my face was planted on the ocean floor with the force of the way whipping my body over the top of me. This causes my neck to "snap" in a whiplash like fashion. Luckily, I turned out alright other than an extremely sore neck.
The point that I am making is that something like that could have caused paralysis. Walking is something that I take for granted on a daily basis. Rarely do I give a thought that I can do something which gives me incredible freedom. Ask anyone who is bound to a wheelchair about the loss of freedom they experienced. Walking is something that few are grateful for, at least until it is lost.
Sexual motivation is all about "seizing the day". The goal is to try and motivate ourselves to take the actions which move our lives to the next level. Using the power force of sex helps us to create the incentive to act. There is too much to lose by wasting time. Procrastination is just a slow form of death.
An experience like I went through makes me realize how fragile everything is. Too often I get caught up in the idea of rejection, thus allowing fear to win. I am reminded that life is short and I am here to make the best of it. Fearing the reactions of others is insane and useless.
How many times are you afraid to talk to someone because of what they will say? Do you allow the reactions of others to dictate your life? It is time to stop that. Motivating yourself to move forward is crucial. Freedom is at risk unless you adopt this outlook.
Remember, whatever is here today can be gone tomorrow. We just never know.
Sunday, August 30, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Actions Not Words
We are judged based upon our actions. Words are meaningless unless we follow them up with action. This is the mistake that many make. It is easy to talk a "big game". However, backing those words up is a different matter altogether.
Sexual motivation is all about using the natural desires within us to move ourselves to action. The world is watching how we behave and all success depends upon our ability to act. Those who succumb to procrastination end up living a life that is wrought with disappointment.
Some of the best examples show this point emphatically. Let us use our physical body. Many can use losing weight. We are a nation of "lard asses" who need to get active. This is not a secret. In fact, most will tell you they need to lose weight. However, do they ever do anything about it? For the majority, the answer is "no".
Talking about losing weight will not bring about success. The same is true for business, money, or relationships. All the promises in the world are worthless without action. Success is a result of taking action in some form. All my writing is a result of me sitting down and doing it. Tax returns are filed because accountants fill them out. Building erected only after people get busy building them. At some point, everything needs to move from the planning stage.
The power of success is a great motivator to get people to act. Whenever you can picture yourself getting a sexual payoff, you are more likely to take some action. Overcoming fears that reside in our mind is often part of the process. Nevertheless, the payoff is worth it when sex is involved.
Another example which shows how important action is in the area of relationships. Many fall prey to the fear of rejection. When confronted with the prospect of asking someone out, often the mind will picture all the bad that can happen from that question. It instantly jumps to the rejection. Of course, it is impossible to get laid without asking someone out. Failure to do so will only lead to masturbation.
Consider these words as you go through your day. How much time are you spending doing as opposed to thinking. We need to understand how important taking action is. If we are continually procrastinating, then we will suffer the consequences for that. The world has a way of finding and rewarding those who take action. Make sure you are one of them.
Sexual motivation is all about using the natural desires within us to move ourselves to action. The world is watching how we behave and all success depends upon our ability to act. Those who succumb to procrastination end up living a life that is wrought with disappointment.
Some of the best examples show this point emphatically. Let us use our physical body. Many can use losing weight. We are a nation of "lard asses" who need to get active. This is not a secret. In fact, most will tell you they need to lose weight. However, do they ever do anything about it? For the majority, the answer is "no".
Talking about losing weight will not bring about success. The same is true for business, money, or relationships. All the promises in the world are worthless without action. Success is a result of taking action in some form. All my writing is a result of me sitting down and doing it. Tax returns are filed because accountants fill them out. Building erected only after people get busy building them. At some point, everything needs to move from the planning stage.
The power of success is a great motivator to get people to act. Whenever you can picture yourself getting a sexual payoff, you are more likely to take some action. Overcoming fears that reside in our mind is often part of the process. Nevertheless, the payoff is worth it when sex is involved.
Another example which shows how important action is in the area of relationships. Many fall prey to the fear of rejection. When confronted with the prospect of asking someone out, often the mind will picture all the bad that can happen from that question. It instantly jumps to the rejection. Of course, it is impossible to get laid without asking someone out. Failure to do so will only lead to masturbation.
