Sexual Motivation

Slut versus Stud?

2010-03-23T15:45:00.000-07:00

We all know how society creates a massive double standard when it comes to sex. This is something that goes back to the beginning of civilized cultures. In short, men are studs while women are sluts.

This is the mindset that most people are raised with. To them, there is a difference between the male sexual act versus the female. Naturally, this is insane since the men need to do it with someone. A woman needs to be present if a man is to engage in sexual behavior (omitting masturbation and homosexual relations).

I feel these beliefs are just another form of control. Women are suppose to be pure and virginal. Of course, maintaining this purity until after marriage is crucial. Again, if the same expectation, from societies perspective doesnt hold, is not present for a man, how is he to get laid if all women are pure. It makes no sense.

Porn Stars Vs. Hookers

Here is an interesting illustration of the insanity of society. Have you ever wondered why prostitution is illegal in most states but making porn videos is acceptable? What is the difference? Aren't porn stars trading sex for money? Isn't that exactly what prostitutes do? I challenge anyone to tell me the difference.

In my mind there is no difference. And yes, I understand that the holy rollers out there agree with me on this. Of course, they feel that both are immoral and should be outlawed (one already is). I, on the other hand, believe that it is nobody's business. If someone wants to sell his or her body, that is that individual's choice.

Motivation

What does any of this have to do with motivation or personal development. Well, my intention here is to point out the hypocrisy that society operates under. Societal conditioning is something that we all suffer from. Breaking free from its bonds is imperative if you are to live a successful life. Nobody ever mastered their life while living in chains placed by another. The sexual belief system is one of the ways the powerful seek to control the masses. They did it for generations.

I operate under the premise that society is selling a myth. What they promote as a path to happiness is not for most people. The average person is living in a manner that is far below his or her potential. Talents that could alter the world are left untapped because people buy into the ideas of others.

What separates me from the personal development experts is that I believe we should use all the desires that are within us. Most will agree that our sexual desires are the strongest that we have. Yet, society, in an effort to maintain decorum, overlooks this. We are expected to suppress these urges. This is ridiculous in my mind. I want to take whatever is within me and use it to my benefit. That is my ultimate goal.

In my book, Sexual Motivation, I spelled out how the sex desire usually is a means to one's destruction. Looking at men like Bill Clinton, Mark Sanford, and now, Tiger Woods, we see how they jeopardized careers and marriages. This tells me we are dealing with a powerful force. What is the potential if we used this force to our benefit instead of destruction? Do you think your life would change?

That is what Sexual Motivation is all about. It is a philosophy based upon the idea that society is way off base when it comes to its outlook on sex. Those who are successful decide to take matters into their own hands. They are the ones capable of breaking free from the herd mentality. The "Elite" choose to live life as they see fit. Succumbing to the desires of others is for fools. At the end of your life, you are the one who is responsible for the journey you traveled. Blaming others will not change anything.

So what is the difference between a slut and a stud? My answer is nothing. And, I applaud both people who are behaving in such a way because they choose to live like that. People are free to engage in their sexual desires as they see fit. I congratulate anyone who breaks away from the herd mentality. That is what Sexual Motivation is all about: FREEDOM.

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How Important Is Freedom?

2010-03-22T17:01:00.000-07:00

We are seeing a major political battle brewing in the United States right now. The United States Congress cleared the final hurdle of healthcare reform last night moving the bill to the President's desk for signature. Many believe this was a war waged over healthcare. It was not. Instead, what was at stake is the freedom of every individual in this country.

Basically there are two camps: one who believes that the government is the answer to everything and, the other, which feels that government is a destructive force in people's lives. As a proponent of freedom, you can guess which side of the equation I fall upon.

Republican vs. Democrat

This is not a question of Republican versus Democrat. That is simply how the political lines fell in this argument. The truth is that it really is the powers in Washington versus the rest of us. This healthcare mess is only the latest in a long line of decisions that eroded out rights. Does anyone remember how the Bush Administration used the 9-11 situation to violate our privacy rights? This was a Republican group that felt the need to try to garner power at the expense of our liberties.

As you can imagine, being a writer and promoter of sex based literature, that my viewpoints with the religious right differs greatly. I have no problem with this on either side. If they want to hold views that are in opposition of mine, live and let live is my outlook. However, the problem arises when they try to silence my voice. This is the erosion of my freedom.

Therefore, you need to look at the world around you and ask, how important is freedom in your life? I could care less which side of the health debate you fall upon. Also, what political party you routinely vote for is of no importance either. My focus is how crucial do you feel freedom is in all areas of your life? If you think it something that means little, it is best for you to move to another site. My entire philosophy is based upon the separation from the "herd mentality" and a moving towards a self-proclaimed life.

They Steal Your Beliefs

This actually is not a correct statement for most people. The sad truth is most never take the time to develop their own belief system. They allow those around them to influence what they believe. Evidence of this is the clout the media wields over people's opinions. People are too ignorant to create their own ideas. Instead, they blindly buy into the outlook that they are most exposed to. Watch MSNBC and that puke Olbermann will result in liberal views. Become a Hannity knucklehead and you will lean right. These two individuals make big money because they can influence how people think. That is what draws people back to the networks.

In my book Sexual Motivation, I explained how important it is for you to formulate you own belief system. I referred to the topic of sexuality because it is one of the most powerful desires we have as human beings. However, most people toss away this by adopting the beliefs of what is considered normal. Millions of people struggle to find their path simply because they fall outside the desired norm. Whether you are polyamorous, gay, asexual, or promiscuous, society is against you. They will do whatever is necessary to try to get you to fall in line. Dogma will hound your every turn if you are not careful. This is their power.

I developed a belief system that has freedom at the core. This means that I live my sex life as I see fit. There are many activities that I am into that go contrary to what the typical person beliefs is appropriate. My feeling is the hell with them. I am not trying to control their sex life; they need to stay out of mine.

Of course, this is something that is not only affecting my sexual decisions. The bottom line is I detest anything that infringes upon my freedom, or the freedom of others. I believe that I can live my life as I see fit as long as it doesnt impede anyone else. That is what being an adult is all about. I am entitled to live as a free person as are you. Of course, the powerful detest this outlook.

Another Erosion of Freedoms

Whatever your belief, I will tell you that yesterday's vote was another level of erosion of our freedoms. The government, in it's true form, put out numbers that grossly underestimate the cost of this program. We see it with Medicare, Medicare, and Social Security. Trillions of dollars are owed by the American people because of these programs. Wreckless spending over the last few decades by the elected class (in both parties) put each of us in a hole we never can get out of. And, the American people, in their infinite wisdom, sat by while it happened. Sensible people would have stormed the Capitol last night. But, all is quiet in the streets.

People value security. That is why the political class can get away with their games. They simply offer to make people's lives easier. Of course, this is a crock of shit. Look at life in any Section 8 housing project in any major city. Those people live in a war zone. But they have the security of knowing their housing is paid for.

The "Elite" take a different track. In Sexual Motivation, I am very explicit about the fact that most people cannot handle the ideas contained in that book. Most are too conditioned to behave in ways that follow the herd. They are weak and will always be that way. In the hierarchy of life, they are at the bottom. This is the place they will remain. They are the victims in life. An "Elite" person is never a victim. Anyone who takes this stance deserves everything that he or she gets. Why should anyone worry about stepping on you if you are going to sit back and allow it? Your decision means that is your lot in life.

Make A Choice

You have a choice to make. Each of us only have two doors to pass through. One is labeled "freedom". Passing through this one will offer you an opportunity to live. The other is labeled as "security". This road leads to lifelong bondage. These are the only two choices we really have. Anything else is an illusion.

I will tell you 95% of the people choose "security". It is a myth that they bought into. The truth is that security does not exist when one is dependent. The only true security is found when one opts for freedom. Only free people are secure. They are the ones who retain power over their lives.

For this reason, I detest seeing a decision like last night. The power of Washington grew exponentially. We just took a major step down a slope that we started up dating back to World War II. It is high time people started to decide to be free. If not, bondage is in their future. They fail to see the sign "Welcome to Alcatraz".

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Step On The Bottom

2010-03-18T18:34:00.000-07:00

It is a dog-eat-dog world out there. This is a simple fact. No matter how we try to cut it so that life seems comforted, the cold hard reality slaps us in the face. In short, you are the one you are going to have to depend upon.

We are seeing a great debate taking place within the United States about the role of government. Many are tossing the term "nanny state" around. Getting involved in this debate is not something I am going to do. However, it does illustrate how weak most people are.

The Lesson From Katrina

The press loves to toss around accusations about the failings of FEMA in the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina. Certainly, there are valid points that are raised. Without rehashing that train wreck, there is something more fundamental about the lesson from Katrina. The press likes to proclaim how people who depended upon the government were harmed because of FEMA's failures. Dependence upon the government cost these people.

However, there is another group who depended upon the government: the roughly 1,500 people who died. These are the poster children for what happens when one depends upon others. Their faith in the grand power of the government to save them ultimately cost them. The dogma spewed by politicians seeking power lead people down the path to death. They are dead today because they were broken and weak.

Does all this sound to cold for you? Well it should because the world is a cold harsh place. Anyone who buys into the polyanna dogma that offered is a fool waiting to be had. Reliance upon another cedes power over to them. It makes one weak and vulnerable. Those who do so willing are setting themselves up to be walked upon. Nature dictates that, not me.

Katrina was a powerful category 4 hurricane. At times while out in the Gulf, it hit category 5 status. This particular storm was the size of Texas spanning over 500 miles across. Unlike earthquakes which happen without much warning, a hurricane gives one plenty of time. These people knew it was coming.

And what did they do? They sat there while the ignorant leaders they elected failed to take action. Now, I must state that since I live in Florida, we have some idea what these forces of nature are all about. We understand that a category 1 is nothing more than a summer storm. Get your garbage cans in and don't worry about it. As for a category 4, there is only one solution: get the hell out of the way. Do whatever is necessary to get away from that thing. It will kill you if given a chance. Ask any Floridian about this and you will find the same answer.

Most did not die in New Orleans from Katrina. Why is that? Because some used their intelligence to realize that perhaps they ought to take care of themselves. Dependence upon another (whether person or institution) during a crisis is foolish. When your ass is on the line, take action. It is that simple. Dependence can kill you.

But The Poor

Many want to counter the notion I presented with the fact that many of these people were poor. They simple did not have the resources to protect themselves by getting out of town. This is a typical response for the proponent of weakness. There is always an excuse to justify their senseless catering to these type of people. The bottom line is these people should gone to any length to save themselves. If need be, steal a bus. Do whatever is necessary to save yourself.

The truth of the matter is these people were not conditioned to think this way. They had a dependent mindset. The poor in this country is weak. That is not true around the world. Many countries see their poverty stricken fight to live on a daily basis. Each day is a struggle to survive. Not here. Our social programs remove that dire consequence. Instead, we have 2nd and 3rd generation welfare recipients who lack the ability to excel in life. The poor are glorified slaves. Nothing more.

Society likes the dogma of equality. It is a myth but one that is sold as realistic by all the do-gooders. Of course, Katrina showed that nature knows the truth. There is no such thing as equality. Trying to "level the playing field" only creates mediocrity. Every culture throughout the ages has seen those who are strong excel. There are "Elite" in every nation. At the same time, there are also pawns who are used by the powerful. The question is "which one are you going to be".

Changing The Course

In my book Sexual Motivation, I write about the need to tap into that power that is within all of us to move ourselves from the present situation we currently reside. Along these lines, I make reference to the hierarchy that exists within society. If you are to alter you life, you need to do those things which will move you up the ladder. Applying your sexual desires to motivate yourself will lead you to success.

One of the first things you can do to change you position is to realize that most people will do nothing to better themselves. They are of the same mindset of those who died in Katrina. They are so ingrained in dependency that they cannot even save their own lives. Mediocrity is a step up for many people. They exist only to die. That is the story of their life. In between, they do little that makes an impact on anything. The years pass by with continued complaining and bitching about everyone else. Ultimately, their loss is their own making. But these people will never understand that.

The "Elite" view things in a much different light. They understand the mindset of most and take action to separate themselves from the pack. These people use the masses for their own ends. Success if not create in a vacuum. Along the way, you will need the assistance of others. Some do it willingly while others are unknowing pawns. They key is to tap into both to maximize your progress.

The bleeding hearts like to refer to the usury practices of business owners. They sling accusations about being greedy and taking advantage of people who work for them. However, this shows the ignorance of most people. Anyone who works for another does so willingly. He or she trades time for money. That is how it works. Put in 40 (or 80) hours and get a check. You are entitled to wages, not profits (I understand that some companies have profit sharing; that is a different subject). The business owner is the one who profits (or loses). When a business is highly successful, a business owner can make a substantial amount of money.

Many feel this owner has an obligation to share with those who work for him or her. That is untrue. The deal was that an employee would get a paycheck for his/her time. As long as that agreement is fulfilled, an owner has no other obligation. If an employee does not like that, he or she is free to seek work elsewhere. There are no slavery clauses in any employment contract. Anyone can up and quit without reason.

Many see unfairness in this system. What I see is a system that is natural. The people who agree to the employment terms deserve to get stepped upon. They are at the bottom of the food chain. Those who move up the hierarchy know that they are responsible for the choices they make. When one is willing to make the trade of time for money, that is a person who can be leveraged for personal gain. Trying to deny this fact is foolish.

Understand this concept if you want to alter your life. There are many who are around you who will never amount to anything. Now, I am not saying they are not nice people or that they dont have wonderful hearts. That is all probably true. However, the fact is that most of society falls at a place on the hierarchy where they allows others to leverage them for their benefit. Someone is already doing it. In fact, it is being done to you also. The difference is you are now aware of what is happening.

It is a dog-eat-dog world out there. Resist the temptation to buy into anything that tells you otherwise. Only the weak depend upon something outside of them for their success. You are here to forge your own path. Start moving your way up the hierarchy. If not, someone else will be stepping on you.

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Freedom Is Your Choosing

2010-03-17T14:06:00.000-07:00

Exercising freedom is your choice. Each day, we all are confronted with decisions. In fact, our day is nothing more than a series of choices that are strung together. What we decide in each of these situations determines the quality of our lives. Therefore, there is nobody to blame for the situations that we find ourselves in. Everything we experience in life is done so at our own choosing.

Of course, this sounds ridiculous to you. This is how you are trained. Blame is something that we excel at. It is far easier to point the finger at someone else and proclaim them responsible for our woes. Sadly, this is incorrect. No matter what the circumstances, we made a decisions somewhere along the line to put ourselves in that situation. Again, that means it is our fault for whatever we experience.

Bondage or Freedom

Most people have the choice whether they experience bondage or freedom. This is something that we choose to do. Once again, since we are the one who makes the decisions in our lives, we are the ones who ultimately select the outcome. If you do not like the results you created thus far, it is time to make different decisions. That is what personal development is all about.

Addicts know what it is like to live in bondage. Anyone who has battled drugs or alcohol (or any addiction for that matter), knows the internal pain associated with trying to quit. At some point in their lives, the substance took control. Thus, freedom of choice was removed. However, those who get clean and sober know that the power of choice is restored. The option of picking up a drink or a drug is up to the person. In short, a person in recovery has a daily choice of living in bondage or freedom. Which is chosen is up to the person.

People who are not addicts also have this same choice. Unfortunately, it is my observation that most opt for the bondage path. They will proclaim themselves free yet lead lives of infantile existence because of fear. Happiness is an illusion for most. Instead of thriving and squeezing all they can out of life, they live the "responsible" way which is code for allowing fear to rule.

It seems like the majority of people want a better life. They are not satisfied with one area or another. Nevertheless, few ever take the action to do something that will make a more than a marginal difference. Fear is the most common jailer and its hold is like a vice. While on one hand they want change, the fear associated with that change is to great. It serves to maintain the status quo. A life ruled by fear is one that will always result in bondage.

