Being True To Oneself

Have you ever read the conflict that one who is gay goes through internally when trying to determine which sexual avenue to pursue? Here is an individual who has an internal yearning one way yet societal conditioning is pushing him or her another way. Many are confronted with similar experiences when deciding whether to pursue an alternative lifestyle.

Over the last few days, I have challenged each of you to determine how you would like your sexual life to be. Most have never undertaken this exercise. Instead, they fall prey to the conditioning that is placed upon them. Whatever is considered 'normal' is the avenue followed. This takes place in bedrooms all over the world every night.

Are you one of those people who craves something different? If you are, I highly suggest looking at this aspect of your life to take some proactive control. Since sex is so personal and highly charged, anyone who is able to exert control in that area assumes power over so many others. This is something that dogma has done for centuries. Breaking free of this is the first step to freedom.

Being True To Oneself

Determining what one wants in life is only part of the battle. Many seem to feel that the most difficult part of the process is in the choosing. This is not the case. What gets really hard is to remain true to that decision. It is only after making this choice that one truly understands the power behind the social conditioning. In addition, one begin to see all the ways that society attempts to sway a person.

The example of the homosexual epitomizes how influential society can be against any alternative lifestyle. A person who chooses to follow this path is ostracized and demonized by religious institutions. He or she is labeled as immoral while being told that hell is the foregone conclusion. Another factor is that homosexual intercourse is illegal in a number of states since sodomy is outlawed. Our gay friend is now risking imprisonment for his choices. At the same time, everywhere one turns there are images of the family unit since this is what the mainstream promotes. Obviously, this brings up another issue since gay marriage is currently banned. Therefore, the family unit is reserved only for those who fit a particular model.

In the face of all these pressures, it is easy to see why one would question his or her choice. Naturally, for many, since it is an issue of sexual orientation, homosexuality is something that one does not waver upon. However, the same cannot be said for polyamory, BDSM, or swinging. These are all lifestyle choices that people make without the biological incentive to be that way. They are also decisions that society will do everything it can to demean and belittle. This is where the questioning can enter into the picture.

Is it worth it? If one carefully thought out the decisions, I can attest that it certainly is. Remaining true to one's inner core is the most difficult part of this process. To thy own self be true. The desire to rescind one's decision can hit at odd times. Probably the most trying time is when one meets someone outside the lifestyle. This is commonly when one will begin to question they way he or she choose. Perhaps happiness is possible in the traditional is the overriding thought. Of course, a review of one's personal history might reveal the fallacy behind this mindset. Most chose an alternative lifestyle since the traditional was not working. Reverting back will only lead to more of the same.

Being true to oneself is the only path to success and happiness. We all have an internal calling that will make us happy. Life is not a 'one size fits all' deal. Each of us is responsible for finding our own way. What we uncover reveals what is true for us. Going contrary to this insight, while perhaps unpopular, is not the path we need to pursue. Let your internal barometer be your guide. It will not let you down.

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Monogamy?

The Tiger Woods episode exemplifies how our culture is focused on something that goes against natural norms. Let us start by asking "was anyone surprised that Tiger Woods was sleeping around". Many seemed to claim that it went against his image as a nice, clean-cut guy. My answer to that is "hogwash". He is a normal male with the access to women that most men can only dream about.

Here is the situation: Woods is rich, famous, good looking, well built, and the best in his field. What is the confusion concerning his sex patterns? Don't people realize that monogamy among celebrities is the exception not the rule. In fact, if you think about it, this is true for most of society.

Why do we subject ourselves to this mess? I, for one, do not see Tiger's conquests as any problem. Where I take offense to what he did is concerning the deceit with his wife. As an advocate for openness, I cannot support the lying that took place within his relationship. Of course, she might have had some sense going into this also. Monogamy is a methodology that has run its course. I believe mankind, as the rest of nature, was never designed to live in this manner.

In my opinion, what should have happened is that Woods go to his girlfriend (now his wife) and tell her of his interest in being married and starting a family. In addition, she should expect him to have other relations with women. However, when it comes to love (a subject for another day), he is hers. Sex is an entirely different manner. When he is on the road, there will be times when someone else garners his interest. That interest will be pursued periodically.