Consider these words as you go through your day. How much time are you spending doing as opposed to thinking. We need to understand how important taking action is. If we are continually procrastinating, then we will suffer the consequences for that. The world has a way of finding and rewarding those who take action. Make sure you are one of them.
Monday, August 10, 2009
The Opinions of Others
Did you ever take the time to consider how much you value the opinions of others? Actually, to take it once step further, did you ever ponder how you allow the opinions of others to control your life? If you are like most, these thoughts never really cross your mind. Instead, you pass through life living according to the precepts of others.
Nowhere is this more evident than in the area of sex. I found that the sexual arena is where all human behavior is magnified. If you want to find out something about how humans act, look at their sexual practices. With regard to the opinions of others, we see that our sexual activities are often controlled those very opinions. People rarely form their own ideals in this area. Instead, they allow others to dictate all that transpires.
Remember the days of high school where you would go out with a certain girl (or guy) because you knew your friends would not approve? Of course. We all remember those days. Sadly, the truth that most of us do not have to think all the way back to high school to recall this behavior. I would guess the majority of people retain this same mindset into adulthood.
Sex is something that is highly personal and individual. We all are attracted to something different. What one person finds sexy, another might find revolting. However, most tend to fall into the trap of trying to fit into what is considered normal. Therefore, they will resist taking action which goes contrary to popular belief.
A prime example is the homosexual community. This is a group that was ostracized for decades by society. They were judged, condemned, and physically abused. Society called them all kinds of names in an effort to "convert" them to normalcy. Sadly, many fell prey to these pressures. The opinions of others (and the violence) forced them to abandon the sexual choice they wanted to make. This trend changed in the last few decades with homosexuality being accepted by a larger percentage of the population. Nevertheless, the same cannot be said for polygamists, transgenders, or swingers. These groups are still looked down upon.
People who know me understand that I am involved in all kinds of "defiant" sexual behavior. (I write that term in quotes to signify their judgment not mine) I am a swinger, nudist, and practitioner of BDSM. These are lifestyle choices which I consciously chose which puts me at odds with mainstream society. Nevertheless, this is how I want to live my life. I am not at the mercy of public opinion on this one.
This brings me back to my original questions. Consider your life and how often you succumb to the wishes of others. Do you attend family gatherings out of guilt? Are you worried about what others will think when you are confronted with a decision? Do you shy away from choices because you know they are against the norms of those you frequently interact with? This is a sign that you put too much emphasis on what others think. Your life is your own. It is up to you to determine what you do with your time here on this planet. At the end of the road, when you look back, there will be nobody to blame but yourself.
Stop putting stock into what others think. The sad truth is that most of the people you are trying to appease are unhappy in their own lives. Whenever anyone is focusing upon your life, they are not looking at their own. This distraction is what most people want since they lack the courage to face the truth about their lives. Hence, they spent their time criticizing others who decide to live a little differently. These are the people that most are putting stock in.
As you can see, the opinions of others should matter little to you. I chose to live my life according to standards that are acceptable to me. If someone else has an issue with my choice, then that is his or her problem. We are free to choose how we spend our time on this planet and this is a freedom I opt to exercise. Do you have the courage to do the same? If so, then stop worrying so much about what others think. Do not allow their misery to rule your life.
Nowhere is this more evident than in the area of sex. I found that the sexual arena is where all human behavior is magnified. If you want to find out something about how humans act, look at their sexual practices. With regard to the opinions of others, we see that our sexual activities are often controlled those very opinions. People rarely form their own ideals in this area. Instead, they allow others to dictate all that transpires.
Remember the days of high school where you would go out with a certain girl (or guy) because you knew your friends would not approve? Of course. We all remember those days. Sadly, the truth that most of us do not have to think all the way back to high school to recall this behavior. I would guess the majority of people retain this same mindset into adulthood.
Sex is something that is highly personal and individual. We all are attracted to something different. What one person finds sexy, another might find revolting. However, most tend to fall into the trap of trying to fit into what is considered normal. Therefore, they will resist taking action which goes contrary to popular belief.