Sexual Motivation Is Your Choice

In my book Sexual Motivation, I make the case that sex is the best motivator that humans can tap into. Since I have not heard any of the self-improvement gurus mention this powerful desire, I can only surmise that I am going contrary to the norm by suggesting that each person use sex to motivate him or herself to the highest ends. It is something that is natural within all of us and can be structured so as to empower us. Of course, some de-programming of the societal conditioning is necessary.

Did you realize that what you think about sex is your choice? Few ever take the time to reveal this truth to themselves. In doing so, they blindly accept the premise that society promotes as the norm for sexuality. Did you ever hear that marriage is between a man and a woman? How about the concept that homosexuals are going to burn in hell? Or that sex is something that is meant to express love? All these ideas are commonplace and result in forming the belief system that we carry. However, left unchecked means that someone else is determining how we live.

I am called shallow by many of my critics. They feel there I over simplify what sex is. The idea that sex is something that can be used to motivate oneself (or another) to take action is revolutionary to them. Naturally, it is also immoral and perverted (that is reason enough to check the book out). In the end, their judgments mean nothing to me and I hope the same is true for you. I lead my life how I see fit. They can push their dogma and morays on someone else.

Choosing what you think about sex is one of the most freeing actions you can take. Society is going to control you through your sexual belief system if you allow it. This is something that has occurred for the last couple thousand years. Whenever anyone succumbs to the beliefs of another, they are selecting to live in bondage. People who opt for freedom question what their beliefs are. This is how one retains power.

Check out the ideas contained in Sexual Motivation. I am sure it will be a revolutionary shift for you. The dogma that is commonly promoted does not lead to freedom. The goal is always bondage. Choose to live freely. Question without fear. It is the only true pathway.

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Sexual Motivation: Money

2010-03-13T05:29:00.000-08:00

This post is going to be full of stereotypes. The reason why I believe stereotypes are good examples is because they do reflect reality to a certain degree. Of course, there are many who fit outside the stereotypical mindset. Nevertheless, for a large percentage of the population, a stereotype can be accurate. My intention here is to emphasize those that are appropriate for motivation.

There is an old saying: marry the first time for love and the second time for money. Have you ever pondered what this statement really means? To me, it shows the fallacy for many behind the connotation of making a lifelong commitment for love. Since the divorce rate is over 50%, many are finding that this single event can lead to financial ruin. Falling in love and run off with someone "to live happily ever after" is not the norm anymore. Hence, people take a different approach the second time around.

In my book Sexual Motivation, I explain some of the reasons for marriage throughout the ages. Many today would claim that a woman marrying just for money is nothing more than a golddigger. She is considered by society to be a slut, selling her body for money. The common viewpoint is she is nothing more than a whore. Even those who are not so judgmental will call her "shallow". This is what people are conditioned to believe.

Arranged Marriages

Most of history saw marriage used in a different way. Instead of leaving the choice to some starstruck lovers, families often arranged the marriages for their children. This was done in an effort to preserve the family lineage while gaining some political or economic assets. In short, people married for money whether it was to gain it or preserve it.

The odd fact about this is that the arranging of marriages was not done among the common folk. It was the royalty and upper echelon of society. The "Elite" were the ones interested in using marriage for gain. These were the ones who had a vested interest. Those who were middle to lower class were afforded the opportunity to pursue love; they had few assets to consider.

Were women under this system considered whores or sluts. Certainly not. The truth is that people have historically married for reasons other than love. Man's history is littered with times of uncertainty and peril. Often people sought out security as a means of stabilizing their lives. Marriage was a mechanism that offered a ways towards a more stable life.

The Western Culture witnessed something similar throughout its history. While not having arranged marriages, this vehicle was used by many as a path to stability. This is evident when you look at life before the equal rights movement. Women, in the early centuries of this country, were taught that their role was to become a mother and housewife. For this reason, they were not afforded the education and opportunities to pursue a career. Hence, their standard of living was dependent upon someone else. They had little input into their upward mobility.

Perhaps this is where the "golddigger" mentality came from. Women were forced to chase after some of the "Elite" if they had any chance of advancing up societies hierarchy. Of course, the families (and deserving candidates) felt the intrusion when someone "not worthy" tried to catch a well off beau. Instantly, the girl was discredited in an effort to get her to leave. Again, the hierarchy has to be preserved in their opinion.

How Things Do Not Change

The above instances seem archaic and backwater. But, are they really so out of date? Do we not see this behavior exemplified today through the Western Cultures? I cite the example of Donald Trump in my book. Do you think he would approve of one of his children marrying an unemployed steel worker? My belief is that would not go over so well. Obviously, he has higher aspirations for his children.

The hierarchy still exists. Those who are in the "Elite" class seek to keep those who are out. At the same time, those who are lower on the rung are seeking to move upwards. Marriage is still a quick way to get there. In fact, it is one of the fastest and proven methods to alter your social/economic class. While society puts labels people who choose this path, there are many still seeking it.

What does this mean for us looking to use this information to our advantage? Knowing that there is a multi-generational concept in operation allows us to develop a strategy that will attract what we need. However, it will require indulging in the stereotype which, as we see, has validity.

Golddiggers

In Sexual Motivation, I mention how sports car help to prove the stereotype of money for sex exists. Consider the reasoning why one buys a sports car. Does this person spend $60,000+ actually receive something that is twice as good as a $30,000 vehicle? Some might try to make the case that he or she does. For the true automotive enthusiast, this might be true. However, for the average person, I believe there is an ulterior motive.

Why does someone drop the big money on a Porsche? Obviously, this is done to show financial wherewithal. Those who buy this automobile are typically middle aged men who have lost a little on the physical end. Of course, cruising around in a vehicle such as this compensates for that loss. People buy Porsches to get laid. Many will claim otherwise but that is the stereotype which I think fits. You see a overweight, middle-aged, bald guy with a hot girl and tell me the Porsche had nothing to do with it. Of course it did. She is seeking financial stability.

Money is a wonderful motivator. One of the keys to success I mention in my book, is financial. Society rates those who achieve economic success highly. Since that is the case, one can use sexual motivation to attain this end. Self-motivation is what separates those who do from those who wish. Taking action is what makes the difference.

If you are a male, what is your motivation? Simply, you want to get the "golddigger". Now, before jumping off the deep end, I will say there is a difference between being motivated by this end and actually doing it. When you achieve the financial success you desire, who you choose to be with is up to you. You can seek out the girl who wants love, romance, and a deep connection while caring little about money. However, from a motivational standpoint, put yourself in a position to attract the hot girl who is simply looking for the easy ride. This is where we want to get ourselves to take action.

I am a firm believer that sex is one of the most powerful motivators that human have to access. We will do all kinds of crazy things for it. The time has come to start using this power for a productive end. The link between financial success (money) and sex is clear. If you want to get some of the "Elite" sexually, you need to be able to walk in those circles. Money is the mechanism that will attract them. Supermodels are drawn to the rich and powerful. Motivate yourself with the image of attracting one of these people. It is a basic fact that more money means having a wider array of people to have sex with. Use this idea to motivate yourself to the highest financial ends.

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Being True To Oneself

2010-03-10T15:07:00.000-08:00

Have you ever read the conflict that one who is gay goes through internally when trying to determine which sexual avenue to pursue? Here is an individual who has an internal yearning one way yet societal conditioning is pushing him or her another way. Many are confronted with similar experiences when deciding whether to pursue an alternative lifestyle.

Over the last few days, I have challenged each of you to determine how you would like your sexual life to be. Most have never undertaken this exercise. Instead, they fall prey to the conditioning that is placed upon them. Whatever is considered 'normal' is the avenue followed. This takes place in bedrooms all over the world every night.

Are you one of those people who craves something different? If you are, I highly suggest looking at this aspect of your life to take some proactive control. Since sex is so personal and highly charged, anyone who is able to exert control in that area assumes power over so many others. This is something that dogma has done for centuries. Breaking free of this is the first step to freedom.

Being True To Oneself

Determining what one wants in life is only part of the battle. Many seem to feel that the most difficult part of the process is in the choosing. This is not the case. What gets really hard is to remain true to that decision. It is only after making this choice that one truly understands the power behind the social conditioning. In addition, one begin to see all the ways that society attempts to sway a person.

The example of the homosexual epitomizes how influential society can be against any alternative lifestyle. A person who chooses to follow this path is ostracized and demonized by religious institutions. He or she is labeled as immoral while being told that hell is the foregone conclusion. Another factor is that homosexual intercourse is illegal in a number of states since sodomy is outlawed. Our gay friend is now risking imprisonment for his choices. At the same time, everywhere one turns there are images of the family unit since this is what the mainstream promotes. Obviously, this brings up another issue since gay marriage is currently banned. Therefore, the family unit is reserved only for those who fit a particular model.

In the face of all these pressures, it is easy to see why one would question his or her choice. Naturally, for many, since it is an issue of sexual orientation, homosexuality is something that one does not waver upon. However, the same cannot be said for polyamory, BDSM, or swinging. These are all lifestyle choices that people make without the biological incentive to be that way. They are also decisions that society will do everything it can to demean and belittle. This is where the questioning can enter into the picture.

Is it worth it? If one carefully thought out the decisions, I can attest that it certainly is. Remaining true to one's inner core is the most difficult part of this process. To thy own self be true. The desire to rescind one's decision can hit at odd times. Probably the most trying time is when one meets someone outside the lifestyle. This is commonly when one will begin to question they way he or she choose. Perhaps happiness is possible in the traditional is the overriding thought. Of course, a review of one's personal history might reveal the fallacy behind this mindset. Most chose an alternative lifestyle since the traditional was not working. Reverting back will only lead to more of the same.

Being true to oneself is the only path to success and happiness. We all have an internal calling that will make us happy. Life is not a 'one size fits all' deal. Each of us is responsible for finding our own way. What we uncover reveals what is true for us. Going contrary to this insight, while perhaps unpopular, is not the path we need to pursue. Let your internal barometer be your guide. It will not let you down.

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The Core: Sexual Freedom

2010-03-09T08:13:00.000-08:00

Do you crave being free? Is freedom something that you hold extremely dear? If so, I would suggest that you look at your sexual practices to determine how much freedom you really have. I say this because I am a believer that the sexual desire is one of the most powerful that we have as human beings. However, society has a way of conditioning us into behaving in ways that it deems appropriate.

Alternative lifestyles have always existed on the fringe. However, when enough people start to buy into the concepts, even if they aren't practitioners themselves, that way of life becomes more mainstream. A classic example of this is the gay struggle and how it has moved into societal acceptability. While not perfect, I would say that being gay lacks the stigma it had 40 years ago. It is a movement that garnered the attention of the masses and have attained mainstream acceptability.

The same is not true for many other lifestyle choices. We all know the attacks the Morons and other polygamous people endure. Their preference for multiple wives is disregarded by society as perverted and immoral. In fact, the secular belief has made it illegal to practice this way of life.

Nudists also face the same circumstances. Even though we enter into this world without a stitch of clothing on us, anyone about the age of toddler faces consequences if he or she chooses to get back to this natural state. The absurdity of the Gestapo idea has gone so far as to arrest people for being naked in their own homes. This is complete insanity. But, just another example of how freedom is removed by those who seek to control.

Make no mistake, the state exists for one purpose: to control. Every governmental mechanism, no matter what form it is, uses laws to prohibit behavior. It also wields it power to make the people behave in certain ways. This is true going back to the days of Caesar. Consider that the next time you hear that the government (and politicians) are here to help.

Sexual Control

Taking control of your sexual activities is one of the main methods that organizations place your under their power. Again, this is something that occurred over the last few thousand years. Sex, an act that is totally natural, is promoted as something that is dirty, perverted, and bad. Dogma and laws have followed this course forever.

Let me ask you: why, in the United States, is sodomy illegal in many states? By the same token, why is oral sex illegal in still other ones? What business is it of the government, or anyone else, what two adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom? The logical answer is that it is no one's business. But controlling the minds and actions of people is not a logical game. This particular mechanism is instilled to alter your behavior while you are in the privacy of your own home. If you will obey when alone, you certainly will fall in line when others are watching. This is their goal. Control the most private act and you control the mind. It is that simple.

Breaking free from the slavery mindset begins with questioning all that is given to you. My suggestion is to always start with sex since that is what the powerful always seem to go after. Whether it is the churches or the governments, there is always a force seeking to alter your sexual behavior. Look at all the lessons that you were taught regarding sex and you will see the truth behind this idea.

The Real Deal

The real truth is that freedom means that one can decide whatever he or she wishes. Shaping your sexual life is an important step onto the path of freedom. Resisting the temptation to buy into what society considers normal is something that requires a great deal of courage. Consider the plight of all those gay people who 'came out of the closest'. They endured horrific treatment as a result of their desire to be open and free with their sexual choices. This is just another example that freedom is never free.

My belief is that one can never be free as long as he or she is living a sexual lie. Now, I am not a proponent of the idea that living an alternative lifestyle is the only way to live. Nor do I feel that everyone is cut out for something different from the norm. For many, the life of one man and one woman living in monogamy is ideal . However, for the rest of us, this is fantasy. Personally, I could no more make a traditional relationship work than I could fly to the moon. Both activities require a certain skill set that is foreign to me. I am not cut out for either. Many that I encounter feel the same way.

Being true to oneself is extremely difficult. Making the choice to live your life as you see fit is something that most lack the courage to do. It is far easier to be a law abiding citizen while obeying the prevailing dogma that is preached each Sunday. Naturally, if this is something that you find happiness in, then by all means do it. However, if you adhered to what you were taught yet still find yourself lacking the peace and contentment that you should have, I would suggest seriously looking at the path your choose. Perhaps it is time to alter your journey.

I am a proponent of being proactive in your life. Too many, by default, are reactive. By questioning what your belief system is, you are beginning to take control of what occurs in your life. Your belief system determines how your mind processes the world around you. Changing the barometer of how things occur in your head changes your world. Happiness is a choice. However, I found it impossible to be happy when I was living in the bondage of the ideas of others. Fundamentally, until I consciously chose to breakaway, I was going to suffer. It is only after seriously looking at my sexual/romantic/intimate activities did I begin to understand how freedom was acquired. I urge you to do the same. Sexual freedom is the core to freedom in life. Begin today of getting out of the bondage.

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The Will To Win

2010-03-06T10:23:00.000-08:00

Are you willing to win at all costs?

This is a question that can have a couple of different meanings. In the positive, it is asking are you willing to persevere through whatever challenges faced to be successful. At the same time, one can read it to mean are you willing to engage in any behavior, even illegal/immoral, to win. Obviously, which is chosen depends upon the person who is deciding what to do.

I am not a proponent that all that is illegal is wrong. Nor do I subscribe to the ideas about morality since I believe this is a highly personal issue. Blindly following these two idea, legality and morality are falling prey to the two biggest controllers in our lives: government and religious institutions. Billions of people fall under their control without a second thought to what they are being taught.

Civil Disobedience

History is full of people who disobeyed the laws of the time. Some had such a profound impact on the culture that their names are recorded in the history books. Their desire for change might not have been on a grand scale, but that is exactly what happened. Ordinary people can do extraordinary things. Rosa Parks is just such a person.

We all know the story behind Rosa Parks disobedience. In short, she broke the law. Her refusal to yield her seat was illegal at that time. Also, in many eyes, it was also immoral for a black person to consider herself equal to a white person. In hindsight, we see how wrong the laws and morals were. Her disobedience set forth a movement which changed the culture in its' entirety. A cultural battles was waged over the next 15 years called 'The Civil Rights Movement'. Many proclaim that this simple act of defiance set the whole movement in motion.

What Are You Willing To Do?

