Abstinence-One Way To Motivate

Here is something to consider: what if I had the power to determine whether you would ever have sex again or not? I know, that power already is being utilized by your wife. But seriously, what if you had to have my permission to have sex and I would only grant it based upon certain parameters being met? How do you think your life would change? I would bet it would see an noticeable jump upwards.

The reason why I say this is because I can hold one to a very high standard. The foundation of sexual motivation is to open ourselves up the ingrained power that is our sexual desire. This is something that is natural and, other than the desire for survival, the more powerful desire we have.

Envisioning yourself living life without sex will provide insight into the magical force this is. How do you feel about never having sex again? Abstinence, or the threat of, can be really motivating. I used this technique many times to get myself over periods of stagnation.

Many motivational experts will use the love of one's children to emphasize how one can always move things up to another level. They will ask a person if he or she could complete the action if the life of the children was at stake. Often, they will mention that if you do not do this, your children will die (graphic but effective). When confronted with this prospect, naturally most will say that they will find a way to get it accomplished.

This is the same idea. What we need to do is to stimulate the mind to get out of the way. If you believe you can do no more, then you are right. However, if we add certain stimuli, we often find a new belief is created. Suddenly, when faced with the prospect of lifelong abstinence, one finds the internal fortitude to succeed. Of course, this is something that was there all along, the mind just bought into the excuses that one offered up. Sexual motivation is how we break free from the consequences of those excuses.

One final thought on this idea: couples can really use this as a means of getting the other to step up. Decide on some things that need to be done. Use sex as a reward and abstinence as a punishment. Watch how quickly motivation changes when confronted with this situation. You will see productivity increase substantially.

Play around with this idea and see where it gets you.