This openness would leave her with a choice: she could leave or move forward. Either way, everything would be out on the table. Those who are open about living a polygamous lifestyle never find themselves in the situation Woods did. The truth is that Tiger's sex habits didn't get him in trouble, rather, his concealing of those habits did. Being open would have averted a great deal of trouble.

Naturally, Woods was not taught this lesson. Few in our culture are shown this. Instead, we are conditioned to believe that a marriage needs to include monogamy and that we ought to be faithful to the one we love. Yet we see this same tape played repeatedly in every walk of life. Each day, divorce courts are filled with people who "strayed". The financial and emotional price paid is dear. Ultimately, this myth is exposed with individuals being hurt.

Sadly, when it comes to sex, we ignore another of culture's lessons: honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront and tell him or her what you are into. It alleviates many headaches in the future.

The Weak

Sexual motivation is not for everyone. There are many who simply are incapable of getting past the conditioning of society. The religions of the world place a horrible mental strain on people. This indoctrination starts at a very young age and continues into adulthood. By the time most are in their late teens, they are trained to follow the agenda set forth by society.

The majority of people are sheep. They exist only to be slaughtered. We see them on a daily basis. Much of our society revolves around the "helping" of these people. Everyone is viewed in terms of the collective whole as opposed to individually. This helps to protect the weak. We are told that conscientious people take care of the less fortunate. This is true. But why do we take care of the able-bodied? That is something to seriously consider.

Sex is a taboo subject in many cultures. We see throughout the ages how it was used as a mechanism to control. This idea is in full force today. Society carries the "Puritan" principles with it regarding this natural topic. People parlay that into behavior which is wrought with guilt and fear. Anything that is taboo holds an attraction yet must be engaged in secrecy. Fetishes, alternative lifestyles, and other non-mainstream ideas are rarely spoken about. People who engage in these behaviors are labeled in an effort to get them to conform.

People simply live with the "herd mentality". Even if they believe something different, they will go with the masses so as to "fit in". This is where the powerful are granted control. The fear of being ostracized is too great for most. They do not have the inner strength to stand on their own. This is true in most cultures throughout time.

Individualism is something that many cannot handle. Sexual motivation is all about the desires and motives of the individual. It necessitates the removing of old ideas and replacing them with more productive notions. Society strives for equality, something that doesn't exist in nature. This belief leads to mediocrity. Instead of raising up the bottom, it ultimately tears down the top.

Nature says the meek should be slaughtered. Some are designed as predators, others as prey. We see this in the animal kingdom. Man, even though he tries to deny, is part of that kingdom. Everything that applies in the animal world is equally applicable to man. Ignorance does not change the facts.

Our minds are the most powerful computers on the planet. Sadly, most have a defective database. They believe the "enslaving" concepts society promotes. Your sex life is your own. It is a powerful force that is given in nature to guide and motivate you. Man will do insane things for sex, most often to his own detriment. Some of the most powerful people in the world were taken down because of sexual forays. They were stuck in the mindset which forced them to be sneaky. Ultimately, the facts were exposed and their careers ended.

The weak buy into the notion that sex has to look a particular way. On the other hand, the strong believe that it is their choice to fulfill this desire however one wants (as long as it is not infringing upon the safety and choices of others). Using the sexual desire to better yourself is one of the smartest things a person can do. Nature created this strong desire within us; utilize it for your benefit.

Most of these ideas entail you standing on your own. It breaks from the common thinking of the masses. However, the masses are mediocre at best. Leading a successful life means steering away from the blind faith others hold. Make your own choices. Sex is something that is natural and wonderful. It is also very powerful. Use it to your advantage. It will lead to your success. Remember, the rest of the world simply gives it away.

The Opinion Of Others

Politicians are well aware that there will be a sector of the population that dislikes them. Regardless of how popular one is, roughly half the people will think that person is doing a bad job and want them out of office. Even in Presidential politics, this holds true. Every four years, the winner has more than 40 million people vote against him.

When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.

I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.

The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.

A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.

Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.