After reflecting upon Parks' action, my question is 'what are you willing to do in your life'? What lengths are you willing to go to reach the pinnacle? Are you willing to shed those old ideas which are presently holding you captive? Overcoming fear and social conditioning are two primary steps to freedom.

In my book, Sexual Motivation, I wrote about the extreme pressure that society puts upon us with the way it conditions us. We are taught that we are to behave in a certain way. Rosa Parks was reared in a similar situation. At that time, the prevailing thought was that blacks were not equal to whites in any manner. This is what was ingrained in her head. Thus, it was common sense that a black person forfeit her seat for a white person. However, on that day, Parks had a different idea.

Are you willing to question what you were taught? This is an incredibly hard challenge if you choose to undertake it. Many do not realize the security we gain from our belief system. It is what keeps the world in order in our minds. Whenever we cast that aside and question what we believe, we are in jeopardy of putting ourselves in a place where we feel lost. Imagine the fear that goes along with considering that something you held as so true is a farce. Depending upon the belief, this can be shattering.

The Will To Win

How strong is this within you? Are you willing to go to any length to achieve the success you are seeking? Becoming part of the "Elite" is not an easy undertaking. In most cases, it requires the complete upheaval of your entire life. Everything from beliefs to habits to career choices to associates need to be explored. Having the internal strength to make some pretty challenging decisions is necessary for your advancement. The will to win means that you are not going to be stopped no matter what. For many, this is simply too much to bear.

The greatest enemy any of us has is our own minds. This single mechanism can stop a battleship. Some of the greatest ideas in history were cast aside because of thoughts the mind created. While it generated the idea to start, it also enacts the fear which caused the dismissal. Having the will to win means that we overcome this fear based decision-making and take action. Life is about moving forward as opposed to standing still. Those who succumb to fear get eaten up by it.

Every path has obstacles in the way. Tapping into a powerful will is what allows you to overcome these challenges while having breakthroughs. Truly, we are the only thing that can stop ourselves. External forces serve as a delay to our destinations. The only way they can stop us is if we choose it. As long as we desire to surmount whatever is in front of us, we will. That is where the will to win comes out.

Life is not meant to be easy. Growth is not something that comes easy. It is only by going through the difficult times that we are able to experience the remarkable advancement of our capabilities. Taking the easy path only makes us weaker. Follow this for a while and you will wake up one day a slave. The powerful always are working to make themselves stronger. If you are not part of the "Elite" then you need to be working twice as hard. This begins with the journey within.

Ultimately, you are responsible for the life that you lead. There is nothing in this world that can stop you if you are determined to change. Most people will wait until the pain of remaining the same is great enough before undertaking anything different. However, a new world opens up for those who proactively seek something different. Developing the will to attain all that is available will further set you apart from the mediocre. Trust me when I tell you that the "Elite" have the will to win. Do you?

If you don't, decide now that you are going to get it. Your life depends upon it.

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Clarity: A Key To Freedom

2010-03-05T12:58:00.000-08:00

Confusion is a wonderful jailer. Most people never get clear about what they truly want. Instead, they settle for whatever life throws their way. Sadly, this usually is not very good which causes them to complain. In the end, a lack of clarity won out.

It is impossible to move towards something unless you know exactly what that is. Goal setting experts will tell you that for something to be considered a real goal it must be measurable. This means that there is a time when you know whether you reached it or not. It is similar to driving across country (I know you all have heard this before). When you set out on a trip, the first thing you do is to plan on your destination. Doing this alleviates increases your chances since you know where you are going.

Sexual Clarity

I often tell people that the best place to start is with one's own sexual lifestyle. You would be amazed how few people proactively chose the sex life that they have. Instead, they allowed the forces around them dictate what is proper behavior and what is not. Come on. What is more personal than sex. Surely, this is one area that anyone has the complete freedom to choose? A quick look around society will tell you that the exact opposite is true.

Nowhere is control from the outside more evident than in the sexual arena. People are influenced by a variety of institutions, individuals, and dogma. Unfortunately, this occurs without any knowledge on the person's part. The conditioning that takes place happens over decades. It starts from the youngest of ages until we thoroughly adhere to the dogma. Each of us is subject to this so, unless one actively seeks to reprogram him or herself, the result is blind obedience.

Decide what you want out of your sex life. Spend time getting clear exactly what you want things to look like. Forget the preconceived notions that you have. Your programming will scream at many of the ideas that you might come up with. The dogma we were taught is powerful and you learned it well. Now is time to really consider what will make you happy.

Susceptible To Control

Confusion allows for someone else to assume control. Have you ever seen a movie where there is a traumatic scene where people are in jeopardy? Often, in these films, the person who is "in charge" freezes resulting in a lack of decision. He or she just doesn't know what to do. Fortunately, for all those involved, the films hero is there to step in and take control. The indecision and lack of certainty on the part of the leader opens the door for someone else.

Our minds are the same way. When we are uncertain about what we are going to do, we allow someone else to make the decisions. This can happen with another person who is there who actually makes the choice for us. Or, it might be a previous idea that was planted by someone else in the past. Nevertheless, the end result is we are not consciously choosing what we want. This is enabling us to be controlled in that moment. Once again, this shows how confusion is a wonderful jailer.

Breaking Free

The process of breaking free from bondage is to decide what you want. It is that simple. In my book Sexual Motivation, I mentioned that determining your sexual desires enables you to be firm in your decisions. To thy own self be true. Live your life for you and nobody else. This is where we find happiness.

So, do you want an open sexual relationship? Are you gay? Bisexual? Polyamorous? Polysexual? Do you like to masturbate but feel guilty about it? Is anal sex something that you want to try? Whatever the preference, determine that it is something for you. Do not allow the dogma of the past to affect you. Who cares what others think! If it makes you happy, then pursue it. This is what creates freedom.

With a little clarity you will start to see the power in this concept. Momentum is built the moment that you realize what you want. A lot of energy in life is wasted on activities that we do not care about nor do they net much effect. Removing this practice allows us to focus our attention that those tasks which will create a benefit to us. Freedom dictates this is what we go after. Resist the temptation to justify living any other way.

Get clear about what you want in life and you will be free to go after it.

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Success Key: Personal Responsibility

2010-03-04T11:32:00.000-08:00

This is a major difference between the Elite and the average person. The majority of people have things happen to them while the successful make things happen. This causes the masses to play the blame game whereas the top of the hierarchy is taking action.

Success is a mental game. Sexual Motivation deals a great deal with the mental aspect of life. We are all conditioned by those around us. Our minds are like sponges absorbing all that people have to offer us. In the end, our entire belief system was created by other people. Few ever take the time to proactively choose what they think. Instead, we defend the ideas that are in our heads regardless of how they got there. This is insanity at its' best but something that most people engage upon daily.

In changing our lives, it is crucial to stop being held captive by those who raised us. As adults, we are free to think whatever we so choose. This is where the onset of freedom comes from. However, one can never be completely free until he or she assumes responsibility for all that happens in one's life. This is a major undertaking but one that makes all the difference.

Personal responsibility is only for those interest in joining the Elite. By adopting this outlook, one eliminates the ability to blame. Acceptance that you are responsible for all that happens in your life is the basic premise. This is the mindset that will separate you from everyone else.

Of course, we need to begin our acceptance when we reach the age of adulthood. There are things that happened as children where we were innocent and defenseless. Children are often victims. This I am not going to deny. However, as an adult you are free to choose how you process the past. Some are still hindered by it while others motivate themselves. The choice is up to you.

Each day we are making decisions. This is a part of the human existence. At the same time, everything that happens to us was a result of a previous decision. This is a concept that is crucial to grasp. People who take responsibility for themselves know that they decided to experience everything that happened to them. Any situation can be traced back to a decision that you made. Responsibility mandates that you follow this path backwards.

Those who disagree with this statement simply haven't chose to apply this concept. For example, one would say that he didn't choose to have his wife run off with the neighbor. Well, let me ask, 'who chose the wife and the neighborhood to live in'? Obviously, this man had some say in at least one of these events. If he had not married her, would his wife had run off with the neighbor? Obviously not since he would not have had a wife (or at least that one). You see, personal responsibility means that my choices led me to where I am today.

We can see this apply to any facet of our lives. Take a look at your career. Who was the one who chose that field? The answer is you did. People often complain about their bosses. As you can guess, I ask 'who keeps showing up each day'? Anything that takes place in your life is a natural process of a decision you made at some point in time.

This mindset removes the ability to play the victim. Here we have a pastime that is more popular than baseball and football put together. Almost everyone wants to be the victim. That is why most dwell at the lower levels of the hierarchy. Playing the victim has the payoff of sympathy. However, this is a commodity that is worthless in the success game. Being a victim is opting for helplessness. The Elite know that it is power that causes one to excel. They are victors as opposed to victims.

Whatever is in your life at this moment which causes you misery is a there because somewhere along the line you chose it. This is an idea that most fail to grasp. Nevertheless, as one who is working your way up the hierarchical ladder of success, it is crucial that you implement this into your life immediately. Victims never win. The only way for you to regain the power you gave away is to start taking responsibility for your life. Whomever you are blaming at a given moment has power over you. Resist this temptation and stop seeking sympathy. The only way to excel is to exert the power that resides within you. This means taking personal responsibility for your life.

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Freedom in Life

2010-03-03T11:36:00.000-08:00

This is something that many talk about but few really pay attention to. Society has a way of imprisoning us. Many claim to be free but the reality is they live in total bondage. Nothing about their lives is their own. Their entire existence is spend fulfilling the desires of others.

Society teaches us to be selfless. I say that to be free we must instead be "selfish". Now, before anyone goes off the deep-end, I am not referring to being a completely self-absorbed ass. Instead, what I mean by selfish is a self-interest in one's own life. Too often we are taught to sacrifice ourselves for the sake of others. This is not how freedom is acquired.

For whatever reason, freedom is something that a person has always had to fight for. History reveals the struggle man embarked upon in battling foes who wished to hold him captive. The same concept is equally present today. There are forces in each of our lives that seek to control us. This comes from almost every person we encounter.

If you question this, take a look at your day. How much of it is spend on activities that you choose? Most find that only a small portion of their time is spent engaging in behaviors that are of their own free choice. For example, our work hours are dictated by other people whether it be a boss or a customer/client. After hours can be occupied by family responsibilities with children and spouses taking the lead. Finally, we know how institutions such as governments and other dogma promoting entities try to control what we think and do. In the end, freedom is only an illusion.

Obviously, if everyone assumed total freedom in their lives, society would be afflicted with anarchy. Total freedom is also something that is not readily possible. However, this is not much of a concern since most of the populous is adept at falling into line with the prevailing mentality of the day. This is where you are able to separate yourself from them.

Freedom in life starts in the mind. Making a conscious choice to look at all of your beliefs helps to move one in a direction away from control. This "rebellion" unearths how enslaved one truly can become. Adhering to the wishes of others all the time is nothing more than turning your life over to that person. People do this every day of the year.

I tell people to first determine what they want sexually. So many try to fit into society by maintaining the proper sexual relationship. We are all taught that we are to meet the right person, get married, and start a family. And this is exactly what most people do. However, we are seeing more than half these arrangements ceasing because this is not the path to happiness. The dogma of old might not apply to your life.

Therefore, look at your sexual desires. This is the key to your freedom. Do you desire something different? Are you gay or bisexual and afraid to explore that part of yourself? Do you desire a BDSM type relationship? Is the single path better suited for you? Or are you poly and seeking multiple relations at the same time? All of these choices are valid and available to you. However, they will be nothing more than fantasy as long as you are unwilling to look at your beliefs. These are the things that will enslave you. Breaking free of binding ideas is one of the major steps towards liberation. Consider taking that step now.

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Sex To Control

2010-03-02T17:42:00.000-08:00

Do you realize how powerful an organization or institution must be to control your sexual behavior? This is something that occurred throughout the ages with little sign of stopping. We can look at many different eras such as the Victorian Age if we want to realize the lengths some entities will go to exercise this power. In fact, the history of the church is riddled with this outlook.

We all know sex is natural. At the same time, we also know that almost everything sexual that we can imagine was tried somewhere before. Many of the things that are taboo were once considered acceptable practice. Certainly we see differences among parts of the world today. Some cultures will practice polygamy, as an example, while other promote monogamy.

So what does this all mean? In my mind, and as I explained throughout my book Sexual Motivation, sexual freedom is something that you really need to strive for. Dogma is established to take this away from you. The overriding values of the day are meant to persuade you to behave accordingly. However, adherence to popular dogma only creates mediocrity. If you want to be Elite, you must free yourself from this mindset.

Realizing that organizations use sex as a means of control is the first step in breaking free from their bondage. This is true regardless of who is promoting the dogma. Anyone who pushes for control of your sexual state is looking to control you. Sex is just the vehicle they utilize. Again, if they can control your sexual behavior, they can control your entire life.

Sexual Motivation is all about breaking the chains of bondage so that you can use your natural desires for success. Part of the process is to understand how imprisoned you are by the ideas of others. Ask yourself where your beliefs about sex came from? If you are honest about it, you will have no idea. They were ingrained in your over a period of years. Again, we see the overriding belief presented as "normal". Anything outside that is consider perverted.

My philosophy entails getting honest with ourselves. Sex is something that can be used for tremendous good in our lives. Yet, because of the intense sexual repression most of us grow up with, sex ends up destroying more than it creates. Some of the most powerful men in the world were taken down by this single desire. Admitting that sex is a powerful force in driving us can turn it to our advantage. My belief is if it will drive me, I might as well benefit from it.

History proves that sex can be controlled if people allow it. Starting today, take control of your life by making your own sexual decisions. Do not allow the mindset of others to infiltrate your mind. Be a conscious chooser of how you live your life. Begin the process by looking in the bedroom. This is your first step to freedom.

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Physical Vitality

2010-02-28T04:37:00.000-08:00

The benefits of physical fitness are well known. Over the last 50 years, the medical profession made great strides in the areas of preventative medicine, surgical techniques, and curing of diseases. Yet, studies are revealing that somewhere around half of the Western cultures are either fat or obese. And, this is a number that seems to be going higher each year.

It does not take a scientific researcher to know this is the trend. A simple walk around the local mall will reveal how fat people really are. In spite of overwhelming evidence, people are still putting themselves at risk of heart disease, cancer, and diabetes. Many of these are results of lifestyle choices. All told, they will shorten the life expectancy of one substantially.

Of course, the medical community tells us what to do to avoid this outcome. Without going into an in depth physical fitness program, the basic tenets of good health are exercise, proper diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables, sleep, and drink lots of water. These are basic components that most physical/health plans include.

That being said, have you noticed how few actually follow these guidelines. Look at the waistline of most people and you quickly see the answer. Therefore, I can only conclude that the possibility of death is a lousy motivator for people. Thus, we need to come up with something else.

In my book, Sexual Motivation, I delve into the 4 areas that one needs to focus upon for sexual advancement. One of the primary areas is the physical body. This is something that all of us can do something about. When people are obese, not only are they unhealthy, but also, rather unattractive. Most times they rank rather low on the hierarchy of sexual attractiveness.

This is easily solved by implementing the simple plan of good health. I found that as physical fitness increases, so does sex appeal. Thus, the desire is to continually move ourselves up the hierarchy of attractiveness. Concentrating on those activities that will make us sexually desirable to the opposite sex provides results across the spectrum. The key is to find the right motivator.

Sexual Motivation is based upon the belief that people are more likely to take action when there is a sexual payoff as opposed to anything else. Consider the above example: what is more likely to get one to work out, the likelihood of getting it on with a hot man or woman or living a few extra years (decades down the road)? Obviously, based upon the walk around the mall, the extended life motivator isnt working.