A prime example is the homosexual community. This is a group that was ostracized for decades by society. They were judged, condemned, and physically abused. Society called them all kinds of names in an effort to "convert" them to normalcy. Sadly, many fell prey to these pressures. The opinions of others (and the violence) forced them to abandon the sexual choice they wanted to make. This trend changed in the last few decades with homosexuality being accepted by a larger percentage of the population. Nevertheless, the same cannot be said for polygamists, transgenders, or swingers. These groups are still looked down upon.
People who know me understand that I am involved in all kinds of "defiant" sexual behavior. (I write that term in quotes to signify their judgment not mine) I am a swinger, nudist, and practitioner of BDSM. These are lifestyle choices which I consciously chose which puts me at odds with mainstream society. Nevertheless, this is how I want to live my life. I am not at the mercy of public opinion on this one.
This brings me back to my original questions. Consider your life and how often you succumb to the wishes of others. Do you attend family gatherings out of guilt? Are you worried about what others will think when you are confronted with a decision? Do you shy away from choices because you know they are against the norms of those you frequently interact with? This is a sign that you put too much emphasis on what others think. Your life is your own. It is up to you to determine what you do with your time here on this planet. At the end of the road, when you look back, there will be nobody to blame but yourself.
Stop putting stock into what others think. The sad truth is that most of the people you are trying to appease are unhappy in their own lives. Whenever anyone is focusing upon your life, they are not looking at their own. This distraction is what most people want since they lack the courage to face the truth about their lives. Hence, they spent their time criticizing others who decide to live a little differently. These are the people that most are putting stock in.
As you can see, the opinions of others should matter little to you. I chose to live my life according to standards that are acceptable to me. If someone else has an issue with my choice, then that is his or her problem. We are free to choose how we spend our time on this planet and this is a freedom I opt to exercise. Do you have the courage to do the same? If so, then stop worrying so much about what others think. Do not allow their misery to rule your life.
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Oral Motivation
As most readers know, I live an open sexual lifestyle. For this reason, I am freer to experiment with different ways to motivate myself. For those who live the same way, many of the suggestions I offer can be directly applied. However, the same holds true for those who are involved in monogamous relationships. Sexual motivation works regardless of who is delivering the sex.
It is a well known fact that any guy loves a good blowjob. By the same token, most women love to have their pussies eaten out. Oral provides us with some of the most fantastic orgasms we experience. I know many who would rather receive oral as opposed to getting laid. It is something that we find highly intoxicating.
Society deters the notion of offering sexual favors as rewards. People who do this are either doing something illegal (prostitutes) or morally incorrigible (sluts). The bottom line is that society likes to control all aspects of life and sex is the most powerful. Condition people in that area and you control all the rest.
Nevertheless, I take exception to this idea. I think that sex as a reward is a wonderful way to motivate a spouse. As mentioned, one of the best ways is to offer oral sex. It is a simple premise to do: tell your sexual partner if he or she does (blank), you will perform oral sex. If you are dealing with a guy, watch how fast he jumps to accomplish what you set down for him. A blowjob will motivate even the laziest guy to do the worst of tasks. Offer it and he will do (cumming comes later).
Many will claim this idea is sick and perverted. However, those who are willing to try it will quickly determine that motivation is nearby. If you find there is something that you were badgering one to get done, offer oral sex as a reward. In most instances the action will be completed by sunset. The motivation that was lacking for so long is instantly found. It only required pushing the right buttons.
Oral sex as a reward is a powerful way to get things done.
It is a well known fact that any guy loves a good blowjob. By the same token, most women love to have their pussies eaten out. Oral provides us with some of the most fantastic orgasms we experience. I know many who would rather receive oral as opposed to getting laid. It is something that we find highly intoxicating.
Society deters the notion of offering sexual favors as rewards. People who do this are either doing something illegal (prostitutes) or morally incorrigible (sluts). The bottom line is that society likes to control all aspects of life and sex is the most powerful. Condition people in that area and you control all the rest.
Nevertheless, I take exception to this idea. I think that sex as a reward is a wonderful way to motivate a spouse. As mentioned, one of the best ways is to offer oral sex. It is a simple premise to do: tell your sexual partner if he or she does (blank), you will perform oral sex. If you are dealing with a guy, watch how fast he jumps to accomplish what you set down for him. A blowjob will motivate even the laziest guy to do the worst of tasks. Offer it and he will do (cumming comes later).
