The Tiger Woods episode exemplifies how our culture is focused on something that goes against natural norms. Let us start by asking "was anyone surprised that Tiger Woods was sleeping around". Many seemed to claim that it went against his image as a nice, clean-cut guy. My answer to that is "hogwash". He is a normal male with the access to women that most men can only dream about.
Here is the situation: Woods is rich, famous, good looking, well built, and the best in his field. What is the confusion concerning his sex patterns? Don't people realize that monogamy among celebrities is the exception not the rule. In fact, if you think about it, this is true for most of society.
Why do we subject ourselves to this mess? I, for one, do not see Tiger's conquests as any problem. Where I take offense to what he did is concerning the deceit with his wife. As an advocate for openness, I cannot support the lying that took place within his relationship. Of course, she might have had some sense going into this also. Monogamy is a methodology that has run its course. I believe mankind, as the rest of nature, was never designed to live in this manner.
In my opinion, what should have happened is that Woods go to his girlfriend (now his wife) and tell her of his interest in being married and starting a family. In addition, she should expect him to have other relations with women. However, when it comes to love (a subject for another day), he is hers. Sex is an entirely different manner. When he is on the road, there will be times when someone else garners his interest. That interest will be pursued periodically.
This openness would leave her with a choice: she could leave or move forward. Either way, everything would be out on the table. Those who are open about living a polygamous lifestyle never find themselves in the situation Woods did. The truth is that Tiger's sex habits didn't get him in trouble, rather, his concealing of those habits did. Being open would have averted a great deal of trouble.
Naturally, Woods was not taught this lesson. Few in our culture are shown this. Instead, we are conditioned to believe that a marriage needs to include monogamy and that we ought to be faithful to the one we love. Yet we see this same tape played repeatedly in every walk of life. Each day, divorce courts are filled with people who "strayed". The financial and emotional price paid is dear. Ultimately, this myth is exposed with individuals being hurt.
Sadly, when it comes to sex, we ignore another of culture's lessons: honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront and tell him or her what you are into. It alleviates many headaches in the future.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Tuesday, December 1, 2009
Another Icon Bites It
Did you notice how the power of sex reared its head again? I am always amazed how much sex costs. The latest is that Tiger Woods sexual activities put $100 million at risk. This is what endorsers pay him annually for his "wholesome" image.
What is really going to happen in this situation? It is simple. Just look at Kobe Bryant for all your answers. Tiger, in due time, will come out of this unscathed. His pursuit of eternal greatness will put him in the place he always occupied. We are a society that forgets.
Tiger's wife might leave and take him to the cleaners. That is his only challenge. While there might be a few sponsors who jump ship in the short term, they will eventually come around. The reason I say this is because as soon as Woods is competing for the title in a Major on Sunday, everyone wants their logo on his hat and shirt. This is worth millions to them (and him).
But why did this all go down? Did it have to happen this way? In our culture it does. Since we do not embrace the power of sex, we are apt to fall victim to it. Instead of keeping it in its proper light, we rather embrace the facade of monogamy. How did that work in this instance? Obviously, Woods, being a healthy, wealthy man, followed his natural instincts and hit up all he could. That is what men have done for centuries.
The fact is that icons will continue to succumb to the same pressures from here on. There is no secret to why it happens. Yet, culture tries to portray this in a way that makes it a moral issue. It is odd that nobody questions Woods eating habits. This is a natural desire he fulfills daily like everyone else. However, when it comes to sex, we are suppose to go against what is natural. Thus, the unnatural becomes common. Of course, it also is impossible to follow.
Sexual Motivation is all about embracing and utilizing this incredible power which resides within us. Tiger Woods showed his ability on and off the golf course. Unfortunately, in this society, there is a price to pay for that. Perhaps it is time to move out of the Victorian Age.
What is really going to happen in this situation? It is simple. Just look at Kobe Bryant for all your answers. Tiger, in due time, will come out of this unscathed. His pursuit of eternal greatness will put him in the place he always occupied. We are a society that forgets.
Tiger's wife might leave and take him to the cleaners. That is his only challenge. While there might be a few sponsors who jump ship in the short term, they will eventually come around. The reason I say this is because as soon as Woods is competing for the title in a Major on Sunday, everyone wants their logo on his hat and shirt. This is worth millions to them (and him).
But why did this all go down? Did it have to happen this way? In our culture it does. Since we do not embrace the power of sex, we are apt to fall victim to it. Instead of keeping it in its proper light, we rather embrace the facade of monogamy. How did that work in this instance? Obviously, Woods, being a healthy, wealthy man, followed his natural instincts and hit up all he could. That is what men have done for centuries.
The fact is that icons will continue to succumb to the same pressures from here on. There is no secret to why it happens. Yet, culture tries to portray this in a way that makes it a moral issue. It is odd that nobody questions Woods eating habits. This is a natural desire he fulfills daily like everyone else. However, when it comes to sex, we are suppose to go against what is natural. Thus, the unnatural becomes common. Of course, it also is impossible to follow.
Sexual Motivation is all about embracing and utilizing this incredible power which resides within us. Tiger Woods showed his ability on and off the golf course. Unfortunately, in this society, there is a price to pay for that. Perhaps it is time to move out of the Victorian Age.