Society tells us to look deeper. It refuses to allow us to be "shallow". We are evolved to the point where we are tolerant of other people's shortcoming. Basing our conclusion simply on looks is something that is considered "barbaric". People are much more than their physical appearance. Only those who are superficial will stoop to such a level.

I say horse crap to that. Society allows people a free ride. We are no longer held accountable for our actions. Physical health and vitality is something that is in our control. It is attainable by anyone. Yet, we allow people to be "blubber butts" in fear of offending them. This is a practice that is killing people because we are afraid of telling the people the truth.

The bottom line is that most people would like to be in bed with someone who is physically attractive. If you don't' believe me, how come society sexually idolizes Jennifer Aniston instead of Rosanne Barr? The simple answer, Rosanne Barr is grotesquely fat. It might be shallow but it is true.

Consider what you physical appearance is like. This is something that is in your control. Forget about concentrating on all the health benefits of working out. Instead, focus on all the payoffs sexually you will receive when you have that "buff" body. I surmise this list will motivate a great deal more than the reasons the doctor gave you during your last checkup.

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2010-02-27T18:30:00.000-08:00

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Personal Values

2010-01-25T11:33:00.000-08:00

What is it that you value the most in life? This is a question that few take the time to think about. However, it is crucial if you are ever to attain any degree of success in life.

Values are the things that "make us tick". If you want to know why you do something, just look at your values. Whatever you value highest is what you will follow most of the time. This is true regardless of what it is.

For example, what if you were confronted with the situation of being called into the office on a Saturday. Do you go? The answer to this question depends upon what your highest value is. If you are one who values family above all else, you will obviously choose that. On the other hand, if you career is the primary value you hold, then your Saturday will be spent at the office.

Most go through life unaware of what they value. They fail to sit down and map out what it is that means the most to them. Instead, they hold onto objects as a symbol of what they are really after. This leads to dissatisfaction since objects rarely providing lasting satisfaction. Only the fulfillment of one's values lead to a complete and happy life.

For me, freedom is one of my highest values. I place it above all else. Knowing this has allowed me to structure aspects of my life with this in mind. There are many areas which reflect this priority. At the same time, there are certain things that are present in my life which go counter to this ideal. These are the areas that I am still working on. Improvement is a lifelong challenge and structuring my life is a full time premise. My goal is to move closer each day to the eventual outcome I seek.

Spend some time thinking about what you value the most in life. It is an exercise which will net extreme rewards.

Individualism

2010-01-24T17:57:00.000-08:00

Society has a way of trying to implement it's philosophies and morality upon people. This is the essence of collective thought. It also is the method which the powerful have controlled the masses for centuries. The greatest threat to the establishment is the individual thinker.

It is no secret that the Catholic Church has ruled the masses throughout the ages. Its dogma has permeated the minds of millions upon millions. Ultimately, using the fear of eternal damnation, the Church was (and still is) able to control every aspect of one's life. Even the privacy of the bedroom is penetrated by the mindset of the Church.

Individualism provides us with another outlook. Without going into all the details which could take pages, we learn the individuals are free to choose whatever they want. Your individual mind is the most important contraption on this planet. It is up to you to develop what you can out of it. This includes you entire belief system. Your responsibility it to create one that works for you.

My writings all present an outlook that does not subscribe to fear. I know the lunacy of buying into the age-established concept that is meant to control my mind and my life. Do you see it too? Dogma, no matter who is the provider, is a way to enslave. It is true whether it comes from the altar or the capitol. Structured thought is the way of the weak. Those who fall into it are bound to live as slaves. This is supported by bounds of examples throughout history.

Sexual motivation tells you to break free from the ridiculous dogma affecting the majority of society. The teachings that were presented to us remove the basic instinctual power that is present within all of us. Since we are conditioned to behave in a certain way, we suppress that which is our greatest ally: our personal sexual desires.

Men are taught that we must be respectful. Women love a man who can cry. These are the themes that are presented by the collective mindset. In other words, a man is not to be a man. The natural desire for sexual conquest needs to be suppressed. We are told that is not how mature, evolved human beings behave. I say bullcrap to that.

On the flip side, women are to be virtuous and virginal. They are also taught to suppress the natural desires in quest of being considered a "good girl". Society promotes this belief starting at a young age in an effort to indoctrinate and create obedience. Those who stray from the collective belief are called "slut" and "whore". Once again, we see control exerted over behavior.

The elite do not buy into these concepts. Those who excel understand what it means to be an individual. It bears a great deal of responsibility yet is the only true path to freedom. Utilizing all your desires for personal gain is what life is all about. Naturally, we are not talking about stepping on the rights of others. There is a proper ethical protocol that we are all to subscribe to. However, we are not to blindly obey the teachings of those who are intent on enslaving us with their collectivism.

The individual mind is the most powerful weapon on the planet. All great achievements originated in the mind of an individual. This is why societies have fought to stamp this out of people for so many centuries. Sexual motivation is imploring your to regain the power that exists within you naturally. Do not let the idea that you are going to be called a slut deter you from tapping into this miraculous power. Ultimately, it is still your life to live. All achievement, or lack thereof, is your responsibility.

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2010-01-16T11:59:00.001-08:00

What is the thing that You struggle with the most in being a Master?

The thing that I struggle most with being a Master is to be fair. This might sound strange, but the tendency to overlook when I am in the wrong is great. When someone submits and is completely obedient, it takes a lot for one to look at where he or she might have wronged a slave. This necessitates monitoring myself to look for errors in judgment.

A Master needs to be firm but fair. A slave is not one who is there to be abused. Fairness ensures that he or she is not abused but treated like a person.

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Standing On Your Own Two Feet

2010-01-16T07:13:00.000-08:00

Sexual motivation presumes that you are one of those people who wants to stand on your own two feet. I just got done reading "Atlas Shrugged" by Ayn Rand. In it, the producers all go on strike because they are tired of being taken advantage of by the "moochers" (politicians, professors, unions, and welfare seekers). They remove themselves from the abuse of society which leads to its' decay.

Naturally, I could go into a long political discussion about the present day events. I will spare you the details of that. However, it is important to note that there is a certain mindset which needs to be emphasized. People who are "elite" have the idea that they are the ones who make things happen. It is they who take the action that brings about results. When things do not transpire as planned, these are the ones who resist the temptation to blame others for what occurred. Instead, they survey the present situation in an effort to find a solution. We can only move from the point that we are at.

Are you one who wants to blame others for you plight? If you are, sexual motivation will not work for you. It is something that is beneficial to those who want to produce. Action is the key to getting results. Being responsible for your life starts in your mind. This is where personal power comes from.

Being sexually driven is something that most people can tap into. Nevertheless, there is no need to do that if the your main objective is to get home in time to watch reruns of some television program. There needs to be more.

John Galt, one of the main characters in Atlas Shrugged gives a speech where he shows the separation in the mindset of the two classes of people. Producers believe in the power of the mind. It is the ability of one's mind to create that separates us from the animal kingdom. What are you doing with yours?

Use your sexual motivation to create more in your life. There are unlimited opportunities in this world today. Even though things are difficult, there is wealth being created in all areas of life. While your financial life might not be spectacular, you can take action to create an improved body. Notice the key word, YOU. Sexual motivation taps into the power within you to get the results in your life.

Start the process by seeking to stand on your own two feet. Nobody else is to blame for how your life is. If there is something that you do not like, then begin to make the changes necessary to improve your circumstances.

Monogamy?

2009-12-06T05:14:00.000-08:00

The Tiger Woods episode exemplifies how our culture is focused on something that goes against natural norms. Let us start by asking "was anyone surprised that Tiger Woods was sleeping around". Many seemed to claim that it went against his image as a nice, clean-cut guy. My answer to that is "hogwash". He is a normal male with the access to women that most men can only dream about.

Here is the situation: Woods is rich, famous, good looking, well built, and the best in his field. What is the confusion concerning his sex patterns? Don't people realize that monogamy among celebrities is the exception not the rule. In fact, if you think about it, this is true for most of society.

Why do we subject ourselves to this mess? I, for one, do not see Tiger's conquests as any problem. Where I take offense to what he did is concerning the deceit with his wife. As an advocate for openness, I cannot support the lying that took place within his relationship. Of course, she might have had some sense going into this also. Monogamy is a methodology that has run its course. I believe mankind, as the rest of nature, was never designed to live in this manner.

In my opinion, what should have happened is that Woods go to his girlfriend (now his wife) and tell her of his interest in being married and starting a family. In addition, she should expect him to have other relations with women. However, when it comes to love (a subject for another day), he is hers. Sex is an entirely different manner. When he is on the road, there will be times when someone else garners his interest. That interest will be pursued periodically.

This openness would leave her with a choice: she could leave or move forward. Either way, everything would be out on the table. Those who are open about living a polygamous lifestyle never find themselves in the situation Woods did. The truth is that Tiger's sex habits didn't get him in trouble, rather, his concealing of those habits did. Being open would have averted a great deal of trouble.

Naturally, Woods was not taught this lesson. Few in our culture are shown this. Instead, we are conditioned to believe that a marriage needs to include monogamy and that we ought to be faithful to the one we love. Yet we see this same tape played repeatedly in every walk of life. Each day, divorce courts are filled with people who "strayed". The financial and emotional price paid is dear. Ultimately, this myth is exposed with individuals being hurt.

Sadly, when it comes to sex, we ignore another of culture's lessons: honesty is the best policy. Just be upfront and tell him or her what you are into. It alleviates many headaches in the future.

Another Icon Bites It

2009-12-01T14:26:00.000-08:00

Did you notice how the power of sex reared its head again? I am always amazed how much sex costs. The latest is that Tiger Woods sexual activities put $100 million at risk. This is what endorsers pay him annually for his "wholesome" image.

What is really going to happen in this situation? It is simple. Just look at Kobe Bryant for all your answers. Tiger, in due time, will come out of this unscathed. His pursuit of eternal greatness will put him in the place he always occupied. We are a society that forgets.

Tiger's wife might leave and take him to the cleaners. That is his only challenge. While there might be a few sponsors who jump ship in the short term, they will eventually come around. The reason I say this is because as soon as Woods is competing for the title in a Major on Sunday, everyone wants their logo on his hat and shirt. This is worth millions to them (and him).

But why did this all go down? Did it have to happen this way? In our culture it does. Since we do not embrace the power of sex, we are apt to fall victim to it. Instead of keeping it in its proper light, we rather embrace the facade of monogamy. How did that work in this instance? Obviously, Woods, being a healthy, wealthy man, followed his natural instincts and hit up all he could. That is what men have done for centuries.

The fact is that icons will continue to succumb to the same pressures from here on. There is no secret to why it happens. Yet, culture tries to portray this in a way that makes it a moral issue. It is odd that nobody questions Woods eating habits. This is a natural desire he fulfills daily like everyone else. However, when it comes to sex, we are suppose to go against what is natural. Thus, the unnatural becomes common. Of course, it also is impossible to follow.

Sexual Motivation is all about embracing and utilizing this incredible power which resides within us. Tiger Woods showed his ability on and off the golf course. Unfortunately, in this society, there is a price to pay for that. Perhaps it is time to move out of the Victorian Age.

Creating The Elite

2009-09-28T10:38:00.000-07:00

The main idea behind sexual motivation is to enable people to tap into the natural potential which resides within them. Most of us are capable of so much more. Yet, we buy into the concepts of a society which lead to mediocrity. It is sad to witness but this fact offers an opportunity for those willing to move ahead. People who learn how to take action are able to enjoy the success above everyone else.

Society preaches dependence. This is the main message we receive when we look at the basic ideas of the governments, charities, and religious institutions. Individual dreams and desires is being replaced with the idea of "the greater good". It is something that causes those with talent to "sacrifice" for the benefit of others. We are taught that we are compassionate, loving, and altruistic. This is not true. What we are is allowing ourselves to be robbed of all that we can create because of the inner abilities we have.

Sex is one of the most powerful forces on Earth. We see its power each time we witness what one is giving up for this elusive force. Nevertheless, we are taught to forgive the "transgressions" of these individuals. Instead of admitting they are following a natural desire, we are told these people are "fallible". Society preaches that there is something wrong with following our natural desires. It places conditions on our behavior by teaching us what is right and what is wrong.

Those who are able to see this outlook for what it is are able to overcome the conditioning. This is why I call it "creating the elite". Being elite is a category that is above the masses. People who are elite can do things that are out of reach for the masses. They have privileges because of their place in society.

Those who are able to practice sexual motivation attain the elite status. While the majority of people are following the tenets which breeds mediocrity, we tap into those desires which result in success. Everything in the world is available for conquest. This is an idea that goes back to the beginning of civilization. Following certain patterns of behavior creates success in any field, culture, or society. The only question is whether action is taken or not.

Sexual motivation is all about taking action. We believe this is the best way to get oneself to take those steps which ultimately lead to success. Tapping into one of the most powerful forces ever created will yield much greater results as opposed to hoping and praying for things to be different. Those who wish enjoy nothing more than pipedreams. Those who act enjoy all this planet has to offer.

The Weak

2009-09-20T06:56:00.000-07:00

Sexual motivation is not for everyone. There are many who simply are incapable of getting past the conditioning of society. The religions of the world place a horrible mental strain on people. This indoctrination starts at a very young age and continues into adulthood. By the time most are in their late teens, they are trained to follow the agenda set forth by society.

The majority of people are sheep. They exist only to be slaughtered. We see them on a daily basis. Much of our society revolves around the "helping" of these people. Everyone is viewed in terms of the collective whole as opposed to individually. This helps to protect the weak. We are told that conscientious people take care of the less fortunate. This is true. But why do we take care of the able-bodied? That is something to seriously consider.

Sex is a taboo subject in many cultures. We see throughout the ages how it was used as a mechanism to control. This idea is in full force today. Society carries the "Puritan" principles with it regarding this natural topic. People parlay that into behavior which is wrought with guilt and fear. Anything that is taboo holds an attraction yet must be engaged in secrecy. Fetishes, alternative lifestyles, and other non-mainstream ideas are rarely spoken about. People who engage in these behaviors are labeled in an effort to get them to conform.

People simply live with the "herd mentality". Even if they believe something different, they will go with the masses so as to "fit in". This is where the powerful are granted control. The fear of being ostracized is too great for most. They do not have the inner strength to stand on their own. This is true in most cultures throughout time.

Individualism is something that many cannot handle. Sexual motivation is all about the desires and motives of the individual. It necessitates the removing of old ideas and replacing them with more productive notions. Society strives for equality, something that doesn't exist in nature. This belief leads to mediocrity. Instead of raising up the bottom, it ultimately tears down the top.

Nature says the meek should be slaughtered. Some are designed as predators, others as prey. We see this in the animal kingdom. Man, even though he tries to deny, is part of that kingdom. Everything that applies in the animal world is equally applicable to man. Ignorance does not change the facts.

Our minds are the most powerful computers on the planet. Sadly, most have a defective database. They believe the "enslaving" concepts society promotes. Your sex life is your own. It is a powerful force that is given in nature to guide and motivate you. Man will do insane things for sex, most often to his own detriment. Some of the most powerful people in the world were taken down because of sexual forays. They were stuck in the mindset which forced them to be sneaky. Ultimately, the facts were exposed and their careers ended.

The weak buy into the notion that sex has to look a particular way. On the other hand, the strong believe that it is their choice to fulfill this desire however one wants (as long as it is not infringing upon the safety and choices of others). Using the sexual desire to better yourself is one of the smartest things a person can do. Nature created this strong desire within us; utilize it for your benefit.

Most of these ideas entail you standing on your own. It breaks from the common thinking of the masses. However, the masses are mediocre at best. Leading a successful life means steering away from the blind faith others hold. Make your own choices. Sex is something that is natural and wonderful. It is also very powerful. Use it to your advantage. It will lead to your success. Remember, the rest of the world simply gives it away.