Many will claim this idea is sick and perverted. However, those who are willing to try it will quickly determine that motivation is nearby. If you find there is something that you were badgering one to get done, offer oral sex as a reward. In most instances the action will be completed by sunset. The motivation that was lacking for so long is instantly found. It only required pushing the right buttons.
Oral sex as a reward is a powerful way to get things done.
Sunday, August 2, 2009
What Is Your Highest Value?
This is a question that few seem to ever consider. Instead, they trot through life going blindly from one day to the next. Nothing ever changes because the truth is that everyday resembles every other. While there might be minor changes like holidays or vacations, the fact is that each week ends up like the previous.
Determining what you value is what adds juice to your life. The few who take the time to uncover this fact about themselves live a higher quality of life than those who do not. These are the people who are awakened. Their existence takes on an entirely new meaning. Instantly, they develop something called "passion".
What is your highest value? Have you ever considered this for even a second? Putting some effort into these answers might yield insight into ways to change your life. Instead of blindly moving from day-to-day, you have the opportunity to design a life program that is fun and exciting.
For me, freedom is the highest value that I have. I attempt to structure as much of my life around this quality as I can. When I look at the aspects of my life today compared to 5 years ago, the change is remarkable. Of course, there still is a great deal of work to be done. Over the next few years, I am seeking to take my life path to an even greater level.
One of the first areas that I started this transformation was sexually. I learned a number of years ago the power of sex. It was such a motivator in my life and the lives that I witnessed. I saw seemingly reasonable people do the craziest things for sex. They were willing to risk great things in an effort to get laid. This is when I determined that sex could be an incredible motivator.
Looking at my life, I realized that monogamy was not for me. It is something that I wrestled with for years. Since I made this decision, I designed my life around this very premise. By doing this, I enjoy the freedom to live sexually as I see fit. I am not bound by the chains of what society says. While others are conforming, I am creating. The value of freedom is at the core of it all.
Conforming certainly has its place in our lives. I do not advocate anarchy. However, I do promote taking control of your life based upon what you value. Creating ways to fulfill these values in different areas of your life is what the journey is all about. I highly suggest you ponder what it is that you value. After that, look at how that plays in your sexual relations. This will unearth the most powerful area where you can align yourself with your true nature. Historically, sex is used to take a man down. Now we are going to use it to propel us forward.
Determining what you value is what adds juice to your life. The few who take the time to uncover this fact about themselves live a higher quality of life than those who do not. These are the people who are awakened. Their existence takes on an entirely new meaning. Instantly, they develop something called "passion".
What is your highest value? Have you ever considered this for even a second? Putting some effort into these answers might yield insight into ways to change your life. Instead of blindly moving from day-to-day, you have the opportunity to design a life program that is fun and exciting.
For me, freedom is the highest value that I have. I attempt to structure as much of my life around this quality as I can. When I look at the aspects of my life today compared to 5 years ago, the change is remarkable. Of course, there still is a great deal of work to be done. Over the next few years, I am seeking to take my life path to an even greater level.
One of the first areas that I started this transformation was sexually. I learned a number of years ago the power of sex. It was such a motivator in my life and the lives that I witnessed. I saw seemingly reasonable people do the craziest things for sex. They were willing to risk great things in an effort to get laid. This is when I determined that sex could be an incredible motivator.
Looking at my life, I realized that monogamy was not for me. It is something that I wrestled with for years. Since I made this decision, I designed my life around this very premise. By doing this, I enjoy the freedom to live sexually as I see fit. I am not bound by the chains of what society says. While others are conforming, I am creating. The value of freedom is at the core of it all.
Conforming certainly has its place in our lives. I do not advocate anarchy. However, I do promote taking control of your life based upon what you value. Creating ways to fulfill these values in different areas of your life is what the journey is all about. I highly suggest you ponder what it is that you value. After that, look at how that plays in your sexual relations. This will unearth the most powerful area where you can align yourself with your true nature. Historically, sex is used to take a man down. Now we are going to use it to propel us forward.