Abstinence-One Way To Motivate

2009-09-17T16:01:00.000-07:00

Here is something to consider: what if I had the power to determine whether you would ever have sex again or not? I know, that power already is being utilized by your wife. But seriously, what if you had to have my permission to have sex and I would only grant it based upon certain parameters being met? How do you think your life would change? I would bet it would see an noticeable jump upwards.

The reason why I say this is because I can hold one to a very high standard. The foundation of sexual motivation is to open ourselves up the ingrained power that is our sexual desire. This is something that is natural and, other than the desire for survival, the more powerful desire we have.

Envisioning yourself living life without sex will provide insight into the magical force this is. How do you feel about never having sex again? Abstinence, or the threat of, can be really motivating. I used this technique many times to get myself over periods of stagnation.

Many motivational experts will use the love of one's children to emphasize how one can always move things up to another level. They will ask a person if he or she could complete the action if the life of the children was at stake. Often, they will mention that if you do not do this, your children will die (graphic but effective). When confronted with this prospect, naturally most will say that they will find a way to get it accomplished.

This is the same idea. What we need to do is to stimulate the mind to get out of the way. If you believe you can do no more, then you are right. However, if we add certain stimuli, we often find a new belief is created. Suddenly, when faced with the prospect of lifelong abstinence, one finds the internal fortitude to succeed. Of course, this is something that was there all along, the mind just bought into the excuses that one offered up. Sexual motivation is how we break free from the consequences of those excuses.

One final thought on this idea: couples can really use this as a means of getting the other to step up. Decide on some things that need to be done. Use sex as a reward and abstinence as a punishment. Watch how quickly motivation changes when confronted with this situation. You will see productivity increase substantially.

Play around with this idea and see where it gets you.

Think Bigger

2009-09-13T06:27:00.001-07:00

Are you a victim of "small thinking"? This is the syndrome which stricken most to a life of mediocrity. The vast percentage of the population sabotages themselves by the thoughts they have. Few will enter the realm where they allow their dreams to roam freely. We become products of an average mindset.

If you want to be a huge success, it is vital that you enlarge your thinking. Those who achieve greatness have vivid dreams. For many, their imagination is their most valuable asset. They simply think on a level which is higher than most. Fortunately, this is something that is available to everyone who is willing to grasp it.

Sex is one of the most powerful motivators we have. One's sexual lifestyle tends to show the level of thinking that one has. Do you have an incredible sex life or are you one who settles for less than you want? This is an indication of where you are. If you are one who goes after those who are in "your range", then you are a victim of little thinking. Why can't you have the supermodel? Someone is getting that person. Why not you?

I will tell you why: because you most likely are not even in the game. People who think like everyone else live life on the sidelines. They do not venture out because of the risk of rejection. Their precious egos are too frail to handle it. They will walk the safe path in hopes that things might someday change. Of course we all know it will not.

Going after someone sexually who you "consider above you" is a wonderful way to step out of your old thinking. This is one area where you will instantly see tangible results. Of course, you need to be aware that the risk of rejection is still there. However, we are not concerned about what the outcome is (if he or she goes for it, great). The important part of all this is that you actually take the action to get out of your old behavior. Just approaching a person like this yields beneficial results.

This concept applies to all areas of your life. There is nothing that is limited other than what your mind creates. Living a mediocre life is a choice. The only reason you are where you are is because you chose it. Resist the temptation to blame all others around you. Take responsibility for your life. If you life is "too small", it is because you are a little thinker. Unleash the power of your dreams by enlarging the arena in your mind. Remember, mentally there are no limits.
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Giving Away Your Sex Life

2009-09-12T08:31:00.000-07:00

Who controls your sex life? Are you one of those people who believes that you do? Do you really believe that? If so, have you ever thought about your sexual beliefs? My hypothesis is that you have not. Few people ever consider what they believe. They simply accept those beliefs as truth.

My experience is that most people give their sex lives away. They do not forge their own sexual lifestyle. Instead, they allow the influences of others to hold power over them. In the end, it is others who are dictating what one does sexually.

If you feel this untrue, look at all those one will consider before having sex. How many people feel guilty about having sex outside of marriage? Obviously, they are allowing the influence of the religious zealot to affect how they feel about their sexual activities. Peers also have a way of directing who we will sleep with. Many people fall prey to worrying what their friends will think before going to bed with someone who is "less than desirable".

All these different groups hold power over the masses. Society uses sex as a method of maintaining the order it wants. Sex is the second most powerful desire next to the desire to live. Anyone who can control the sex desire controls the person. Religions, long the power base in historical societies, have done this for centuries. Sex outside of marriage is a sin, period. And, certain sex acts within the marriage are also sins.

If you buy into any of this stuff then you are giving away your sex life. Individual power does not come by doing that. This is one of the reasons why I believe that sex as a motivator is never used. People do not retain the power over their sex lives. It is something that they freely toss to another (person or institution) without a thought. If you are to live according to the ideals of sex as a motivator, you must take this power back.

Personal development begins with the inward search as to what makes you go. We all have natural inclinations that are present within us. Some are consistent with humanity while others are particular to certain people. Those who question the beliefs and ideals that are instilled by others are those who have a chance of breaking free. Freedom ultimately leads to success. Bondage or imprisonment (of the mind) always ends in failure. Giving away your sex life is a catastrophic failure.

It is best to recognize others for what they are. Everyone seeks to assume control. It is a basic tenet of humanity. This is true at the level of the individual, group, or society. A government wants to have control over the masses. Politicians continually seek to gain more power. Religious entities promise eternal damnation without adherence to their beliefs. Parents want the happiness of their children as long as it fits into the parameters they choose. Everywhere you turn, someone is going to influence how you think.

Start by regaining your sex life back. Sit down and decide what you want sexually. How can you exercise the natural power that is within you to make yourself happier and more successful? Where are you presently altering your behavior to satisfy the beliefs of another? These are all ideas which will help you to shape the sex life that you desire.

Carpe Diem

2009-08-30T09:30:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, I experienced something that retaught me how fragile things are. We take many things for granted. Over the course of time, our life situations become familiar to us. That familiarity leads to us being complacent with how things are. Regardless of what the circumstances, man can get accustomed to almost anything.

People will often focus on all the negative in their lives. They tend to complain about how awful things are going. Rarely do they concentrate on all the benefits they have or opportunities ahead of them. The mind likes to default to the misery.

Carpe Diem is the latin phrase meaning "seize the day". We all have only the 24 hours right now. We can choose to use it for positive purposes or negative. The choice is entirely up to us.

My experience yesterday taught me how fragile my life is. I was body surfacing in the ocean when a wave took me heels-over-head. As I was forced under, my face was planted on the ocean floor with the force of the way whipping my body over the top of me. This causes my neck to "snap" in a whiplash like fashion. Luckily, I turned out alright other than an extremely sore neck.

The point that I am making is that something like that could have caused paralysis. Walking is something that I take for granted on a daily basis. Rarely do I give a thought that I can do something which gives me incredible freedom. Ask anyone who is bound to a wheelchair about the loss of freedom they experienced. Walking is something that few are grateful for, at least until it is lost.

Sexual motivation is all about "seizing the day". The goal is to try and motivate ourselves to take the actions which move our lives to the next level. Using the power force of sex helps us to create the incentive to act. There is too much to lose by wasting time. Procrastination is just a slow form of death.

An experience like I went through makes me realize how fragile everything is. Too often I get caught up in the idea of rejection, thus allowing fear to win. I am reminded that life is short and I am here to make the best of it. Fearing the reactions of others is insane and useless.

How many times are you afraid to talk to someone because of what they will say? Do you allow the reactions of others to dictate your life? It is time to stop that. Motivating yourself to move forward is crucial. Freedom is at risk unless you adopt this outlook.

Remember, whatever is here today can be gone tomorrow. We just never know.

Actions Not Words

2009-08-11T12:46:00.000-07:00

We are judged based upon our actions. Words are meaningless unless we follow them up with action. This is the mistake that many make. It is easy to talk a "big game". However, backing those words up is a different matter altogether.

Sexual motivation is all about using the natural desires within us to move ourselves to action. The world is watching how we behave and all success depends upon our ability to act. Those who succumb to procrastination end up living a life that is wrought with disappointment.

Some of the best examples show this point emphatically. Let us use our physical body. Many can use losing weight. We are a nation of "lard asses" who need to get active. This is not a secret. In fact, most will tell you they need to lose weight. However, do they ever do anything about it? For the majority, the answer is "no".

Talking about losing weight will not bring about success. The same is true for business, money, or relationships. All the promises in the world are worthless without action. Success is a result of taking action in some form. All my writing is a result of me sitting down and doing it. Tax returns are filed because accountants fill them out. Building erected only after people get busy building them. At some point, everything needs to move from the planning stage.

The power of success is a great motivator to get people to act. Whenever you can picture yourself getting a sexual payoff, you are more likely to take some action. Overcoming fears that reside in our mind is often part of the process. Nevertheless, the payoff is worth it when sex is involved.

Another example which shows how important action is in the area of relationships. Many fall prey to the fear of rejection. When confronted with the prospect of asking someone out, often the mind will picture all the bad that can happen from that question. It instantly jumps to the rejection. Of course, it is impossible to get laid without asking someone out. Failure to do so will only lead to masturbation.

Consider these words as you go through your day. How much time are you spending doing as opposed to thinking. We need to understand how important taking action is. If we are continually procrastinating, then we will suffer the consequences for that. The world has a way of finding and rewarding those who take action. Make sure you are one of them.

The Opinions of Others

2009-08-10T15:58:00.000-07:00

Did you ever take the time to consider how much you value the opinions of others? Actually, to take it once step further, did you ever ponder how you allow the opinions of others to control your life? If you are like most, these thoughts never really cross your mind. Instead, you pass through life living according to the precepts of others.

Nowhere is this more evident than in the area of sex. I found that the sexual arena is where all human behavior is magnified. If you want to find out something about how humans act, look at their sexual practices. With regard to the opinions of others, we see that our sexual activities are often controlled those very opinions. People rarely form their own ideals in this area. Instead, they allow others to dictate all that transpires.

Remember the days of high school where you would go out with a certain girl (or guy) because you knew your friends would not approve? Of course. We all remember those days. Sadly, the truth that most of us do not have to think all the way back to high school to recall this behavior. I would guess the majority of people retain this same mindset into adulthood.

Sex is something that is highly personal and individual. We all are attracted to something different. What one person finds sexy, another might find revolting. However, most tend to fall into the trap of trying to fit into what is considered normal. Therefore, they will resist taking action which goes contrary to popular belief.

A prime example is the homosexual community. This is a group that was ostracized for decades by society. They were judged, condemned, and physically abused. Society called them all kinds of names in an effort to "convert" them to normalcy. Sadly, many fell prey to these pressures. The opinions of others (and the violence) forced them to abandon the sexual choice they wanted to make. This trend changed in the last few decades with homosexuality being accepted by a larger percentage of the population. Nevertheless, the same cannot be said for polygamists, transgenders, or swingers. These groups are still looked down upon.

People who know me understand that I am involved in all kinds of "defiant" sexual behavior. (I write that term in quotes to signify their judgment not mine) I am a swinger, nudist, and practitioner of BDSM. These are lifestyle choices which I consciously chose which puts me at odds with mainstream society. Nevertheless, this is how I want to live my life. I am not at the mercy of public opinion on this one.

This brings me back to my original questions. Consider your life and how often you succumb to the wishes of others. Do you attend family gatherings out of guilt? Are you worried about what others will think when you are confronted with a decision? Do you shy away from choices because you know they are against the norms of those you frequently interact with? This is a sign that you put too much emphasis on what others think. Your life is your own. It is up to you to determine what you do with your time here on this planet. At the end of the road, when you look back, there will be nobody to blame but yourself.

Stop putting stock into what others think. The sad truth is that most of the people you are trying to appease are unhappy in their own lives. Whenever anyone is focusing upon your life, they are not looking at their own. This distraction is what most people want since they lack the courage to face the truth about their lives. Hence, they spent their time criticizing others who decide to live a little differently. These are the people that most are putting stock in.

As you can see, the opinions of others should matter little to you. I chose to live my life according to standards that are acceptable to me. If someone else has an issue with my choice, then that is his or her problem. We are free to choose how we spend our time on this planet and this is a freedom I opt to exercise. Do you have the courage to do the same? If so, then stop worrying so much about what others think. Do not allow their misery to rule your life.

Oral Motivation

2009-08-09T15:39:00.000-07:00

As most readers know, I live an open sexual lifestyle. For this reason, I am freer to experiment with different ways to motivate myself. For those who live the same way, many of the suggestions I offer can be directly applied. However, the same holds true for those who are involved in monogamous relationships. Sexual motivation works regardless of who is delivering the sex.

It is a well known fact that any guy loves a good blowjob. By the same token, most women love to have their pussies eaten out. Oral provides us with some of the most fantastic orgasms we experience. I know many who would rather receive oral as opposed to getting laid. It is something that we find highly intoxicating.

Society deters the notion of offering sexual favors as rewards. People who do this are either doing something illegal (prostitutes) or morally incorrigible (sluts). The bottom line is that society likes to control all aspects of life and sex is the most powerful. Condition people in that area and you control all the rest.

Nevertheless, I take exception to this idea. I think that sex as a reward is a wonderful way to motivate a spouse. As mentioned, one of the best ways is to offer oral sex. It is a simple premise to do: tell your sexual partner if he or she does (blank), you will perform oral sex. If you are dealing with a guy, watch how fast he jumps to accomplish what you set down for him. A blowjob will motivate even the laziest guy to do the worst of tasks. Offer it and he will do (cumming comes later).

Many will claim this idea is sick and perverted. However, those who are willing to try it will quickly determine that motivation is nearby. If you find there is something that you were badgering one to get done, offer oral sex as a reward. In most instances the action will be completed by sunset. The motivation that was lacking for so long is instantly found. It only required pushing the right buttons.

Oral sex as a reward is a powerful way to get things done.

What Is Your Highest Value?

2009-08-02T17:19:00.000-07:00

This is a question that few seem to ever consider. Instead, they trot through life going blindly from one day to the next. Nothing ever changes because the truth is that everyday resembles every other. While there might be minor changes like holidays or vacations, the fact is that each week ends up like the previous.

Determining what you value is what adds juice to your life. The few who take the time to uncover this fact about themselves live a higher quality of life than those who do not. These are the people who are awakened. Their existence takes on an entirely new meaning. Instantly, they develop something called "passion".

What is your highest value? Have you ever considered this for even a second? Putting some effort into these answers might yield insight into ways to change your life. Instead of blindly moving from day-to-day, you have the opportunity to design a life program that is fun and exciting.

For me, freedom is the highest value that I have. I attempt to structure as much of my life around this quality as I can. When I look at the aspects of my life today compared to 5 years ago, the change is remarkable. Of course, there still is a great deal of work to be done. Over the next few years, I am seeking to take my life path to an even greater level.

One of the first areas that I started this transformation was sexually. I learned a number of years ago the power of sex. It was such a motivator in my life and the lives that I witnessed. I saw seemingly reasonable people do the craziest things for sex. They were willing to risk great things in an effort to get laid. This is when I determined that sex could be an incredible motivator.

Looking at my life, I realized that monogamy was not for me. It is something that I wrestled with for years. Since I made this decision, I designed my life around this very premise. By doing this, I enjoy the freedom to live sexually as I see fit. I am not bound by the chains of what society says. While others are conforming, I am creating. The value of freedom is at the core of it all.

Conforming certainly has its place in our lives. I do not advocate anarchy. However, I do promote taking control of your life based upon what you value. Creating ways to fulfill these values in different areas of your life is what the journey is all about. I highly suggest you ponder what it is that you value. After that, look at how that plays in your sexual relations. This will unearth the most powerful area where you can align yourself with your true nature. Historically, sex is used to take a man down. Now we are going to use it to propel us forward.

Success Key: Focus

2009-07-31T17:08:00.000-07:00

Did you know the ability to focus is one of the most basic needs for success? Many believe they have this capability yet further analysis quickly reveals they do not. We are in the age of instant messenging, cell phones, and Internet on the run. With all those things going on around us, it is easy to get distracted.

I once heard a quote on M*A*S*H that made a lot of sense. Winchester, the uptight Bostonian doctor, told the others that "he does one thing at a time, he does it well, then he moves on". This is a sound aspiration to have. The ability to focus our complete attention on one activity makes us much stronger.

Multi-tasking seems to be the mantra of the day. The problem with this idea is that the brain has the ability to only focus on one thing at a time (at the conscious level). Multi-tasking only serves to split our attention between two (or more) details. Simple division will lead you to understand that concentrating on two things at one time will make you 50% effective.

Actually, this idea is a bit misleading. As mentioned, the mind can only focus on one thing at a time. When you have two things going simultaneously, your attention truly switches back and forth between the two activities. Therefore, the mind is in 100% concentration yet it is constantly starting and stopping. This leads to ineffectiveness. The concept of momentum is another powerful tool for success and it is impossible to generate while switching in this manner.

To take your life to the next level, start to harness the power of the mind. Focusing on one thing at a time is how that is accomplished. This will take practice to develop the discipline. We are so trained to mentally be in many different areas at one time. For example, how many web browser do you have open at this moment? Obviously you can only view one page at a time. Nevertheless, most people have more than one tab open. Add to that the fact that the instant messenger is on and you can see how getting anything accomplished is tested.

The best way to start is to turn all that stuff of. Shut off the television, close the web browsers, and instant messenger to reduce distractions. Focus on only doing what is directly in front of you with complete attention. You will quickly notice how much more effective you are. Also, an added bonus is realized: you will get things done in a shorter period of time. The momentum developed by concentrating on one activity allows you to garner all the power of your mind. This is the foundation of success.

Getting Started

2009-07-29T13:34:00.000-07:00

This is one of the fundamentals of success. Nothing is ever accomplished if you never get started. The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step (or something like that). Thus, we are going to look at the concept of taking the first action.

Often, the first step is mental. This sounds contradictory to what is normally professed, especially when someone has difficulty taking action. Nevertheless, time spent in thought always pays off handsomely when it is directed in the proper area. In this instance, you are seeking what you want in life. What is it that makes you happiest? This is crucial to enabling ourselves to act.

Another part of the process is to envision what the payoff is. This is where sexual motivation comes into play. It is easier to move forward when we consider there is some sexual gratification at the end. For example, working out is something that many put off. We hem and haw about our physiques only to procrastinate when it comes time to act. There is always a reasonable excuse for not starting.

Now, consider this: what if you were able to have a weekend of sex with Brad Pitt or Jennifer Aniston (or substitute whoever you want in here)? What would your motivation level be then. Imagine all the "freaky" things the two of you could do together. You are limited here only by your imagination. If you are one who fantasized about either of them, you are already partly there. Now, just taking action for the next hour will enable all your sexual fantasies to come true. A single workout then total sexual gratification.

Do you think your level of motivation increased because of this mindset? If you are sexually inspired by either of those people, it will be. This concept need not be based in fact. We are entering the realm of the mind where all that it sees is real. If it sees sex as a result of a workout, that is the reality of the situation. Nothing is virtual in the mental state.

Thus, we get started. Taking the single action is so crucial. Once we have our mindset, it is important to take a small step to move us forward. In the above example, put your workout attire on. We all know it is easier to workout once we get to the gym. It is the leaving of the house that is difficult. The added motivation that comes from sexual payoffs help to make this transition easier. Oftentimes, the first step is the hardest.

Remember this little tidbit of information the next time you are confronted with some procrastination in your life. Everything can be accomplished if we will only begin to take action. However, nothing was ever achieved without action. Success is movement based.

To your success.

All People Are Not Equal

2009-07-28T07:10:00.000-07:00

The Founding Fathers of the United States believed that all men are created equal. This is a fundamental premise of our system of justice. This is a belief that I hold true also. All of us are created with the same inalienable rights. However, that is where the equality stops.

Not all "men" are equal. It is a simple fact that some people make a much bigger impact on society and those around them. The idea that all people contribute the same is insane to me. Therefore, I feel it is an honest approach to look at what one does with his or her life.

Look at examples such as Benjamin Franklin, Martin Luther King, or Mother Teresa. Compare them to the likes of the local drug addict, crack whore, or pimp. Does the life of a career criminal hold any merit when contrasted with the wonderful achievements of an inner city counselor, youth minister, or teacher? The answer is no. Some choose to do something with the opportunities they are given in life. Others elect to throw it all away.

Where do you stand on this scale? Most people fall between the two extremes. Few of us attain such remarkable achievements that we become a household name. At the same time, we tend to keep our screw ups to a minimum while not making a career out of bad choices. Overall, we do our best and contribute where we can.

The idea behind sexual motivation is to lift your life to the next level. Wherever you are at in this moment, your life can move another step higher. For most, the required ingredient is action. Using the inbred desire called sex allows us to motivate ourselves to take action. Thinking about the sexual payoff will stimulate this behavior more than any other thought process I know. After all, we all love sex.

Consider this idea when you look at the people you encounter on a daily basis. How could their life be better? What contributions are they failing to make because they will not take action? Reflect with this same mindset upon your life. Determine where you can better apply these ideas. It is time that you move your life to another level.

Creating Your Life-Start With Sex

2009-07-20T15:48:00.000-07:00

People are often wondering how they can change their lives. They spend thousands of dollars on products in an effort to find that magical nugget which will completely transform their lives. Sadly, for most, they never uncover it. Instead, they follow the same path of "quiet desperation" that was the theme their entire life.

My belief is that most people lead lives that someone else chose for them. Few people ever take the time to consider how they got where they are. Going one step further, almost nobody ever questions how their belief system arose. Instead, they simply take for granted that what they believe is correct. Well, how did those beliefs get there? The answer is someone else ingrained them in that person's head.

Societal conditioning is one of the most powerful external forces we will ever face. It comes at us from all sides. When you look at the development of a child, there are numerous influences upon him or her which leave lasting impressions. In short, the entire thought process is created by others. These people are parents, teachers, religious folks, politicians, and peers. Simply put, we are a product of our environment.

Why do people in Boston root for the Red Sox as opposed to the Yankees? Why do we believe in equal rights while those followers of Islam consider women second class citizens? The answer is that people are conditioned by others to believe what they do.

Society has a way of taking complete control of a person's life. Most people, in this country at least, end up married. Why is that? The reason is that is what is expected of people. An alternative choice is not readily offered. People who choose the "single" lifestyle are questioned whether they are gay or not. Hell, now even the gays are asking for marriage. It is societies magical elixir. It is what "normal" people do.

We are also taught to be responsible by getting a good education, going to work, and paying our bills. This is what good citizens do. Few are taught techniques which will promote financial freedom. Society wants us to take the conservative road because, as the recent economic crisis shows, wide-spread gambling by a culture can have catastrophic consequences. Nevertheless, most people follow these tenets precisely.

Even our sex lives are determined for us although few ever consider this reality. The majority of people are heterosexual. I believe this is something that is biological. However, there still exists a great prejudice against people who are homosexual although that stigma is diminishing. The same is true for transsexuals, polygamists, and people into S&M. They are called perverts and shunned. That there is something wrong with those people is the common belief. They do not fit into society's idea of "normal.

Even in the heterosexual arena sexual behavior is dictated by others. The conditioning applies to people in all walks of life. There is a belief which determines how people are to behave sexually. Even in the privacy of their own bedroom, they are still influenced by what is deemed appropriate by others.

I once had a relationship with a woman which became sexual. This woman was from a strict religious background meaning that our sexual encounters were a sin (according to her belief). Also, she has it in her mind that sex was only suppose to go to a point. In other words, she had a preconceived notion of what "good girls" did. Her idea limited her lack of willingness to stray into anything she considered deviant. This made for an extremely boring sex life. Of course, believing anything different then what she was taught was unfathomable to this person.

Here is where you can begin to take control of your life. If you truly want to create a life that is yours, start by creating the sex life you desire. Consider all the sexual possibilities that exist in the world. Do you want polygamy? Does swinging interest you? Are you bi? Is the wonderful world of BDSM of interest to you? These are all sexual practices engaged in by normal people everyday. If they are of interest to you, why aren't you pursuing them? The time has come for you to decide what you want.

Being sexually honest with yourself takes courage. Everywhere you turn in society, there is some faction telling you to go against what is true to you. Remember, stability is what society is after. That is why it conditions people the way that it does. If you have fallen victim to this mindset, start by questioning how you live your sex life. You will be amazed how much influence others have on your "private" act.

Sex Game To Motivate

2009-07-19T14:49:00.000-07:00

There is a very simple way to get yourself to take action: enlist someone to have sex with you if you complete it. For 95% of the people out there, the idea of getting laid as a reward will instantly stimulate action towards a desired end. There is nothing more powerful than the allure of sex. Couple this with the idea that sex is guaranteed if a task is completed and you have enough drive to move mountains.

I know what you are all thinking: how can I demean the most precious act between a couple. Get real. Do you really buy into that dribble? The truth is that most people, after a few months with the same partner, are interested in "getting off". While they may still have their partners interest at heart, they are concerned with their own. This is equally true for men as well as women.

Once again we see how society puts sex in an unrealistic position. Sex can be an expression of love. It is also a physical act culminating with a physical climax (if done right). We see how the attachment people have to sex changes things. Take a relationship for example: everything changes when you have sex with that other person. But does it need to be that way? In my opinion it does not.

The other area of resistance is the idea that providing sex to another as a reward will make one into a "prostitute". Again I say grow up. Spread you legs and let the boy have his way. Deep down we are all sexual beings. The idea of assisting someone you care about to reach his or her highest potential is beyond words. Why shouldn't you offer the most powerful motivator the Universe ever created? Obviously because of past stigmas.

Couples who play a sex game such as this find their relationship is deeper and more exciting. There is nothing wrong with offering sex as reward for a job well done. Hell, people need not be couples to utilize the technique. Friends can provide the same motivation to each other. In fact, that often is a greater motivator than when it is a spouse. We all love to have new experiences and nowhere is this truer than in the sexual arena.

My basic belief is that people put too much emphasis on sex. It is something that most people thoroughly enjoy. Therefore, it has the power to completely alter one's lot in life. When you find that you are falling behind on certain tasks, just find someone who will agree to have sex with you if you complete them. I can assure you that your productivity will increase immediately.

Passion Is The Key

2009-07-18T17:32:00.000-07:00

What usually separates the successful from the unsuccessful? One word: PASSION. Those who enjoy success are passionate about what they do. They are willing to put in the extra hours necessary to excel at their craft. Passion is what separates those who watch the minutes ticking by until they can leave from those who enjoy profitable days. Passion is what makes life exciting and enjoyable.

Passion starts with a mindset. Sexual motivation is successful because it is driven by something most people are passionate about: sex. Sex has the power to completely transform or destroy lives. Too often we see the later occur. The case of the South Carolina Governor is proof of that. If this desire has the ability to make him risk everything by traveling to a foreign land, don't you think it has the power to motivate you to take action in your life? I believe that it does.

My problem with those I meet in everyday life is that they are simply existing. Their lives are all spelled out for them. They are at a certain place Monday through Friday. At certain times of the year they are allowed to take vacation. Life is a constant struggle to make end meets. Sadly, they consistently spend their lives looking ahead. They never exist in the present moment.

Notice the lack of passion in that description. This is how most people feel. If you doubt my conclusion, simply take a look at those at your local mall. You will see the struggle on their faces. Any joy that is seen is on the children. The conditioning of life has not taken its toll on these beings. Nevertheless, you see it on most everyone over 30. They are at the point where the excitement is replaced with the tyranny of responsibilities. Life gets too hard for them.

What they lack is passion. This is true even in their relationships. Watch the interaction of most couples who are together more than 5 years. They simply act like roommates. There is no excitement or zest. They are not motivated by sex or anything else. Each day is just tolerated.

My idea is to change that. Life offers a lot more than simply an existence. While anyone is free to choose this route, I prefer to live on a higher plane. There is a zest that comes from accomplishment. For me, the desire to increase my sexual experiences motivates me to be productive. I can apply the sex based mindset to anything I need to accomplish. Challenges are easier to overcome when you have motivation. Sexual motivation is the most powerful force that I can think of.

This concept allows you to implement passion back into your life. It is the way to increase the likelihood for success. Everyone has to undertake activities that he or she dislikes. Nobody gets to do what they want all the time. There are always tasks which need our attention regardless of how distasteful they are. Approaching them with passion enables us to move beyond the mundane to what truly excites us.

Remember that passion is the key for all success. Long term achievement is only accomplished by loving what we are doing. Loving life is a wonderful beginning. This begins in the mind. Resolve today to believe that you are going to make this day spectacular. There is nothing that says you just have to tolerate it. Being passionate about life will transcend into all areas. Start the process right now.

The Ability To Go Against The Grain

2009-07-18T14:58:00.000-07:00

It takes a certain inner strength to be able to go against the grain. People want to do what is popular. Fitting in is something that is basic to most individuals. I presume it is inherent in us as humans. Only a select few in any generation were able to rebel against common thought. At some level, we all want to be considered "normal".

Unfortunately, normal in this generation is the path to mediocrity. Following the herd leads to another form of slavery. The recent financial crisis reveals how the "American Dream" can be smashed in a few short months. Now, there are millions of people who are dependent upon the decisions of others for their existence. The laid off only hope their unemployment compensation and/or welfare payments are granted. At the same time, many workers are hoping they are not the next one chosen to be let go. Their lives are all in the hands of others.

What was the cause of all this: debt. People lived above their means for way too long. We spend a great deal of effort trying to have all the things that impress others. Being normal meant going to school to get a "secure" job which paid well while allowing us to accumulate all those things which would make us happy. Those items were: a foreign automobile, an over sized house, exotic vacations, and designer clothing. This mindset gave the entire nation a huge debt load. When things collapsed, they brought almost everyone down with them.

Succeeding requires going against the grain. This takes courage. Those who walk a different path risk being alienated by those closest to him/her. Isolation is something that most people will do almost anything to avoid. Being an outcast is a sentence heavier than most can handle.

The entire concept of sex based motivation goes against many tenets of our culture. We like to portray ourselves as an "evolved" society. There are times we seem to evoke the Victorian principles of yesteryear. Everything that is wrong with society can be attributed to some form of moral decay. This is what we are taught. The idea of using something that is inherent within us is contrary to what "upstanding" people do. Entertaining the sexual side of ourselves is not normal; that is something the perverts do. By classifying our behavior, society exerts control over us. It is only by getting out from under this control that we can call ourselves free.

The recent events in this country show us where following the herd leads us. It is time for each of us to take the power over our lives. We lived under the myth of society for long enough. Success is something that is available to each individual. However, we first must decide what our definition of that is. Then, it takes us setting up a plan for achieving the results we desire. Finally, we take action to get to the point that we are destined. It is that simple. Yet, we must be the one to take these steps. Leaving it to others can have catastrophic results.

How Fear Controls Us

2009-07-17T08:09:00.000-07:00

Fear is a enemy that most people fight on a regular basis. However, it is so subtle that most do not know the power that it wields. Fear has the ability to completely destroy one's life without issuing a single challenge. It simply silently kills all life one day at a time.

The problem with humans is that we project. Our minds have the ability to create pictures in our head. These images are so real that we believe they are real. The mind cannot distinguish between reality and fantasy. If it sees the image, it takes it to be true.

At the same time, the mind also has the ability to protect us from peril. When it determines a situation to be dangerous, it will emit signals that foster our protection. The feeling of fear will be felt throughout the body thus increasing the releasing of chemicals to assist us. It is the basic fight or flight response.

Naturally, most of what we encounter does not require this life or death response. Nevertheless, the mind will do all it can to protect itself (us) from harm. Fear is the tool that is most valuable in this effort. The mind conjures up response to our images which it deems necessary for protection.

Sadly, the mind favors status quo. The unknown is something the mind abhors. When it does not know the outcome to a situation, the mind cannot let that exist. It will invent an outcome. Most often this image is a negative one. The majority of the population has the brain trained to seek the negative. It is the default mindset. Instead of projecting positively, the mind takes the opposite track. This allows it to increase the fear within the body and move to a situation that it knows.

Let us relate this to our favorite subject, sex. Specifically, what happens when a guy sees a woman that he is sexually interested in. Most often it goes something like this: something about her physically catches his attention. The next step is he has an argument in his head as to whether to approach her. One side says to go for it while the other argues against it. At this point, the projection mechanism kicks in. He starts to play in his mind what will happen if he goes up to her. Suddenly, the mind, disliking the uncertainty, focuses upon an image with a horrific outcome. If there were bad experiences in the past, it will draw upon them. His mind will "see" the most outrageous outcome ever experienced by a man. This circumstance passes fear and moves to stark terror. Naturally, any chance of approaching this sexy woman is long gone. The fear took complete control of the situation.

This is a basic example of how the mind uses fear to control us. It is one that most of us can identify with in one way or another. We all have felt the fear in our bodies when interacting with someone who we were attracted to. The fact that we have no idea what the outcome will be is what causes the mind to delve towards the "worst case scenario". Again, the mind abhors the unknown.

Creating better pictures in our head is the fundamental change that we all need to make. The fact that the fear we are listening to is not based in reality shows that we buy into something that is false. Fear is not real. There is no basis whatsoever to follow this insane mind concept. Yet we do. Applying sexual motivation to our lives is paramount to success. Turning the mental makeup from one of failure to success is crucial. The above situation is one that we return to over and over. Learn to alter you behavior by approaching someone of the opposite sex. We want the mind to begin to reference positive experiences with this behavior. In doing so, we will be able to draw upon this in all our other activities.

Components of Sexual Motivation

2009-07-15T19:18:00.000-07:00

The idea that we are motivated by sex is not a novel concept. Studies dating back to the late 1940s were undertaken in an effort to unmask the animal called human sexuality. Those in the scientific community have long wondered what is the fascination with sex. And, why does it have so much power over us.

Sex as a motivator is basically made up of two components. The first is physical. Obviously we have hormones which drives our sexuality. Each gender have chemical agents that foster the sexual desire. It is what allows us to engage in the act physically. In men it causes an erection while allowing women to get "wet". Without the hormones, sex would be impossible.

The second aspect is the psychological component. Man is a thinking animal. It is impossible for him/her to turn off the brain. It is always running. During the sexual act, we have ideas that are passing through our mind. We view the world through pictures in our head. The sensations felt throughout the body are only recognized once those signals are received by the brain. We are a neurological network of highway that is constantly transmitting data back and forth.

Man's preoccupation with sex resides in the mind. It is the psychological component that is most powerful. Often times people will experience a let down when actually having sex with a particular person. In these instances, the mind created such an illusion of what sensations would be felt that reality failed to live up to expectations. Our minds are what determined the level of satisfaction we experience.

How can we use this knowledge to our advantage? The fact that we "see" life through the pictures in our minds tell us that we have the ability to determine how we view things. If we do not like something, simply change the picture. This is simple enough. Reality is only what our minds tells us it is. When using sexual motivation as a mechanism to alter your life, it is practical to design vivid pictures of what you will enjoy. The psychological component is nothing more than a mental image in your head. See yourself getting with the sexy redhead down the hall if you win the contract. Picture yourself surrounded by sexy people adoring your buff body as a result of working out. These images serve as motivation to complete the action in front of you. And, life is a contact sport. Those who sit on the sidelines never win.

Uptight Society

2009-07-15T18:44:00.001-07:00

This evening, I watched a program detailing the porn industry. It was interesting to see how an "advanced" society such as ours is still in the dark ages when it comes to sex. To many, pornography is the basis for all that is wrong with society. They believe that every ill society faces is traced back to this vice.

My question is why is this such a large industry? Estimates have it pegged at roughly $13 billion a year in the United States alone. The answer to that question lies in the simple fact that it is inherent in our human nature. Man (the species, not the gender) is a sexual animal. We are one of the few who chooses sex freely. Most other mammals engage in sex simply as part of the mating process. We have the ability of when we do it and with whom. That is not something that can be overlooked.

It is intriguing to note how society tries to place a lid on our sexual practices. Talking about sex is inappropriate in most circles. There are laws banning it in public. Hell, even nudity in public is banned in most places. And we have the gall to believe that we have advanced since the Victorian Era? What a farce.

The simple fact is that anyone who embraces his or her sexual side is further advanced than many out there. Society, with all its different factions, is intent on having us deny this side of ourselves. Religions throughout the world profess the taboo of sex except within certain parameters. Failure to honor this accord will result in eternal damnation. Sex is a route straight to hell we are taught.

To me, this is absurd. However, I am so glad that the general populous thinks this way. It is far easier to get ahead of the pack when they are tied to the starting line. Going through life denying our sexual motives and desires is like showing up for a gun fight with a knife. You are extremely under armed. When I approach life situations, I understand how my sexual desires are motivating me. All that is around us is a result of sexual urges. Those who are at the top typically have the greatest sexual aura. A high sex drive is a common trait of successful people. It is part of being the "alpha" male.

Society is uptight. Grasping this concept will allow you to maneuver through it to your advantage. Sex is natural and the desire for more is inbred within us. People are motivated by these urges often with tragic results. Those who understand the philosophy I am promoting are able to use its power for gain instead of loss. You will soon comprehend that you are excelling while others are falling victim to this power. Harness it for you own benefit.

Saying Yes

2009-07-15T10:02:00.000-07:00

Here is a test that is quick and easy to do: go to a public place where there are lots of people (example: a mall) and see how often people say the word "no". It is astounding to realize there are so many who live their life with this as their predominant thought. In effect, they are depriving themselves of saying "yes" in their own lives. Happiness eludes them because of they fail to engage in life.

We are all taught to be responsible. At the same time, we are told to forge our own path in life. However, we are also taught that there are conditions attached the idea of creating your own life. Invaribly, we are shown that we must operate within certain parameters. Stray outside of them and we quickly learn there are consequences for our choices.

These are just some of the ideas which turns us away from saying "yes" to life opportunities. How many interracial marriages were forgone because of prejudices against a certain ethnic groups? Something closer to home, how many sexual encounters were passed upon because that person didn't meet your friends qualifications? We all fell prey to this one at some point in our lives. The point is that people who live according to others standards tend to create reasons for saying "no".

Sexually based motivation is an entirely different look at life. Under this concept, we choose to say "yes" to those things that make us happy. We know the power of sex as a motivator. Seeking to arrange our life around this ideal is something that all can do. Nevertheless, to do so we must be willing to say "yes" to the opportunities that are presented.

Standards are a double-edged sword. To improve your life, it is imperative that you raise your standards. At the same time, to increase the happiness in your life, lower your standards. This paradox here is that both can be accomplished at the same time. Two actions which seem polar opposites are both necessary for success and happiness.

It is best to hold ourselves to a higher level of accountability. That is what is meant by raising a standard. We seek to improve our life by taking more beneficial action. However, expanding our experiences is also crucial. This is where we lower our standards. We say "yes" to the opportunities presented.

Look at your own sexual history. How many times did you allow fear, ego, or arrogance to ruin a potentially wonderful experience? Were you afraid of being rejected which caused you to walk away? Was he/she not the perfect fit physically so you passed? All these actions are signs of ways that you talk yourself out of a "yes". Begin today by looking for ways to get involved by saying "yes".

Doing It Before You Know What You Are Doing

2009-07-06T12:43:00.000-07:00

I am surprised how people take a different approach towards sex then they do the other areas of their lives. When it comes to sex, whatever fears exist are easily thrust (pun intended) aside. Yet, we allow fear to stop us from taking action in almost all other areas of life. Why is this?

Consider the first time you had sex. When virgins, we are all nervous about the first sexual encounter. This is natural. We have all kinds of fears pertaining to our ability to perform, satisfy, and keep the other person happy. Our experience is limited to what others told us or, perhaps, we received some sexual education along the way. Of course, porn is a terrific teacher although not preparing us completely what we are in for.

The question I have is "why does most of the population have sex"? If we are all scared the first time we do it, how can we move forward while feeling this way? Don't people wait until they know how things are going to turn out before engaging in such an act? These questions are absurd. People get laid because somewhere along the line they decided to climb on board (pun intended). They overcame the fear and anxiety to perform.

Sex is done by everyone because they overcame fear and took action. Over time they acquired skills and ability to perform better. Nevertheless, the first step was taken. Contrast that with most other things in life. Rarely do people surmount the fear and anxiety. Instead of moving forward, they allow it to stop them. This is why procrastination is such a challenge for most individuals. They succumb to fear which deters the taking of action.

Can you see someone procrastinating when it comes to getting laid? In most instances, the answer is 'no'. However, people put off working out on a daily basis in spite of evidence which says they should not. The same is done with starting new businesses. Or switching jobs. Or going back to school. Or.... The list is endless. In the end, people use a multitude of excuses to remain exactly where they are. This is how they justify a less than stellar life.

Success is a result of "doing it before you know what you are doing". This holds true in every walk of life. It is impossible to have all the knowledge needed before entering something. Life offers only 'on the job training'. There is no course which prepares us for what occurs. Just like with sex, we need to jump in (hopefully no pun intended) and take action. Perhaps we make a mess of things (pun intended); that is where knowledge comes from. We act then we learn.

Apply the techniques you used for sexual pleasure in all other areas of your life. There will be times of uncertainty. You will wonder whether you measure up or not (pun intended). Get past that questionable thinking and consider what needs to be done. Take center aim and thrust forward (your guess). It is where the sweet smell of success if found. Try this and your life will be happier.

In 100 Years What Will It Matter?

2009-07-05T06:54:00.000-07:00

We have all heard this. Sadly, few of us ever subscribe to this philosophy. People get too caught up with the short term results in life. They never seem to get past the fact there are certain things that are inevitable in life. However, walk through the action and move on. It is that simple.

Sex as a motivator is helpful in allowing us to move past some of the fear we have residing within our heads. We tend to do a little better when we let the "little head override the big head". This goes contrary to what society teaches yet judging by the amount of unhappy people, who wants to listen to their methodology anyway? There is a lot more available to those who reach for it.

Rejection is a part of life. This is true whether we are referring to dating, sex, business, sales, or dealing with family. There will be times we are told "no". The reasons will vary but the end result is the same: we do not get what we want. It is reality so deal with it.

When we focus upon dating, who is the one who goes out on Friday night with the hot girl? Simply, the one who asks. It is the one who takes the risk who succeeds. Those who play it safe by avoiding the chance of rejection get to sit home alone watching an old movie. You have to get into the game to win.

The same is true in sales. Those who leave the office and make sales calls end up selling. Contrast this with the numbers of those who never leave the office. They avert the rejection while also avoiding success. The ones who put themselves out there prevail in the end.

Think back to the first girl who rejected you in school. For me it was a girl named Angel. I asked her out at a dance only to be shot down quicker than I knew what happened. It was as if "no" was pre-programmed. At the time it was devastating. Fortunately, I have since gotten over it (amazing what 30 years will do for a guy). Time does heal all wounds.

What would have happened if I allowed this past experience to stop me? There are many women I went out with after that because I asked them. I did not allow the fear to stop me. Sex is something that is gotten only after asking. You have to put yourself at a risk of being rejected.

In life, emotional wounds can heal quickly. It does not take 100 years. However, the point is to not get too caught up in how things are going to turn out. The results we achieve on a daily basis are usually inconsequential when viewed on the broader scale. When going through your day, go for it. What is the worst that will happen. Someone tells you "no". So what? In the long run it matters little.

Go for the sex. Go for the money. Go for the promotion. Go for it all. Whenever you take a chance, you have the opportunity to succeed. Each time you remain on the sidelines, you ensure you will remain in place. Success is available to those who go for it. Remember, in 100 years it won't matter. In fact, it will not matter in 100 days. So take a chance.

Motto For Sexually Based Life

2009-07-04T07:45:00.001-07:00

Sexual Conditioning

2009-07-04T06:34:00.000-07:00

My basic premise is that people are too uptight about sex. It is something that society teaches us is not to be talked about. Yet, it is an act that most everyone engages in and is crucial for the survival of the species. Nevertheless, those who decide to live a free sexual life are labeled as being perverted. It is as if there is an unwritten social norm for proper sexual behavior. Of course, we do not uncover what it is until we move outside what is considered proper.

This conditioning is what causes people to miss one of the most powerful forces known to man. We all know the lengths that certain people will go to for sex. Usually the consequences are dire since it involves infidelity or some other social precept that is broken. Yet if we can harness this power for good, we can see our lives instantly changed for the better.

We are all conditioned sexually. Society, through parent, religion, and the education system, creates our beliefs. This is done through repetition. We hear the same statement made over and over until it is drilled into our minds. It is part of our conscious.

Most who grew up in the Christian faith will remember hearing something about sex outside the bounds of marriage being a sin. This is a fundamental tenet of this discipline. Since this is the most common faith in the Western world in terms of numbers, the majority of society has this idea programmed somewhere in their DNA. Then, it is reinforced each time we see a politician caught in the bed of another other than his wife (I am sure women politicians cheat too but it seems only the men get caught). They are on camera apologizing for their bad choices.

The conditioning gets even better. Researchers have proven that males need to ejaculate for health reasons. It is a natural process of the human body. Yet, growing up in the previous faith mentioned, I heard that masturbation will cause blindness. Fortunately, as a long time and tested self lover, I am happy to share I have 20/20 vision. Blindness did not occur. Perhaps I was misled by those who weren't looking out for my own best interest.

Normalcy is what society seeks. Our culture is based upon the premise of marriage between one man and one woman. It is what is best for the ongoing survival. Married people with families provide stability. I believe this is why there is so much resistance to any other definition for marriage. The culture depends upon this institution for social order.

Homosexuality, poly, bdsm, and other acts are considered taboo. The churches call them sins. Many states call them illegal with laws forbidding them. Thus, we are left with the concept of what normal is. It is not written down, explained, or published. Instead, there is an implying of what is considered appropriate behavior.

The most absurd concept we are taught is with regards to nudity. We are shown that we are suppose to "cover up". The human body is shown to be taboo. Looking at naked women (or men) is perverted and pornographic. Public nudity is forbidden. Films that show tits and asses receive a rating that is appropriate only for "mature audiences". To me, this is absurd.

As a long time practicing nudist I can tell you that there are only two categories people fall into. A visit to the nude beach will reveal there are either cocks or pussies. This is the only distinction. Everyone out there has an ass and a chest with two nipple on them. The sizes will vary but the equipment is the same. Yet we are suppose to cover all this up like it is unnatural.

We are born naked and everyone gets naked on a daily basis. In talking with many people over the years, I have yet to find anyone who showers with their clothing on. Everyone gets naked to bathe. It is a natural act. However, society tells us to do this in private like there is something wrong with it.

As you can see, there are all kinds of messages about sex and sexuality we receive from those who are in charge of message promotion. The media, religions, and influential people like parents all model our behavior. Over the years, this is the conditioning that leads us to unhealthy sexual conclusions. Engaging in activity outsides the bounds of what is acceptable makes many people feel guilty. And guilt is one of the most powerful behavioral modifying techniques there is. The churches of the world have used it for centuries. It is effective.

To be truly free, we need to break free of the social conditioning as it pertains to sex. Doing so will allow us to access the incredible power behind this motivator. A life designed around the acquisition of sex will be more successful than one that is not. People will do more for sex then they will do for love, money, or recognition. In fact, often these are acquired as a means to more sex. Money and power = sex. It is as old as the hills.

Look at your sexual conditioning and ask if it makes sense to you. Did you choose the beliefs that you presently have? If not, consider each one to see if it applies to you or not. This will establish the basic foundation that will allow you to move your life to the next level. Take it today.

The Opinion of Others II

2009-07-02T15:47:00.000-07:00

This is a follow up to a post form the other day titled The Opinion of Others. It is suggested that you read it first.

The opinion of others carries a great weight with many people. It is one of the forces which prohibits the taking of action. Many allow what others will think to affect their decisions. Sadly, they allow the opinion of others, real or imagined, to dictate the quality of their lives.

Those who attain great success are able to banish out the thoughts of what others will think. It matters little to them. They operate from the premise "To thy own self be true". Often people are left standing on their own. It is then that one will uncover the resolve that resides within him or her. Some of the greatest successes occurred after others thought the person should quit. The Kentucky Fried Chicken story epitomizes how persistence has rewards.

That being said, there is a flip side to this discussion. There are ways to use the opinions of others to your benefit. Certainly we all know they will exist since nobody lives in a vacuum. Those closest to us have a way of expressing the thoughts they are having. It is best if we learn to use these tidbits of personal outlooks for motivation.

The example that best exemplifies this is exercise. Everyone knows that exercising makes one healthier which should improve the quality of one's life. Yet is this the reason that people do it. If you went to a gym and ask everyone in there why they were working out, I surmise health reasons would be low on the totem pole. The top answer would do with the fact that people want to look better.

Why do people want to look better? If you think about it, unless you are standing in front of a mirror all day, it is doubtful that you can see yourself and what you look like. This is not true for others. They can see you and see the differences in your physical demeanor. One who loses a far bit of weight receives immediate gratification whenever someone comments on how much better he or she looks. This is the payoff. The health results are an added bonus.

As you can see, the opinion of others can be positive on us if we use it for motivation. Whenever we are tired and want to blow off a workout, we need only think of the accolades awaiting us from those who are closest to us. This is where other's opinions can be helpful.

To take it one step further, what if the accolades came from the opposite sex? How much more impactful would this be? Everyone harbors the desire/fantasy to have the opposite sex swoon all over him or her. There is not a guy in the world who would not want to be treated like Brad Pitt. At the same time, most women want to have the attractiveness of Jennifer Aniston. The sexual appeal which eludes most of us is a tremendous motivator.

We all know sex sells. This is a truth in all walks of life. We live in cultures which base a great deal on physical attributes. People tend to do better when they have the physique society wants. Those who remember this are motivated by these external opinions for the betterment of themselves.

The other area that society puts emphasis is as it pertains to money. Money = success. This is the basis of judgment in the Western world. Those with money have power, prestige, and the trophy wife. It is that simple. Money is a tremendous motivator.

When it comes to money, does one want the actual currency or the numbers on a bank statement. Of course not. What is wanted is what the money can attain. Again, we go back to the power, prestige, and, most importantly, sex. It is the primary driver for so many of our decisions.

Money allows us to enter into an exclusive club. Have you ever noticed how a Kia is not considered a "chick magnet"? Why is that? Simple. They are easy to attain. Compare this to a Porsche which has a price tag 6-10 times the amount of the Kia. Only the most successful can drop this type of money on a car. This is what separates those people from the rest of us.

So how does this motivate one? Those who move into this income bracket have to work at a level that is not experienced by others. The successful work hard while building something that others cannot (or will not). Also, they take risks for higher rewards than the average person is willing to assume. While this might be a bit simplistic, the idea of being able to get most any person of the opposite sex is a primary driver. Often it is occurring without one's conscious knowledge.

The opinion of others can drive us to act. It has the ability to motivate us to create fantasitic outcomes which we would otherwise shy away from. The desire for sex is the greatest emotion when harnessed for good. Other will judge us in a way which will eventually lead to sex. Consider this in all that you do. Try to determine how you will benefit sexually from creating the life that you crave. Think of things which will make others envious. Envy is nothing more than an opinion which tells another person they want what you have. When you are at this point, you have used this outlook to your favor. Do what drives them crazy.

Use the opinion of others to your benefit. Be careful of what you focus upon since this technique is a double-edged sword. However, as you can see, it can be a force which propels you forward rapidly.

Mindset for Success

2009-07-02T05:48:00.000-07:00

Have you ever noticed how your expectations create the experience that you have? It is a proven fact that your mindset plays a crucial role in the success that you achieve. Like the old saying "whether you think you can or can't, you are right".

Everyone has fear, worry, and doubt. The difference is that the successful are able to cast aside these thoughts while taking action. At the same time, the unsuccessful allow these things to stop them. It is the primary reason why people succeed or fail.

Life is an action sport. However, it is the mind which typically dictates what action will be taken. Procrastination is a result of a thought process that prevents moving forward. The idea of "doing something later" is the default mindset for those who struggle with putting things off. It is the mindset which determines what is done.

Results are also a condition of the mind. Many disciplines profess the power of a positive mindset. Our lives are a reflection of what goes on in our heads. Those who believe they will succeed do.; those who do not, don't. If you have the mindset that an event will be boring and uninteresting, that is exactly what it will be. Our mind creates the outcome.

We see this play out repeatedly in the dating world. The guy who has the courage to ask a girl out while maintaining an attitude of confidence that she will agree (confidence, not arrogance), usually succeeds. The one who asks in a timid manner often experiences rejection. His mindset sabotaged the entire process.

The same situation plays out when it comes to sex. Those who approach the opposite sex in a manner which shows there is sexual interest and confidence will get laid. Sadly, many take the opposite track. They believe that women aren't interested in sex. They are sold on the idea that romance and emotional connection are what they want. This is true for many. However, there are a lot of women who are horny and want to get screwed. Those who understand this fact can move in an appropriate manner.

Success starts with knowing what outcome is desired. After that, it is crucial to have the mindset which says "I am going to achieve this outcome". Basic sales training teaches to enter a presentation expecting to get the sale. You have nothing to lose. Unfortunately, people are often conditioned to think the opposite way. They expect to fail and are surprised when things work out the way they want. This is a recipe for failure. Consistent success required a consistent success mindset. Begin by expecting only positive results today.

The Opinion Of Others

2009-07-01T06:09:00.000-07:00

Politicians are well aware that there will be a sector of the population that dislikes them. Regardless of how popular one is, roughly half the people will think that person is doing a bad job and want them out of office. Even in Presidential politics, this holds true. Every four years, the winner has more than 40 million people vote against him.

When looking at success, the opinions of others matters little. This is the mindset that most accomplished people have. Sadly, those who fail to attain what they are after tend to allow what others think influence them. They cede all control of their future over to others.

I realize there are many who dispute my belief that sex is the most powerful motivator and should be used to take each life to the greatest of level. These people feel that I am shallow, perverted, and senseless. They prefer to promote socially accepted ideas for motivation and success. Yet, these concepts seem to prove themselves unworthy since most people fail to improve their situation. Nevertheless, the accusations come.

The point is that I could care less what others think. It is very easy to be a critic. In this era, anyone with a blog and a keyboard can express their opinion. However, there are a lot more critics than are people who actually achieve. People prefer to rip another down instead of building themselves up. It seems like that is part of the human condition.

A prime example is how men are with women who are deemed "less than attractive" by societies standards. You will see someone pass on a girl because his friends would not approve. Well, who cares what they think. If she is someone you want, go for it. Be damned with the thoughts they have.

Do not let the opinions of others influence your decisions. In my next post, I will create a paradox by showing how you can use the opinions of others to motivate you. This will really hit home when I mention about how the opposite sex is a valuable tool in this concept.

Sex in Music

2009-06-30T18:11:00.000-07:00

My daughter and a couple of her friends came to visit me this weekend. She lives an hour away so that means a fair bit of car time both to and fro. Like most teenagers, they wanted to listen to the radio. Naturally, the idea of listening to my type of music was out of the question. Being a product of the 80s, I am still a fan of the hair bands. Yet, the choice in the car was R&B and Rap.

I fess up to attempting to stay up with certain types of music. However, I was amazed at the blatant references to sex in almost every song. There was a song which was titled "Birthday Sex". As you can imagine, the references were not disguised very well. While the innuendo existed in music 20 years ago, the sexual connotations today are apparent. And we wonder why kids grow up so quickly.

My point is that the record companies know that kids are the main buyers of music. The greatest percentage of cds sold are to those under 25. If they do not get the buyers by the time they are 25, they are probably lost forever. Naturally, responsibility begins to take over at that age and disposable income is limited. In short, music buyers are young.

The sexual messages delivered to our youth is conditioning them to be open to "sexual marketing". No longer is the beat or ability to sing the primary buying reason. The artist load their albums with sexually laced lyrics to entice those in their teen years to buy their product. Young minds are impressionable and marketers know this. When one becomes conditioned to a certain way things are done, then they fail to realize when they are moved further down the path.

This is just another example of how powerful sex is. The messages heard in lyrics help us to believe the importance of this end. Everything is about getting laid. Of course, this is coupled with a natural condition (the human condition) where the sexual desire is the most powerful emotion there is. When stimulated, it takes people to the highest of highs, and the lowest of lows. We see how it is a driving force in people's lives.

Do not underestimate the power that resides within you. There is a 500 horsepower engine under your hood waiting to be released. Sadly, most leave it in the garage since they are trained it is not appropriate to take it out in public. The Western culture provides a mixed sexual message. Madison Avenue pushes sex while the majority of society treats it like it is something to be shunned. The bottom line is that sex is a powerful motivation tool that will take your life to another level rather quickly. Some will say it is shallow. I say that it is effective. Use it.

Sex Ruling The Powerful

2009-06-29T06:10:00.000-07:00

Last week, the Governor of South Carolina, Marc Sanford, admitted to having an affair with a woman in Argentina. Instantly we heard the calls for his resignation. This is just another one of the long list of politicians who got involved in an illicit affair.

Perhaps the most famous affair in the last few decades was Bill Clinton-Monica Lewinsky. This made headlines with the resulting grand jury perjury charge ending with Clinton being impeached. Fortunately for him the Congress didnt press the trial to have him removed from office.

This shows the power of man's sex drive. The powerful show what they are willing to throw everything away to fulfill this desire. Careers are ruined and fortunes are lost. Nevertheless, society fails to acknowledge the power this emotion has over people. Instead we call them names to condone our own behavior.

The truth is that sex is a part of our lives and the desire for sex will push mankind to do all kinds of insane things. To try and turn off that emotion is futile and foolhardy. At the end of the day, we either embrace it or get run over by it. These men mentioned previously chose to get run over by it.

Deep down I believe that everyone wants sex. The only reason people are not more honest with themselves about this is because society has conditioned them to suppress it. Hedonists are not held in high regard. We are taught that civilized people "control" themselves.

Sadly, used properly sex is one of the greatest motivators ever. We saw how it can almost destroy the "most powerful man in the world" and his career. If it can do this, then it can also move the largest of mountains. It is all in how it is utilized.

I like to think of how all my actions affect my sex life. This seems odd at first. However, with a little practice, it is amazing how motivated one becomes. The desire for sex motivates me to take action even when I feel least like it. If I believe (it is the belief, reality is not important) that something will result in me having more sex, I will take that action. The trick is to see a sexual benefit in all that I need to do.

We will cover more on this in the future. Nevertheless, for now, understand the power that sex has over mankind and how it can be harnessed to create a sensational life.

Sex for money or money for sex?

2009-06-28T12:46:00.000-07:00

In most of the United States it is illegal to overtly trade sex for money. With the exception of certain parts of Nevada, prostitution is illegal. The act of providing sexual favors in exchange for currency will land you in jail. Nevertheless, the overt practice of this is forbidden; that is not to say there are not other methods employed.

It always struck me as odd that our culture outlaws prostitution while allows a porn actor or actress to get paid for having sex on film. Of course, up until the 1970s, there were laws which made this illegal too. Society advanced to the stage where it deemed this permissible. Nevertheless, it still feels that prostitution is an offense worthy of incarceration.

While sex for money is frowned upon, money for sex is something that is promoted. We see it plastered all over the movies and commercials. Success is always denoted with a beautiful woman or handsome man. The connotation is that having more of the resources (power) equates to having more of the opposite sex. Have you ever noticed the fantasies depicted in beer commercials? It is interesting that there is usually more than one beautiful woman there. Again, the idea is that more is better.

Sex is a powerful motivator. It is used to get us to buy a certain beer, automobile or house. Marketers know this and use it accordingly. If it can be used to separate us from our money can it also be used to help us acquire more money? Of course it can. Sex is the most powerful weapon against procrastination on the planet. Promise someone more sex and they will take the necessary action.

It is no secret that the affluent enjoy greater benefits sexually. Wealthy men tend to have sexy, younger women on their arms. Both seem equally happy. At the same time, we are starting to see older affluent women with younger men. What was once taboo in the culture is now acceptable.

Do you want to become more? Consider the difference in sexual partners available in the next tax bracket up. Stereotypically, the most unattractive are the "trailer trash" while the rich are the most attractive. While individuals vary this is generally true. If you are able to move up in wealth, do you think you stand a greater chance of attracting a better partner? Will you be able to fulfill your sexual fantasies? I surmise this possibility is enhanced when you have a Mercedes as opposed to a Kia. If you doubt the validity of this, take a look at our society. This lesson is everywhere.

Remember, sex is a powerful motivator. Use it to get off your duff and make something of yourself. All your dreams can come true if you will take the action necessary to get there. Do it now.

Sex As A Motivator

2009-06-28T06:55:00.000-07:00

Sex is one of the strongest emotions that people have. It makes men do things that are totally self defeating. There are hundreds of examples of powerful men throwing everything away for sex. It is something that has baffled researchers for decades.

Nevertheless, I am not here to figure out the primal urges of man. I simply accept that they exist and work with it. Since we know that the sex desire is so strong, let's use it for our advantage. It is time people start to readily accept this fact to push their life to greater heights.

When you think about it, most of what we do has a sexual thought behind it. Marketers know this well. The old saying "sex sells" holds true year after year. People are continually thinking about what the opposite sex will think. This is something that is conditioned within us even without our knowledge. Most times people are subconscious about it. Nevertheless, it is there.

Consider the concept of luxury automobiles. Why do people spend an amount equal to a decent house for a car? Who are the buyers of vehicles like Corvettes, Jaguar, and Porsche? If we analyze the statistics we understand that most of the buyers are male. And, they buy these cars because of the image it presents. In other words, is it a "chick magnet"? The marketers of these automobiles know this and use it to their advantage. That is why there is always a hot girl in the car ads.

The same holds true for women. Look at how they dress. Women will spend large sums of money making their appearance look top-notch. They are taught to do this to attract the right man. Even though society has changed, these generational ideas of yesteryear still persist. Women take great care to do their hair, make up and to wear the finest clothing. They also work out regularly to keep themselves fit. Basically, they want to maintain the sex appeal.

Our sex desire is powerful. Use it to get yourself motivated to take the action you are putting off. The easiest area to begin is with your body. This is what is judged first. Think of all the sex you will get if you lose the 50 extra pounds you are carrying. Make a game of it. Perhaps use this as a motivational tool with your partner (sexual not business). Offer sex as a reward for activities completed. You will be amazed how the motivation level skyrockets.